Dating Inequality Is the Fallout of Decades of Sexual Libertinism

[EternalForest]

@Emerald The problem is I have a social circle but there are no women in it. I wish that wasn't the case, but it is the case, and I don't know how to change it.

Edited August 6 by EternalForest

[meta_male]

@Hardkill Let me ask you something: are you really interested in this topic or are you just underfucked (like me) and trying to find reasons to intellectualise your way out of the pain about your failure to stand out in the open market?

[Emerald]

15 hours ago, EternalForest said:

@Emerald The problem is I have a social circle but there are no women in it. I wish that wasn't the case, but it is the case, and I don't know how to change it.

If you don't have women in your social circle, then your social circle is just incomplete. The social circle is ideally meant to be like the village... and that has always been the way we've co-existed throughout the vast majority of human history.

Before going through all the approach methods for dating purposes, I recommend interacting with people in general (men and women... ideally a mixture of peers and people of all ages). And just focus on building acquaintance-ships and friendships with men and women... including women that you don't find attractive.

When you don't have a particular type of person in your social circle (in this case, women) it will make you feel like that kind of person feel is like an alien "other" to you, and it will feel difficult to relate to them beyond one specific agenda or idea. I see a lot of young guys who don't socialize or only socialize with men having this problem with meeting and interacting with women. 

You can resolve this issue by building yourself a more complete village-like social circle as your primary social goal. And that will give you a more platonic and detached habit of making connections with people without an agenda. And in that process, you will get better at socializing in general and you will come across as more normal and socially adept to women.

Overall, it's kind of like the advice of "Don't go to the grocery store when you're hungry"... only it's "Don't approach women when you're starved for basic social connection (or basic social connection with women in particular)."

[EternalForest]

@Emerald I appreciate the advice, but you're kind of ignoring or sidestepping the entire point. I don't have issues with socializing or making friends. Your advice is good for people who have social anxiety or have trouble making friends in general, but my problem is very specific. I cannot connect with women.