why is the guy not interested to sleep with me again

[theleelajoker]

48 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

This is just not true. Lots of men are one timers no matter how great the female is.

Yes some men are just like that. I know  few of them.

But that's not what he's saying. He's indicating why do exactly THESE KIND OF MEN appear repeatably in one's life? I can see something of  a theme in certain periods of my life, what kind of women am I attracted to and vice versa.  At some point it felt like a karmic loop and the common denominator was me  

Would not go so far as calling it "character flaw" it's just being human everybody has some stuff to deal with. 

[Basman]

19 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

This is just not true. Lots of men are one timers no matter how great the female is.

It's also true that plenty of men want something long-term. There a lot of strategies for weeding out the chaff, including having sex early.

In general, you want to take responsibility for your situation, regardless of who's fault it is. That puts the power in your court. If it is external, it is an excuse. Basic self-help. Though I get the impression many women prefer a submissive and passive experience and don't like having to take responsibility for their love life. That is fine, but if you try to have your cake and eat it too you'll just end up dissapointed ultimately. 

 

[Jannes]

If you already gave him everything, there is nothing he can gain really. You would just win in a second date. 

You speak of him as the only guy who you ever felt instantly attracted to but then compare him to the average guy who wouldnt need more then sex to be satisfied. 

If this is a significant power imbalance in his favor maybe its the most mature thing for him to end things, in the end he also looks to get more out of it and if he already got everything things could get toxic. 

Telling you that he doesnt want to see you again or ghosting you are pretty hard reactions he doesnt owe you I feel like. I dont know how the situation really played out but I dont feel like he owes you playing the bad/ immoral person in this situation. 

You just approve him more and more everytime you ask him.

Edited September 26 by Jannes