How Do I Understand THIS Girl

[Nito]

13 hours ago, Hojo said:

@NitoMen will instantly leash to women. They will push things really fast and the woman will get scared. So they do random tests to try to get you to freak out protect themselves from the men who will instantly loose it. The men who push them hard will push them hard for sex and then in sex they will push them hard to go further with other things. And then they will be in a position where the man is raping them and they cant saying no cause its already happening.

Society teaches men they must push to get something. So mens survival tactics is pressure and pushing limits, they dont know when to stop or when its too far and women wont tell them. They rely on these stupid hot and cold tactics, hot and cold dosent work when you are getting fucked aggressively.

Its basically im testing you to see if you are going to rage easy.

These tests assume all men are rapist and hurt mens identity who arent, as the woman is doing some serious bullshit to them. Its basically bullying you, you are coming into this open like a pure soul and the woman is bringing rape survival tactics when you aren't doing anything, and not telling you she's doing it. Its gaslighting you and making you confused and harming your dream and identity.

Basically if a man is insecure he will get attached to the woman quickly. The second they meet since he has nothing his identity focuses on her and when the man does this the woman will instantly know that he is overbearing and will rape her. It means he has a big hole in himself and he is using her to fill it. All they know is their beauty so its obviously going to try to be filled with sex. This is bad news for the woman.

You aren't doing that tho and she is mind fucking you for something someone else did to her.

Thats why I say disengagement with flirting and ignoring her beauty is the way to go. Without her beauty she's just a random person to you and this random person is being mean on purpose.

@Hojo where did you learn this stuff. Super interesting. Ty for the explanation

[Nito]

13 hours ago, Hojo said:

@NitoMen will instantly leash to women. They will push things really fast and the woman will get scared. So they do random tests to try to get you to freak out protect themselves from the men who will instantly loose it. The men who push them hard will push them hard for sex and then in sex they will push them hard to go further with other things. And then they will be in a position where the man is raping them and they cant saying no cause its already happening.

Society teaches men they must push to get something. So mens survival tactics is pressure and pushing limits, they dont know when to stop or when its too far and women wont tell them. They rely on these stupid hot and cold tactics, hot and cold dosent work when you are getting fucked aggressively.

Its basically im testing you to see if you are going to rage easy.

These tests assume all men are rapist and hurt mens identity who arent, as the woman is doing some serious bullshit to them. Its basically bullying you, you are coming into this open like a pure soul and the woman is bringing rape survival tactics when you aren't doing anything, and not telling you she's doing it. Its gaslighting you and making you confused and harming your dream and identity.

Basically if a man is insecure he will get attached to the woman quickly. The second they meet since he has nothing his identity focuses on her and when the man does this the woman will instantly know that he is overbearing and will rape her. It means he has a big hole in himself and he is using her to fill it. All they know is their beauty so its obviously going to try to be filled with sex. This is bad news for the woman.

You aren't doing that tho and she is mind fucking you for something someone else did to her.

Thats why I say disengagement with flirting and ignoring her beauty is the way to go. Without her beauty she's just a random person to you and this random person is being mean on purpose.

can I ask how do you avoid these tests? Is there any way to avoid them and make girls see I’m “safe”?

and 2. women arent really being horrible and mean sijce they do this all unconscious right? What do you think of that?

[Nito]

3 hours ago, AION said:

That is the problem. You never thought about what she wants. 

I’m confused can’t lie.  is there like a common thing they all want or something?

[Nito]

19 minutes ago, Flint said:

She can't magically get into your mind and see your overthinking - the point is that if you're overthinking you're not busy doing something else - aka connecting and casually flirting. Which you should be doing. Also, so little happened so far that you might just recover from it if you course correct properly.

I also have anxious attachment but that doesn't make me needy in the earlier stages. Use your anxiety about being liked to focus on connecting with the girl in front of you by showing genuine interest. If you're focused on getting to know the other person and being playful you will not have time to overthink as your brain is already occupied. Then, when you're not interacting and your anxiety creeps back do the strict minimum to see her in real life again and continue bonding that way. 

You will not magically fix your anxious attachment - just be aware of it and do not panic. Getting more experience will help your tremendously. 

interesting. With my anxious attachment, I can talk to a girl for 5 minutes and then be crying the next day because she doesn’t like me.  This has happened like basically 3x now for me lmao. not like crazy crying but still crying 

ty for the advice. I’ll try it out

 

and tbh I’m not sure why she even became unnattracted to me.  The only thing I can think of is because I kept mentioning the date. But that was only at decently reasonable times.   Feels weird knowing that I have no idea exactly how I messed up lol

[Hojo]

@Nito I used to do it. Since my awakening i am able to look back on my life and see what is happening.

Yes ignoring the woman will make her feel safe. When I say ignore i dont mean treat her badly I mean she is just a bro and don't let any weird thoughts come to your mind. The more you think about the woman and her beauty the more you will make her feel uncomfortable. 

No its done consciously the same way a smoker is choosing to smoke. They literally have to meticulously think about these ideas of how to screen men. She could even be fucking around with you with it. Women are more mean than we know. They probably even talk to eachother about how to do these things. They don't know its a survival tactic tho they think they are being smart. Survival tactics are inherently malicious as something needs to die for something to survive.

What these tactics do is create problems because the people get so gaslit they think its them that is the problem when the woman is sitting there schizophrenically making up stories and believing them to be true by the fact that they are putting you through the processes to begin with.

Its like smoking other people. Like a succubus. High manipulation tactics that get deeper the more you become closer. They know they are doing it but deny they are doing it and if you call them out you hate women and and have problems like these woman have done to me for pointing it out. All women will gaslight you when you call their survival tactics out be because they are lying and you can't know they are its their survival tactic. If you know what they are doing they are dead in a sense. They can't control you if you know and women need to control men to survive or at least they need to pretend its happening.

They will keep doing and never admit they are doing it but they know they are.

 

Edited June 17 by Hojo

[meta_male]

55 minutes ago, Nito said:

I wish I heard this earlier haha. Such simple yet great advice. Ty 

No problem. This doesn't apply to just girls though. You keep moving, and if someone wants your attention they better buckle up and join you. You wouldn't ask half these questions if a girl reached out and wanted a date with you. It's more about sharpening your radar and give attention to those who are open to meet you where you're at.