Casual sex is always based on a lie ?

[Howtolive]

4 minutes ago, Meeksauce said:

Agreed, the whole concept of a civilized society is to transcend pure barbarian survival instincts into higher domains. Sadly humanity today overinflates how much we have actually done that.

I also agree. Can you explain what you mean by : overinflates how much we have actually done that. ?

[Twentyfirst]

On 1/9/2026 at 3:29 AM, Hojo said:

@Twentyfirst send them my way. I am the alternative.

They are growing in number so you can find them especially in places where they frequent. I don't hang out with those type of men. It's hard to have a man to man friendship with them because their lives are usually chaotic and senseless. 

[Twentyfirst]

On 1/9/2026 at 3:43 PM, something_else said:

I think you are projecting to some degree here. Most of the men I've met who enjoy a lot of casual sex don't really care that much if the woman did too. The issues arise where one partner was significantly more promiscuous than the other in the past.

You aren't looking far enough down the timeline. Men want casual sex so bad that they bypass a lot of these feelings, in the moment. But if he starts imagining a promiscuous woman as someone he can bring home to his family, marry, have children with, and have her be the mother/grandmother of his offspring. Suddenly he isn't as excited as he was. There are alternative men like I said that are fine with it.

I'm not against promiscuous women. I am definitely against women who try to sell innocence as a way to trick a man. I am against women who try to create equality where there is none and say if men are promiscuous than it's okay for me as a woman to be too. 

The past thousands of years was not an accident. There are very real reasons why women were not encouraged to have sexual sex. In a lot of places men were also encouraged to refrain from it. For every 10 women a man casually has sex with is the equivalent of a woman having sex with 1 man (bro science), so if he goes on a spree it won't be good for him either. Men lose trust in women, and thereby their future potential wife, after they have sex with so many because they see the ugly side of women where they are cheating on their man for a casual encounter or other sketchy behaviors. 

[Hojo]

@Twentyfirst I thrive in senseless chaos. I am completely clueless in order. At least in chaos there is a clear way. In order everything stays the same giving me no understanding on what to do.

Edited 2 hours ago by Hojo

[Twentyfirst]

53 minutes ago, Hojo said:

@Twentyfirst I thrive in senseless chaos. I am completely clueless in order. At least in chaos there is a clear way. In order everything stays the same giving me no understanding on what to do.

I expect women to be chaotic, not men. Men who are chaotic are untrustworthy. Women who are chaotic are just normal women.

[Hojo]

@TwentyfirstYou expect men to be trustworthy?