Everything is different than I thought

[jacknine119]

Today I was super bold and also positive, approached girls but no one cares. Not because I was bad. In my country's culture maybe it doesn't work because everyone is in a survival mode.(I'm from Georgia) And I feel super frustrated because even I played my A game no one gives a fuck.

[jacknine119]

In my imagination and in social media everything is easier

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Unfortunately, life isn't as simple as a vending machine where you put coins in and the goods come out. 

That doesn't mean hard & good work doesn't pay; more that fairness isn't built in. Sometimes you do everything right, and nothing good happens. And sometimes, good does happen! 

Sometimes you do everything wrong and good happens. And sometimes, bad happens.

This can be a hard lesson to learn if we are immersed in idealogy, or if we are attached to outcome. A lesson we all learn, with time.

They key is to not fall into our own tale-of-woe and wallow in self pity.

Edited 9 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[theleelajoker]

8 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Unfortunately, life isn't as simple as a vending machine where you put coins in and the goods come out. 

Nice metaphor. I agree but also would add that's something applying in particular when we deal with people. 

If I go to the gym - focus muscles - I get pretty linear results.

I cut a tree - focus matter - I get pretty linear results using my axe. 

Also, re OP: how you know your A game is what others perceive as attractive and A game, too?

I have seen guys thinking they are flirting and impressing the girl while they were actually putting her off and boring her to death lol

[Natasha Tori Maru]

28 minutes ago, theleelajoker said:

Nice metaphor. I agree but also would add that's something applying in particular when we deal with people. 

If I go to the gym - focus muscles - I get pretty linear results.

I cut a tree - focus matter - I get pretty linear results using my axe. 

Oh! I apply it in a more widespread way...

Swing axe, cut tree, axe breaks!!! 

Go gym, pickup weights, discover bad genetics can't get as big as some dudes.

There is totally a formula to master, and apply. And it is definitely a great thing to focus on. But sometimes random shit just....happens 💔 

I just never let anything stop me. Water on Teflon 👊