Why can't I stop hurting every time I get rejected?

[Yimpa]

Rejecting sex does not equate to rejecting connection.

Not all women are into sex, you creeps.

[Yimpa]

Every no is a bridge to a yes that leads to a better path.

[Yimpa]

Another frame on rejection:

If the same person keeps rejecting certain parts of you, it might mean those parts are triggering something in them, something they’re protecting their autonomy against.

But here’s the thing: sometimes people reject in you what they’re not ready to accept in themselves. When someone pushes back against parts of you that secretly resonate with something they’ve buried or denied, that friction can actually signal deep compatibility - IF they’re willing to do the work of integrating those disowned parts.

The keeper isn’t someone who never rejects you. It’s someone who, when they feel that friction, gets curious about why instead of just pushing you away. They respect their boundaries AND they’re brave enough to ask: ‘Is this about them, or about something I’m afraid to face in myself?

[Cocolove]

Just sheer volume and constantly approaching will get you to stop caring. you can go from terrified to feeling invincible even as a begginer if you can actually just constantly stay approaching people, literally everyone you see. Once you stop caring how people react you will get better reactions. and then thatll pump your state further. getting rejected a bunch is thrilling to your nervous system. You need to gain energy from it because you are breaking down your ego and getting into a flow. In practice you won't let yourself do this right away but as soon as you can actually do it and stop hesitating you will have amazing nights.