Conformity video - My experience

[WonderSeeker]

First of all Leo, thank you for the most comprehensive explanation of this almost universal human pattern I've ever seen. It's so pervasive, it's akin to breathing air.

To pay back the value, I want to briefly share my recent experience with conformity in my own life on this sub-forum.

3 weeks ago I moved from the U.S. to South Korea. Immediately I saw my mind picking up on gross and subtle signs of what this culture values and how it behaves. 

I laughed at your example of the Japanese handing others items with both hands instead of just one, because that's also a common custom here. Although, it's more the old generation that cares about such things, showing that the culture is evolving with time (albeit from one conformist habit to another!)

In my own experience I took note of the insane beauty standards and fashion trends here. In some of the busiest parts of the city I'm living in, Daegu ( 대구), 1 in 4 people there (especially the ladies) look like they could be magazine models. 

Since moving here I've already spent 180,000₩ ($125) on new clothing. Granted, the clothing I replaced was 3-6 years old and starting to wear. But still I see the effect the culture has had on my mind to some degree and my desire to fit-in/embrace it, depending on which lens you use.

In any case, I'll give myswlf the benefit of the doubt. My decision to go out and update my wardrobe was at least 70% conscious as I wasn't in a crazy hurry to do so. I still haven't watched K-pop or K-drama yet and don't really care if people think my style is out there (after taking Julien Blanc's TM Mentoring recently I've become much more confident and care-free in my skin).

Anyways, if you've read through I'm curious... in what ways have you confirmed in recent days, weeks, or months?

Cheers!

Edited yesterday at 04:18 PM by WonderSeeker

[enchanted]

Good example. Why did you move to South Korea?

[WonderSeeker]

3 hours ago, enchanted said:

Good example. Why did you move to South Korea?

Gut feeling.

3 years ago I stayed in Mongolia for 6 weeks, and not a day has gone by since without me dreaming of moving to east Asia. This part of the world is so fascinating and has so much potential for growth. Also my own growth is speeding up here, because I feel passionate about life again. 

That's why.

[Miguel1]

Thanks for sharing. Good self-awareness!

For me, it must be dating as I recentl started going out to meet people and date again.

And good riddance! It’s an unconscious and conformity-filled cesspool!

It is almost perfectly correlated that the more conscious and mature you behave, the less results you get. And vice versa.

My God, I have matured too much in the past 5 years to be playing this game for long.