Powerful Video on abuse in relationships by women.

[BlueOak]

Powerful Video on abuse in relationships by women toward their male partners.

What the media used to laugh at and paint as normal is now realized by more mainstream individuals to be abusive. 

[Hojo]

They also use 'i dont know' all the time about everything when having serious conversations.

[Emerald]

I watched the video. 

First off, of course women can be abusive to men. It happens all the time. Abusive behavior doesn't have a gender. Abusive people just use whatever tools they are capable of using to abuse their partner (which tend to vary a bit between men and women).

And it's quite common that men don't register abuse from a woman as actual abuse because culture has this idea, "Woman weak. Man strong."

So, men have a harder time recognizing when they're being abused by a woman, as they see it like, "Because I'm a man, I am stronger and more stoic... and anything she does to me can't impact me that much because I am less vulnerable than she is."

Men also tend to grow up with lots of inter-male ribbing and fighting. And part of the challenge is to be able to absorb the ribbing and some degree of pain/violence to show they are able to be cool-headed in challenging situations. So, this also makes men susceptible to being harmed without realizing it, because they have conditioned themselves through their lives to be stoic in the face of pain and to show they are strong and stoic enough to absorb it.

It's sort of like that Jeff Foxworthy comedy bit where he jokes about a man accidentally getting his foot cut off with a chainsaw and playing it off like it's nothing. Like, "Eh... just throw the foot in the cooler and get me another beer. I'll deal with that later."

So, men in abusive relationships tend to take quite some time to notice when that's the case.

I have had to inform a couple of my male coaching clients that they are in an abusive relationship because they don't quite grok the idea that they are capable of being abused by a woman. They just didn't see the woman as capable of causing them real harm.

Secondly, the reason why this guy gets so much pushback is because he has a red pill slant and says a lot of ideological things like "Women are worshipped in society" and frames society as being tilted in women's direction.

And because of his Red Pill ideological slant, the real message of "Men can be abuse victims too." is cheapened and framed as some societal gender war thing.

If he just came on there and shared the message that men can be victims too, he wouldn't have gotten any pushback. But he should expect that, if he's using the fact that men can be abused too as a cudgel to say, "See! Men are the victims of society because women are worshipped!" that he's going to get some pushback... and rightly so.

[Princess Arabia]

Every man needs to hear this? Some men are out there searching for women to abuse them. They even go as far as to pay women to do so. They get a kick out of it. It turns them on. On the flip side, there are men out there who discard women who aren't mean enough. Don't treat them like shit enough. 

Don't think these men aren't your next door neighbors and blend right into society. Some are even CEO's, doctors and lawyers and everywhere in between. Personally, I had a male client who was a lawyer. He was a very aggressive, confident man who knew his job and was well respected in his field. He even appeared on TV representing murderers and high-profile cases in the community (not nationwide). 

He would want me to, as soon as he entered the door, to start treating him like a piece of shit. Put him on all fours and have him bark like a dog. Not just that, as that's kind of a role-play but when I first was introduced to him I neglected him and told him I wasn't interested and spoke to him in a condescending manner because he was going against my standards and what I used to decide if I wanted to have you as a client or not. He would keep calling and wouldn't provide the necessary things I used as verification and so on. I didn't know who he was at the time, but the meaner I got was the more he persisted. I finally gave in and gave him a chance, and I was just wrong in my assessment about him. Meaning, he was legit and serious. I thought he was a prank call. It seemed, though, that the meaner I got was the more he wanted to see me. Anyway, he got off on me role playing to treat him like a little bitch and a slave and like an animal. I didn't do it as harsh as he wanted as I'm not a mistress and I remember him telling me next time to be a bit more aggressive and to make sure it happened as soon as we saw each other. No one knew he was like that outside. It was discretion assured.

He wasn't the only one. I also had a guy who I never really got to meet because, according to him, in the pretalk interview, i wasn't mean enough. Another wanted to be my "slave" and wanted to give me his whole paycheck to treat him as such. These were men who had regular jobs, children, friends and lived a normal life. Girls like us would see the other side of society. Other side of "normal" men's fantasies. They saught me out. It wasn't my thing, but as I am in the field, I know how to be what they wanted, somewhat. My interactions were very mild, as there are real dominatrixes out there and even just regular women who live this way. 

I know you'll say, this is work stuff and paid clients, but it makes no difference, a lot aren't, and are regular relationships. They found the perfect gf for this so they don't have to go out and pay for it. That man in the video with the girl screaming about her chair reminded me of some of these guys. He was loving her screaming at him like that and she knew it. She didn't care because that's how she's always been with him and held still with her. Some guys even will get bored with a loving, kind woman and leave her for an abusive "bitch". 

All that said, yes, women can be abusive and those men I spoke of probably have trauma or are dysfunctional in some way. Besides the point. Vice versa, some women love that a man abuses them; they'll say it's because he loves me. Not saying it's right and I'm excusing any of these cases, but think about that when showing examples.