How to take a girl home + for my situation. Help appreciated thanks

[felixk_priv]

So not clear . I'll approach girls get a date . So here's what I do ( right ? ) plan is kiss the girl and then invite her ... Well I don't know . I don't have a chill area , I just have sort of a single bed . What activity would I invite her over to do , watch a film . I could ask about if she lives alone or with others and then through conversation there will be an activity I can suggest to do at hers ? What activity would I do at mine ? What's the best way to really do this .

Is there a high rate as to girls that would sleep with you on the first date ? 

Is there something I am missing in terms of this whole situation and the way I think about it . Should I be going out on night outs instead to have more success rate since there is low success rate with this ? R.i.p.s.l.e.e.p

Thanks for the help 

[theleelajoker]

Don 't ask us, ask the girl. 

Don't make a plan, be in the moment.

Follow your heart, listen to yourself and her signals, be authentic and honest.

 

Edited yesterday at 09:57 AM by theleelajoker

[enzyme]

If you've been having flirty banter during your time and got a kiss and everything, you can suggest coming back for coffee.

She might say "I don't like coffee", and you just go "don't worry, I don't have any" 

[Hojo]

This is how you talk to a woman. Ignore everything except the last sentence, ask a question about the last sentence. 

Then challenge her, every 3rd or 4th question.

It will break the barrier that you are agreeing with her on everything and it will make her nervous system change.

If you talk to a woman and her nervous system dosent do anything they will get bored. You can use anything to disturb the nervous system, a joke, disgust, empathy, challenging ego, sexual theme.

Then when you are walking trip and fall and laugh about it.

Woman are in touch with thier bodies when their nervous system is stimulated they take it seriously.

You can even stimulate your own nervous system and they will feel it.

When I say ignore I dont mean zone out, listen but know its like a DBZ filler episode. You pay attention, you know what happened, but it has no reason to be thought about. Unless you want to bring it up as a joke or to show you were paying attention. You were but its in one ear out the other and dosent exist after its said.

They will talk to themselves if they are interested in talking.

Dont suggest activity sexually, if the woman wants to you will know. They will tell you by not leaving or not telling you to leave.

If the girl wants to sleep with you on the first date they will hover you.

On times I can remeber hooking up randomly, I knew and the only things I needed to say was after a date the girl ask me 'what do you want to do now?'

And I remeber at a club I just told the woman - ' Your friends suck, come with me'

 

I have never had success doing pick up, I havent tried. I only do it when I know. And you can have a higher chance by stimulating the nervous system. If you do it you will have a higher chance.

Edited 4 hours ago by Hojo

[theleelajoker]

4 hours ago, Hojo said:

This is how you talk to a woman. Ignore everything except the last sentence, ask a question about the last sentence. 

Then challenge her, every 3rd or 4th question.

It will break the barrier that you are agreeing with her on everything and it will make her nervous system change.

If you talk to a woman and her nervous system dosent do anything they will get bored. You can use anything to disturb the nervous system, a joke, disgust, empathy, challenging ego, sexual theme.

Then when you are walking trip and fall and laugh about it.

Woman are in touch with thier bodies when their nervous system is stimulated they take it seriously.

You can even stimulate your own nervous system and they will feel it.

When I say ignore I dont mean zone out, listen but know its like a DBZ filler episode. You pay attention, you know what happened, but it has no reason to be thought about. Unless you want to bring it up as a joke or to show you were paying attention. You were but its in one ear out the other and dosent exist after its said.

They will talk to themselves if they are interested in talking.

Dont suggest activity sexually, if the woman wants to you will know. They will tell you by not leaving or not telling you to leave.

If the girl wants to sleep with you on the first date they will hover you.

On times I can remeber hooking up randomly, I knew and the only things I needed to say was after a date the girl ask me 'what do you want to do now?'

And I remeber at a club I just told the woman - ' Your friends suck, come with me'

 

I have never had success doing pick up, I havent tried. I only do it when I know. And you can have a higher chance by stimulating the nervous system. If you do it you will have a higher chance.

Just to give perspective: I have seen the "activate nervous system" you describe happening many times.

But also: I have experienced great dates with the opposite, when the main thing was to relax and to clam down together.

Moral of the story for me: it is what it is, it's always a unique person and situation. 

[Hojo]

@theleelajoker They think its intuition like they are knowing something but its just nervous system and then ego making up a story about it. Intuition is just nervous system activating. 

If you want to try activation nervous system when you are walking behind a woman just pretend you are chasing her like a tiger. Don't change speed but full on feel and amp up your nervous system that you are chasing her. Heart rate up and ready to pounce.She will look behind her. 

Like amp it up like you are a lion chasing prey for the kill.

You want to be calm the whole time even when doing it. Your nervous system can get activate and not respond and still be calm. You can have a panic attack and remain calm.

Edited 20 minutes ago by Hojo