Do you feel lonely?Do people not care for each other? Are we horrible species?

[Never_give_up]

Now, I am not saying this in black or white terms, people definitely care for each other sometimes, but it seems to me that most of the time they don't.

People do horrible things to each other when they have something to gain. People don't care about inequality, injustice, priviledges, so many people fight to be the source of these problems as long as they are the ones that get the upper hand.

I start to feel lonely, like no one cares about anyone. People care about their families if they are lucky to have good families but all the other people , people don't care about them. People make alliances but doesn't mean they really care about those people. People do very moral acts when people are looking, but when they have the chance to do something horrible for some gain when no one is looking , many do that horrible thing. People love justifying  doing horrible actions to innocent good people, pretending that the innocent people did something bad. Some people that do horrible stuff don't even justify it, they just don't care, maybe even like it.

I feel like we are very bad species. I feel lonely, like it's a hostile dangerous world. 

How do you feel about all these? what are your thoughts on this matter? Do people care for each other most of the time? Do you feel lonely in a cruel world?

 

[LastThursday]

Most people are hung up on survival and that often means doing things in their own self interest, often to the detriment of others. The bottom line is that if your interests don't align with others then you will chose yourself over them, otherwise you don't survive. 

The thing is, most of the time your survial interests do align with others' because we're all just human and have the same needs. You have your family, community, country. But culturally we're being indoctrinated into individualism, where everything that must be done and are responsible for is ultimately pinned on you as an individual. Fundamentally this idealogy goes against our collective instincts as humans, because in reality we can't survive without other people, both on a social level, and on a material level: we feel lonely.

Edited 14 hours ago by LastThursday

[TheCloud]

I would argue that human cruelty, both to others and to themselves, comes from weakness that can be resolved with strength of inner consciousness.  The first enemy that every weak, cruel person has is themselves;  their outer cruelty and callousness is a direct reflection of a battle they are having inside against themselves.

Cruel people make the mistake of trying to resolve their weakness with inner cruelty.  They see that their inner self is weak, and instead of providing support, comfort, and aid, they instead viciously attack it with the misunderstanding that if they kill their weak self, only their strong self will remain.  If they happen to see that their weak inner self is bleeding out, they callously leave it alone with the hope that it'll die, or at least stay quiet and out of the way.

However, that's not how human psychology works.  Everything a person finds when they look inside themselves IS themselves.  Every inner agony is their own agony;  inner weakness cannot be resolved with violence and cruelty.  Strength comes from a unified self.  Weakness comes from a fragmented self-hating self-harming self.  The first and greatest ally a strong person has is themselves, both inside and out.

I don't know about what kind of people you know and have around you, but I can tell you one thing for sure;  the first and greatest cruelties that you are experiencing are self-perpetrated inside you.  You may be unable to do much about your surroundings (although you could probably do more than you imagine if you improved the quality of your inner resources), but inside there is no one but you who decides whether the inner violence stops or continues.

Edited 14 hours ago by TheCloud

[Tetrapeter]

The most cruel and egoistic people are mostly not loving themselves. How can you care about other people, when you have to manage your inner conflicts all day long? 

Coping strategies are endless for low selflove. For relatively "normal" people it often looks strange and farfetched. 

btw. Its not an excuse for anything. I too can hate and be angry. If somebody threatens my familily then this understanding flies out of the window.
But you can understand.