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Yes, tell him. Don't worry about that. Almost every girl I was with has those kinds of fantasies and since I like to be dominant I was really happy to find out.

If you cannot sustain the flaws then just leave. Acceptance doesn't mean being forced to stay.

Acceptance

Normal feminine attraction

@VictorB02 Freaking out is always a lose-lose game. When you freak out, if she didn't cheat, then she will feel your lack of trust, integrity, and self-confidence, so she will act cold (and it might become a self-fulfilling prophecy). If she actually cheated, then why should you even freak out about that? The damage is already done.

She should be willing to stay without any asking. She stays because she's chosen it, not because you've asked for it.

Yes, you definitely can.

A close female friend of mine has been speaking her mind with me about this: She has a boyfriend. She got engaged with him 4 years ago when she was 18 (now she is 22 like me). Since I know her, she has never expressed a bad word about her boyfriend and, on the contrary, she is basically happy with him (good vibes, communication, sex, etc...). Now, the problem is the following. He is her first and only boyfriend, so now she is seriously wondering about how would it be to have sexual experiences with different people. She told me she doesn't want to leave her boyfriend but at the same time, she feels the need to gather more experience in sex while she is still young. She even told me she is thinking of cheating and that she likes me... I take it easy, we actually laugh about that revelation, but she already knows I don't want to be involved in such behavior, plus I'm dating someone else at the moment. The thread is not about me anyway. So, at the end of the day, I'm curious to know what would you do if you are engaged with a quality person but you feel this lack of quantity.

@mandyjw Thank you I hope so. Any suggestion on how? I'm quite skeptical about "taking a break", but it may be a solution. @Axiomatic She wants all the cake also with a cherry on top ahaha Knowing her, she is not going to break up with him. She is not willing to leave the comfortable nest... Do you mean through a psychedelic trip during sex? Ahahah

Ahahahaha I totally got your point now. Basically, you support each other when you need more support, that as normal as it sounds, it makes a lot of sense. Of course, easier said than done. This nuance is quite accurate to describe my friend's problem too Which ways have you found to cope with that? Yeah, both for men and women. I wonder how many people out there have found "the one" at the first shot. It seems a fortune on one side but not so a big deal on the other side ? I've already asked her that, but she cannot reply clearly. She has to dig deeper into it.

Ah okay, so when you are recognizing your set of beliefs (that a man should do x,y,z) then your wife is more inclined to support and help you disrupting those same beliefs. If I got it right then there is great communication between you two!

I'm sorry, I lost you here. What beliefs exactly?

We've been hanging out for two months now, still, I don't feel confident to bring such a big topic. It's a weak spot for me, I don't want to bring negativity into the conversation. Ehmmm next question? Ahahaha No, I didn't. But anyway I have no intention to cheat on her.

I'm too mainstream. Ahahaha Yes, I want to believe this. It is more relieving

Yeah, I probably will. I can't also wait to change diapers ? Mh, I guess I've never passed that phase ?? I feel that it must be the most difficult part to deal with.

It may be due to familiarity that brings boredom... But how do you keep the flame always on? I mean, yes you got to be unpredictable and vary positions, locations, etc... But, at some point, you cannot sustain that.

@tsuki I really appreciated your witness! I often wonder how is to be married ? But despite your thoughts, it seems you really love your wife, right? My parents are still together but I never hear one of them saying "I love you". It's quite sad, they take each other for granted...

I didn't encourage her to cheat, but of course, I told her she is free to do whatever she wants. I won't judge her. She didn't talk about it with anyone except me yet, so I'm actually grateful she chose opening up to me. As you said, it's a tricky situation. I honestly couldn't give her any piece of advice. I ask her some powerful questions and listened, but I didn't provide any answer.

Fortunately, right now I'm quite happy with the number of girls I slept with, so I'm willing to focus on building a quality relationship. But yes, who knows in the future... I mean, I'm 22. I really struggle to believe I can find "the one" at this age. Because of this belief, I can't really let me fall in love 100% even if the girl I'm currently dating is fucking hot and sweet ahaha

* I didn't get you were a girl ahah ** The book I recommended is mostly to develop the masculine side, but if it is for work then it could help you anyway If you are attracting the social circle, it means that your friends choose you for who you are, without "game". If the social circle is attracting you, it means that you behave in such a way in order to be accepted by the group. So, in this case, you have to play a bit of a game. You force yourself to appear smart, friendly, reliable, etc...

As you escalate for sex, in the same way you should escalate for getting into deeper topics.

Aahahahaha You destroyed me here ?

Ahahaha that's funny

If I owned an online forum, I would invent covid in a lab and become a billionaire. Online forums must be running hog wild right now. ?

Is not bad as long as you are able to say "no" and trust your inner voice. Trump is not nice but you don't take him seriously as well (I hope ahaha) Are you attracting the social circle? Or is the social circle attracting you? I don't know whether you define it as a common book, but I suggest "The way of a superior man" by Deida.