Why do people say "grow up" or "Your too old for x"

[Peo]

My parents always say i am too old for a, b, c and d. Why do older people say that your too old to play with toys, one night stand, partying (Nightclubs/raves), watching porn and certain hobbies. I hate it when people say "grow up" or "your to old"

Why can't we adults in our 20-50 years do what we love, instead of fitting into certain cultural norms. Like why is it wrong for an adult to play at the playground or with toys? I don’t believe we have to sacrifice certain hobbies in life to become more mature. Personally I will never quit porn or weed, I don't care how old I am or what other people think of me. Also if I had a lot of money right now I would start buying toys and lego sets again. I miss being a child I get older. 

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying I want to be unconscious and not grow. I do believe spirituality and personal development is very important in life. Also being financially comfortable, but we should not give up hobbies we love doing, just because it looks immature or childish from society's perspective.

I always get judged for enjoying hobbies that look childish. 

[Yimpa]

This thread might be of service to you:

 

[Carl-Richard]

Do you actually not have any answers or are you just venting?

[Mannyb]

@Peo

Your honesty is refreshing—and powerful. What you’re expressing is something a lot of people feel but are afraid to say: that “growing up” doesn’t have to mean shrinking your joy.

 

Many older people project their fears or unfulfilled paths onto others.
They equate maturity with conformity, seriousness, and suppression—because that’s how they were taught to survive.
But maturity isn’t about giving up what lights you up.
It’s about being conscious of why you do what you do, and living in alignment with your values, not society’s outdated scripts.

 

If building Lego sets, vibing at raves, or enjoying personal rituals keeps you connected to your aliveness, then that is spiritual— it’s true.
What matters is not how something looks from the outside, but how it feels from within.

 

Real growth means reclaiming your inner child, not abandoning it.
And freedom means living a life that’s authentically yours—even if it doesn’t fit in someone else’s box.

 

So build, dance, play. And let them judge.
They might just be watching you live the freedom they never gave themselves.

 

[Yimpa]

3 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

Do you actually not have any answers or are you just venting?

No answers are required. Do not underestimate silent contemplation.

*wakes up*... I'm actually venting about how limiting and confused the adult human brain is!

[Mannyb]

@Yimpa

Heard. No fixing. No framing. Just space.

 

Let the silence stretch wide enough to hold the whole thing.

 

Even the confusion is sacred.

 

[Peo]

@Yimpa Off-topic: Your profile picture is very cute. Wish i had a cute cat like that.