Men Are Not Approaching Women

[Natasha Tori Maru]

7 minutes ago, Ulax said:

What is a good advice regarding relationships in your opinion?

I might need some additional context to answer more cleanly; do you mean this from a romantic angle, or perhaps more broad as it applies to all relationships?

[Eskilon]

@Natasha Tori Maru I agree with your words. 

Maybe what I said gives the impression that I see women only for sexual pleasure(Sometimes I do, because horny wins most of the time and I try to be honest with myself that I only want sex and dont like the girls personality much). But what I said was more to try to explain what is most likely happening to some men in society giving our current technology era.

I think we have too many collective trauma and survival is too hard for us to have more selfless relationships beyond interest(right now at least). It is possible, it is beautiful when a man and a woman truly connect, a work of art really. Although for that to happen(in my opinion) sex needs to happen. A moment of vulnerability must occur.

I hope I didnt give the wrong impression, I appreciate women a lot. You guys are beautiful beings and we men have a lot to learn from women.

In the end it all starts with horny .

From horny to love

Edited 11 hours ago by Eskilon

[Natasha Tori Maru]

13 minutes ago, Eskilon said:

@Natasha Tori Maru I agree with your words. 

Maybe what I said gives the impression that I see women only for sexual pleasure(Sometimes I do, because horny wins most of the time and I try to be honest with myself that I only want sex and dont like the girls personality much). But what I said was more to try to explain what is most likely happening to some men in society giving our current technology era.

I think we have too many collective trauma and survival is too hard for us to have more selfless relationships beyond interest(right now at least). It is possible, it is beautiful when a man and a woman truly connect, a work of art really. Although for that to happen(in my opinion) sex needs to happen. A moment of vulnerability must occur.

I hope I didnt give the wrong impression, I appreciate women a lot. You guys are beautiful beings and we men have a lot to learn from women.

In the end it all starts with horny .

From horny to love

I definitely did not receive your original words as seeing women as purely sexual objects. I reflected on your post and saw the wider pattern of both sexes viewing each other as objects 🙏🙃

You have an awesome perspective imo, as it relates across domains. Wholesome and always open to new concepts/perspectives. 

I agree regarding sex. It is much more fundamental than women want to acknowledge, in my opinion. I have strange views on this arena that most women hate me for - but I firmly believe women need to put effort into ensuring they are open, engaged and looking forward to sex with their man. It is a need for men. Just as emotional engagement is a need for women (from men). I consider it part of my responsibility in a relationship to ensure I am firmly in a 'sexy' mindset. 

The above - women feeling in the 'mood' for sex - and who is responsible for that, is an issue. Women need to take charge and prioritise sex and romance. Sometimes when I feel I am not in the mood (or ambivalent), I won't say no. Because I know if I surrender 99% of the time I'm going to love it! 

Like exercise. Sometimes I feel a bit tired at the end of the day. I sort of cannot be fucked. But I never regret it 😁 but this takes confidence, respect and firm boundaries to operate like this.

Edited 11 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Ulax]

1 hour ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I might need some additional context to answer more cleanly; do you mean this from a romantic angle, or perhaps more broad as it applies to all relationships?

Both actually if possible please