There is no better or worse way to look at reality you look at it as material and non material at the same time it is existence and non existence wrong way is to hold belief that it cant be non material
Nothing wrong in pleasure but it will stop you from living good life=peace of mind...abstain from it until you dont need it(addiction) then you can do it if you really want but there will be no need for it...
In short fake growth is when you get sucessful in something(example you can seduce a nice girl)....real growth is when you dont need something(in this example a girl)you are content/happy without pursuing it(and not lying to yourself)
When i go along with my thoughts i get big urges to succed being better than anyone else(thats not healthy) thats what i meant when i said summoning the ego