NoSelfSelf

All this post is based upon someone elses standards that you try to match to, like if im not this im basically useless, you have your reasons to be where you are at and they dont have to understand, if that really bothers you just say i dont wanna talk about it stay out of my business... Its a deeper issue i know but its like from your pov if those people are not enlightened or in process or getting enlightened they are the worst failiures ever...

These things are out of your hands. Focusing on what you can do and ignore what you can't is only thing i can suggest...

Thats basically self development but you need to reread it and make it part of who you are otherwise its wasted... Trap is to just write and not build it in yourself... If i got you right...

This might be a weird answer but what i found if you dont learn Game(which is tough to explain on here) you will work on outside of yourself and not inside for lasting resaluts all the books is just random thoughts that you mybe use sometimes but dont embody it into yourself because you dont know you so Game is a must. Thats why you could use theory for some brief resaults but it doesnt stick, it doesnt become who you are or its in conflict with who you are... Its like growing in thousands different directions and places not focused on your personal growth everything must be specificly your way otherwise you are pulled in thousand different directions going nowhere... Its really tough to fix health problems because they and you dont understand you so its a hit or miss process waiting for it to hit eventually...

I think you already friendzoned yourself ?

@Razard86 not really its the infinity of your uniqueness that cant be unraveled without self love but i get that it can be said self love

@StarStruck you are not coachable

@Asayake without knowing yourself(theory of yourself) by reading books you will get theories of other peoples lifes, so you will either become a copy of that person or you wouldnt be able to use that theory effectivly for yourself...you probably read so many books and got nothing from them, any growth because without theory of you,you cant know what information you gonna use or how you gonna apply that theory on yourself by just copying it you are not really growing...you have to specifically interpert information and change it so it can fit into a book of you!

Books hurt you if you dont have theory on yourself...

@Razard86 Now i can see so much game in what you said...now im intrigued do you have a method on how you go about making your belief system? im close to that level now (or im full of shit ?)

@Razard86 Its so interesting when you point out someone is full of shit they will try to convince you,how they are not and go on an offence, when you tell them how they pintpoint how you are actually full of shit(agreeing with them)they wont admit they are full of shit they will start to attack you even more ....its interesting ? The more you try to defend how much you are not full of shit thats a cleastar clear sign you are so full of shit that even telescope cant help you... You cant trust those people they can lie to you in so many ways(that you cant trust them) i think its a form of weakness so you must defend.. when i spot that thats one of my biggest red flags in people to avoid or dig deeper...

@Brent Rothwell You are doing it in most safe nice guy way that immeditlly in her mind comes oh he's that guy she put you in that box and says no thanks... When you say shes beautiful she immedietly knows this guy is trying to manipulate me he doesnt even know me... What you said works for those that already have game because they can sense hes that guy... For guy with game it could work anything basically ? Try switching this ,comment on something more than looks go deeper i mean anything than that... Excuse me is also something to cut out you are not excusing yourself to talk to her... But amazing on 400 approaches... You could say hey you cought my curiousity im curious whats behind your looks and your smile i love to eat strawberry ice cream at this time of year actually so heres my number shoot me a text and we will see what flavours you like...im writing on top of my head something like that...

I like to say i aint shit because i dont know what i dont know and you cant learn if you already think you know...

Did you change anything or every approach is the same? Approaching has nothing to do with game

Because everyone lives in a box or prison in your mind.Mind allows you to go outside of it a little but it stops you with sabotaging or negative talk so you can remain the same as you are...there is alot to this breaking outside of your prison its like whole system in your mind working to keep you where you are at... I have whole course on this so cant type it all here ?

Im researching this right now ill be having answers in few months i think.. Thing is first you need to get to your core and then you act from your core Right now you are acting totally outside of your core so you feel like you need to change it but solution is to get there how? Im yet to figure it out...so far practically stop listening to anyone online and generate answers for yourself that could be a little practice... Notice the difference beteween things outside of you like if you identify with group of friends you hang out with or your profession thats why you cant change i mean be at your core mind is plugged in matrix..

Emotional wars are petty and waste of energy, best way is to learn to ignore it inside of you but in my opinion we learn to engage in it because if we show we dont care they will abandon us which is also a manipulation war we learned early on...

Being yourself aka having game,all this things you said is outside of you... Queastion is flawed because you are trying to do it for women that way you made them special and now you cant attract them with yourself but something outside of you... And there can always be someone better looking more masculine but nobody can be you..

@zurew thanks! Now i can lock it

We already talked about it to the death just search the threads... Its a negative take all around with few worshipers

@Superfluo Ironically i think its opposite what do i want to feel then ill offer that, what makes me tick ill offer that to the world and ill just give and no matter if world discard it,ill keep doing me but in calibrated way... Otherwise its manipulation and people pleasing which never works even if you give...

@Emrie You can offer value by talking about yourself but not in a way usually people talk...it has to have some depth like i know this forum where people come to and we share things about life, and you know what i figured some really deep stuff about myself one guy told me how to offer value you know what that is? they would ask more or they will share something depends on a person... You have to see where it fits thats why knowing yourself on a deeper level is crucial like people would ask whats your favourite food and you answer pizza ? You can go in depth why you love that pizza and offer the enthusiasm when you talk about it even make fun of it thats some game You can start saying how you like vampires what they mean to you, point of it all is to show who you are and you can display yourself in amazing ways but first you have to figure you out and see if you really like what you said about that thing does it display you then you can mix playful vibe into that sentence you can practice it home also thats some game you dont need to go that deep if you dont want to.. What you like+why+see if sounds good to you+adding playfulness+leading to what value you wanna offer next... But safest is to listen.. No problem

On a deeper level you cultivate value first in yourself so it all depends on who you are and who you are socializing with.. So you like to have fun and the type of fun you like you offer that fun(value) to others... You like humor so you give value of humor.. You know people you offer value of networking etc. Making people feel good by you feeling good about yourself is best value imo..Experience of you as a person is most important value imo... There is energy behind it offering value vs taking value.. Its in a vibe so you could be asking same queastion and either taking the vibe(value) or giving it tough to write about it... Women are big on this when they feel taking value is happening in approach they will tend to leave immeditely... Showing someone music is a value... Taking them on adventure if its a partner... Anything that you value you can offer to others to see a match so you avoid people pleasing and using it as a manipulation which would be taking value.. Some people tell a joke and wait for reaction thats taking value... On this forum giving amazing insights are offering value while trolls take off value...

@Nilsi Its a rule from @Leo Gura not me but i support it 100% and if you cant follow that rule then consequences are going to be served thats how things function it has nothing to do with me..

@Nilsi Ok im lame but i wont be hating on women because im lame which you say is strong perspective basically...there is no point in discussing it...if i see more red pill spread ill issue points so just beware..