Is an obedient wife better?

[Someone here]

@Ulax never. Nothing's cool about being mod except maybe being delusional that what you say matter (It doesn't since nobody actually reads anything other than their own posts ). And you have to keep scanning the forum all day .so meh. 😂 

[Ulax]

@Someone here I was saying for a mod to remove your comment or get you to chill. Not make you mod.

Edit: But i get the joke you were tryna make tbf. So i may have overreacted

Edited 4 hours ago by Ulax

[Someone here]

@Ulax no you meant the latter . The sentence definitely can mean both though. 

[Ulax]

@Someone here Bro trying to confuse me. And it is working.

[UnbornTao]

26 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Ulax never. Nothing's cool about being mod except maybe being delusional that what you say matter (It doesn't since nobody actually reads anything other than their own posts ). And you have to keep scanning the forum all day .so meh. 😂 

Two warning points for the honesty.

Seriously though, I see we now have more leeway to warn you. So behave.

[Someone here]

@UnbornTao no you absolutely have no "leeway" to warn me regarding that comment .no insult..no profane words ..no violation of any guidelines whatsoever .

Don't tell me "behave", you .

 

[UnbornTao]

Just now, Someone here said:

@UnbornTao no you absolutely have no "leeway" to warn me regarding that comment .no insult..no profane words ..no violation of any guidelines whatsoever .

Don't tell me "behave", you .

Oh, I meant that you seem to have had some of your warning points revoked. That's all.

[Someone here]

@UnbornTao OK i forgive you.  You can go now.  

[UnbornTao]

@Someone here We can be quite lenient sometimes. Just don't go over the top.

Edited 3 hours ago by UnbornTao

[Someone here]

19 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

@Someone here We can be quite lenient sometimes. Just don't go over the top.

OK I'm not gonna get cheeky I'm honestly aware that I'm posting in an unserious way for a while (I actually am doing it deliberately) .I will try to post only quality posts from now on. No problem .

Edit: I tried my best to not go full manic mode on the "farting and burbing " thread .

Edited 3 hours ago by Someone here

[Butters]

On 12/20/2025 at 9:56 PM, Vali2003 said:

I think the term ‘submissive’ maybe has some unhelpful connotations. I associate it with domination. 

But as far as I understand you don’t mean this. You said you’d like her to be like a girl is to her father — or that this is a desirable quality — and, actually I think I agree. And I think that some women or maybe most women like to be ‘submissive’ in that sense. This is just me speaking from my relationship-experience though. 

When I feel most secure in myself and most masculine then I do naturally guide my girlfriend through adventures in this frame. But it has no ‘dominating’ quality at all and no tyrannical quality at all which I think is what men fall into most often when they try to be like that. They have this image that they HAVE to be this super masculine person and their girlfriend should always be in their frame. And this view just leads to suffering because it won’t always be like this. 

In some cases my girlfriend is just a better leader or decision-maker than me. And for a while I saw this as wrong and would feel emasculated when it happened and I’d actually tell her that sometimes and ask her if she could not do that hahahah. I think, realistically, in a relationship you can’t be the leader in all domains. It’s just not likely. And if you try to assert that frame in situations where it’s unnatural then that will be very awkward. 

So when you think like I did back then, you will — without a doubt — have moments like this where you try to force your masculine frame on situations just cause you’re following an ideal. 

TL;DR: The problem isn’t with being submissive per Se, but seeing it as a black/white (dominant/submissive) thing which will lead to a lot of suffering. Because it won’t be black. It will be a lot of grey instead.

Yes this was helpful, thanks for the insight.