NoSelfSelf

Dont try to function properly accept as you are and if you manage that tall task chip away at first thing that pops and do that for years and eventualy you will get there it took me over 10 years to beat social anxiety its still here a little bit that means chip away some more...depression and helplessness comes from you trying to make it different then it is univers is trying to mold you into something more and it gave you this big task to conquer probably not what you wanted to hear thats just my 2 cents...

Nice work ??

Only is she asks you for an advice or you ask so you need an advice? But usually they dont want your pragmatic advice they want to resolve their emotions to feel better its great recipe to be he male girlfriend trying to fix them its a hell to be in ?

Im not good at this but can tell you what i think you are doing wrong...you are putting on a show for a girl and not being real but fake you dont try being not needy try being agressive for her you do what makes you feel good and let it rub on her...

Its usually a self image problem or you dont know who you are and just dabble in everything and getting lost... Not defining your succes so you dont know if you progressed and looking for external validation etc.

Belief is a function in every human being just like a focus, if you focus on your legs thats what your experience will be, like with belief(there are beliefs in your subconcious that run your behaviour tho and believed automaticlly) and function of believing, like you have thoughts my cat is on fire and if you dont believe in it it wont become your experience if you do however ,even tho your cat is not on fire you will feel like it is...

Im on your side on this one you dont want to be part of something thats not natural to you and thats okay,your mom doeant understand you because she doesnt see it as a big deal i would say go out that day somewhere its worst to be among the people you dont want to be(forced) it wont help you and will just make you resent yourself,them and future gatherings...

Her saying you are too pragmatic means she doesnt want you to fix things rather hear her out and ride her emotions making her open up even more...

Usually either you are dealing with a narcissist thats upset because they cant never be wrong(no acceptence of boundaries),they see you as a nice person and get shocked that you expressed yourself in that way or they see you beneth them as a lower value or they are unconcious of their own behaviours not understanding why you got upset mybe because of unclear communication(you dont know how to express your upset so people can understand)..

Nice attitude ?

Enough

You are in specific situation,but i dont belive in it and dont like it a bit...

Do you feel ready to do pick up? If you do then dont look so far ahead, first you have to built a skill,for example can you approach on command and talk for 1 min about something random? If not start there its not like you will approach and get a date and a gf right of the bat mybe you are natural but its not likely...and you dont have to go on a date just built the skill thats the key...

I think its a self esteem issue, you want to be special and feel it from them,you want them to think you are the man and no matter how many sex you get and attention you get you will always crave it because it gives you sense of importance/validation that you are the man that can achieve the goals you set up ... now how to get rid of it its tricky you have to know you are worthy without it...

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Does they help in long run or just making you feel bad temporarily?

@Etherial Cat Yeah i love it tnx for wondering love you <3

Feminism is destroying femininity so feminism is weakness ?

When you get centered in awareness experience is in the space and body exeprience is second ..

Add/Adhd ?

Beware ,that you are the creator of your own world(in advance sense)no matter what time it is, if your mind is a chaos it will always be a chaos...

@Fleetinglife ?

I dont know ,could be million things going on, tiredness is coming from mind that is causing cortisol levels and depression(many other things) and that could be caused by alot of things...

I knew ill open a can of worms with that one,that was my opinion and i added imo, im just saying from what ive seen other people deal with for example one girlfriend broke up with my brother because he didnt have skills to work around the house and thats completely fine..im not even gonna give advice to women on this topic amymore ill just get defensivness and they wont listen to what man wants they selfishly wants everything and expect everything from a man and do little as possible thats my PoV right now so dont get triggered... Me being a mod im not flawless or something we are in here together And if you know better teach me then Then reality will tell me if its true or not.

@somegirl Well from the way you speak like:we would split things and that you already didnt learn to cook(feminine quality) shows me you are type of girl that would go better with decent beta type of guy imo...what you wrote is not unrealistic its realistic but i assume you want even more than that ,you dont give the guy that fits you a chance and you pursue that high quality and you dont want to be submissive and its easily seen by "them"...