For you, how important has exploring dating been?

[Artsy]

I want to get a sense of how you think exploring dating (or lack thereof) has impacted your life. 

I've been in a relationship for two and a half years, my first "adult," long-term relationship.

I enjoy my partner, however with this being my first relationship I have this idea I should explore more while I am in my early twenties.

I'm unsure of how important or authentic this is for me ~ I hope to gain some perspective as to if it's worth going deeper into this relationship or facing my fear and seeing what serendipity brings. 

 

I look forward to hearing your thoughts.

[Rishabh R]

I have never had a relationship in my life but found many receptive girls and hope that I will find more in the future. 

From exploring dating I learnt a hard lesson : Getting hurt and angry by focussing on unreceptive girls is useless which gets you nowhere. Rather focussing on receptive girls and interacting with them is the biggest reward you can give yourself in the realm of dating.

[theleelajoker]

2 hours ago, Artsy said:

I want to get a sense of how you think exploring dating (or lack thereof) has impacted your life. 

I've been in a relationship for two and a half years, my first "adult," long-term relationship.

I enjoy my partner, however with this being my first relationship I have this idea I should explore more while I am in my early twenties.

I'm unsure of how important or authentic this is for me ~ I hope to gain some perspective as to if it's worth going deeper into this relationship or facing my fear and seeing what serendipity brings. 

 

I look forward to hearing your thoughts.

Between 18 and 29, I was not in a relationship for maybe 1 year or so, a break between two GFs.

Do I feel like I missed out in my twenties? Nope. 

I explored a lot in my thirties, only had short relationships. Was it fun? Yes. Would I prefer to have a longer relationship again? Yes. 

Seriously, having a great relationship in my twenties was one of the best things in my life. The whole social stuff and benefits you can get from dating you can also get by socializing without the intention of having sex with the women.  

The exploration of dating has been important for me re getting to know a lot of different people, connecting with them, learning form them. But that you can do without fucking lol

There are some higher stakes, some excitement when you date because there is this uncertainty of "hmm where will this go"?  BUT: I also enjoyed the feeling of being committed in a monogamous relationship. So no matter the situation, no matter how beautiful the women in front of me, I could focus on the interaction and content and was not controlled my my dick 

Open relationships can be interesting too, but that's another topic and at this stage I'm not so keen on that anymore 

[theleelajoker]

2 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

I have never had a relationship in my life but found many receptive girls and hope that I will find more in the future. 

From exploring dating I learnt a hard lesson : Getting hurt and angry by focussing on unreceptive girls is useless which gets you nowhere. Rather focussing on receptive girls and interacting with them is the biggest reward you can give yourself in the realm of dating.

Bold: I agree.

I like if they show some cooperation, initiative otherwise I get a strange feeling that I'm doing something that is not healthy for me.

There are many pretty, arrogant and unreceptive women - but there are also a ton of active, open and receptive ones.

Re the former - it's their karma and luckily not my problem. Re the later - Hi, how you're doing?

[Rishabh R]

11 minutes ago, theleelajoker said:

Bold: I agree.

I like if they show some cooperation, initiative otherwise I get a strange feeling that I'm doing something that is not healthy for me.

There are many pretty, arrogant and unreceptive women - but there are also a ton of active, open and receptive ones.

Re the former - it's their karma and luckily not my problem. Re the later - Hi, how you're doing?

Yeah absolutely.

[Spiral]

If it’s not easy it not right. 
 

In terms of communication and setting up dates that is.

[Hardkill]

Exploring for me is both fun and help me figure out what kind of woman I ultimately want to have for my life partner.

[theleelajoker]

5 hours ago, Spiral said:

If it’s not easy it not right. 
 

In terms of communication and setting up dates that is.

This is quite on point.

A couple of times I was like "ok some problems but I can deal with it" (dates) or "we can work through it" (in relationships).

But now, in hindsight I can say: the start of problems was most of the time the start of the end lol 

I don't mean that one shouldn't be able and resilient to go through some stuff. There are some issues that are just temporary items to figure out. But there are also other issues that indicate a bigger underlying problem that is about to surface. 

After an issue with one of my ex, I said "ok it's either the beginning of the end or it will strengthen our relationship"

I kind of already had the instinct that it might be the former, but it didn't want to see it clearly. Ego did not want to see it.

It its not light, it's not right

 

[Rishabh R]

I also learned that romantic rejection is saviour from a wrong person in life.

I used to be jealous of my batchmates dating beautiful girls but when I saw that they broke up frequently and the girls move on to other guys I realised the above lesson. I saw it happening with multiple people.