Guys, What Is Girlfriend Material And Where To Find Them?

[Arion]

@Spiral sure, of I met such a woman I'd pursue to an extent that I don't come across as needy.

i m a guy that takes these things slow, as tbh I'm pretty inexperienced. I also have certain insecurities that  I need to address: e.g the belief that women are hypergamous by nature, and my own intimacy issues.

In fact , recently I met a woman with all those traits and although I didn't flirt etc, just our quiet conversation was very entertaining and interesting. I made my interest known because of the questions I asked +. Body language. It's still out in the open though .

[Spiral]

2 minutes ago, Arion said:

@Spiral sure, of I met such a woman I'd pursue to an extent that I don't come across as needy.

i m a guy that takes these things slow, as tbh I'm pretty inexperienced. I also have certain insecurities that  I need to address: e.g the belief that women are hypergamous by nature, and my own intimacy issues.

Well women do find status attractive just like a guy found a compassionate girl attractive both are innocent, without any manipulative/exploitive intent.Wish you the best resolving your insecurities.

[Arion]

@Spiral thanks for your insight and wishes. I agree with you. 

[Spiral]

@Emerald Ahh I see what this is, we are having problems of semantics. I do really appropriate your advise and I feel obligated to recommend you the book: Dear Lover by  David Deida. If you like this dualist kind of thinking in terms of masculine and feminine, I have not read it myself but i've read the one for men and that's quite the book. You can see how shin seem to be very promotional of the male one and he seems to have changed at lot recently, I would think it has something to do with that book.

I thought you meant the more spiritual meaning of intuition, the divine knowledge somehow received from within. To for instance become Interconnected with the cat, to become the cat and feel what it feels like to be petted and to think whatever cats think about. Or the classic video by Leo where he for instance mentions in relation to confusion. 

 

[Dan Arnautu]

@Spiral Well, I know it is hard. A thing that can help you is to do an exercise from the book ”How to be a 3% man” by Corey Wayne.

There he gives you a number and you need to list the qualities that would make the perfect woman for you. Then, he gives you a smaller number and makes you cut and get to the core qualities that YOU can't live without in your idea of the perfect woman.

For example, maybe the perfect woman for you is blonde, has blue eyes and is extremely educated. Being educated may be a core quality you need in the perfect woman, but having blue eyes isn't, so you can overlook that. See where I'm going? It satisfies both your high standards and reality itself.

Another upside to this is that once you have those qualities listed in your head, you immediately notice women that have them in everyday life and it's much easier for you to make a selection. Also, when you know your are looking for a red Ferrari, suddenly you see a lot more red Ferraris outside. Why? Because you were actually looking for red Ferraris.

Edited June 19, 2017 by Dan Arnautu

[Natasha]

On 5/26/2017 at 3:14 PM, Torkys said:

Male instincts dude, male instincts... Leo also says in his "Masculinity vs Femininity" video that all that men want in women is just a nice face, body, booty and tits.

And when she grows older and 'nice' are no more, what do you do with her then? Make sure she's got some brains too. As Judge Judy says, "Beauty fades, dumb is forever"