Have anyone been addicted to weed and managed to have a healthy relationship with it?

[paradiseengineering]

Hi! I have been smoking weed for 12 years and for me its the most addictive substance i´ve ever tried. I had to stop completely because moderation rarely worked for me. I wonder if anyone here have had an addiction to it and managed to develop a healthy relationship with it after a period of abstinence? If so, what worked for you? I know everyone is different. Im not sure if ill ever go back to it, Im just curious.

[Leo Gura]

Just replace it with DMT.

[Peo]

Well for me what worked was reading a book called Atomic habits by James Clear and applying his principles to break habits. 

I made a deal with my brother who also smokes a lot of weed. He would roll a joint for me, but I would have to go to his place to pick it up. Since I don’t have weed in my house and I would have to use his weed to smoke, it made me smoke less since I can’t bother going there everyday to pick it up. 

Also I never smoke in the middle of the day. I only smoked a few hours before going to bed, so I can wake up sober. 

Pro tip: don't have weed in your house, it is too easy to access and be tempted. 

Also if you can’t do moderation by yourself try getting an accountability partner, like the deal I made with my brother. If you have a partner, maybe you can ask her/he to hide the weed from you so they can control your weed use. 

[pursuitofspirit]

1 hour ago, paradiseengineering said:

Hi! I have been smoking weed for 12 years and for me its the most addictive substance i´ve ever tried. I had to stop completely because moderation rarely worked for me. I wonder if anyone here have had an addiction to it and managed to develop a healthy relationship with it after a period of abstinence? If so, what worked for you? I know everyone is different. Im not sure if ill ever go back to it, Im just curious.

I was never able to moderate so I quit completely. 6 months sober from weed and its one of the best decisions I've ever made. Way more stable energy / emotions. 

[Infinite Tsukuyomi]

1 hour ago, paradiseengineering said:

Hi! I have been smoking weed for 12 years and for me its the most addictive substance i´ve ever tried. I had to stop completely because moderation rarely worked for me. I wonder if anyone here have had an addiction to it and managed to develop a healthy relationship with it after a period of abstinence? If so, what worked for you? I know everyone is different. Im not sure if ill ever go back to it, Im just curious.

If you do 5-MeO even once then more than likely weed will behave similarly from that point forward. It does for me. Try that. Nothing like cosmic horror to get you put your weed down. Or maybe that'll make you want it more idk. 
I used to only do it at night, enjoy some creativity and be done. 

[Bogdan]

My period of addiction to it was about 10 years.

I am currently almost 8 months sober from it.

During these 10 years I tried quitting dozens, perhaps hundreds of times.

A few times I managed to go 3-4 months without it, and I had many, many attempts that lasted weeks and even more that lasted days.

What finally shifted my mindset was a combination of many things...

One of the most important pieces of advice for me was that if you've been a long term addict, do not delude yourself that you "beat" the addiction after only a few months. Not even after a year or two. Just accept that you'll gonna probably have to go quite a few years, and potentially for the rest of your life without it.

I realized that for me personally, sobriety has to become my single priority. Total focus. If that's not in place, then everything else is just fantasy.

There are also many other crucial mindset stuff like that that have helped and continue to help me go through the difficult, and also the stimulating parts of life, sober. I highly, highly recommend the channel Addiction Mindset for this.

But ultimately, what Leo keeps repeating to us rings true - when the pain is big enough, you'll change.

Last year this pain finally became way too much. Even though it was pretty bad for years before that!

It became so painful - couldn't believe how it's as if for years I was asleep to just how addicted I was. I was completely deluded, drowning in fantasies, beliefs etc.

It was shocking to realize that I'm living like a miserable, lazy, deluded, narcissistic, unconscious addict!

I started realizing that I'm in real danger of totally wasting my entire life.

And so after a few months of fiercely searching for the information/help that I specifically need, i finally gathered all the tools, that combined with a certain painful and scary experience, allowed me to step into this completely different era of my life.

Also it took 10 years of Actualized for me to finally see how I am being a textbook zen-devil, falling in every trap possible.

While fantasizing of becoming one of Leo's best students, I was IN TRUTH making a mockery of this work.

My last 5-10 years were spent half-assing meditation, contemplation, pickup, career, business, sobriety, learning, having new experiences, psychedelics... I was destroying my health...

And poof, I'm 30 now.

That's one of the main dangers of weed.

But at I am SO GLAD that now I can see the truth of my foolishness.

Truth is worth all the pain.

I also have compassion for myself, and i understand why my sad Romanian ass had to go through all of this. It is ultimately so Beautiful and Perfect!

I am putting Truth at the top of my values as best as I can. I credit my (currently still unimpressive) breakthrough into sobriety to valuing Truth. I will continue doing so and I will see where that leads me.

I wish you good luck, and may you break free from the chains of addiction!