NoSelfSelf

Game never ends! Scared of other guys because your game is not great What girl would go for a another guy if you have amazing game doesnt make sense...

@bloomer focused on yourself mean you are going to talk to girls because you want to not influenced by somone or i should be talking to girls...further more when approaching you dont come to them to get them you come to them being yourself showing them what you are all about and if they would like it and not manipulating if you want just sex you should push that not having some secret agenda... No its not gaslighting you just dont see how its not about yourself because you put them beyond yourself...

Mission acomplished

It means putting yourself first! your actions,thoughts,emotions wants are coming together you are not trying to get people you are true to yourself... Analogy:you play with your toys and you are so focused on it that nothing else matter and you are having fun in your world and now other people want to join your world and when they are in your world they play by your rules because you are most attractive when you focused on yourself only... Game is not for her game is for your own self is good saying...

So he wasnt clear from the start that hes only interested in sex and nothing serious?

Thats a pure torture and waste of time and energy dont let her beauty pull you in so hard treat this as something fun nothing serious my opinion...

Depends on your level of conciousness at 0,7 it was hard ?

@Illusory Self Only critique i have is that you texted her with would great to see you sometime soon(unsure asking for approval) you dont do that every text has to have purpose behinde it this one is just lowering your value so if you gonna say that set a date... Doesnt make sense if you vibed and she doesnt wanna see you mybe something was missing i dont know try look situations with the eyes where you put emotions and attraction to the side...

@RMQualtrough Yeah i get that...was in same boat dealing with that and social stuff doesnt go well you gotta work on inner stuff and selectively socialize dont cut yourself completely find ways to be around people but dont need to socialize much for me it was volleyball it helped alot...

Rewatching old ones is best

I mean its what you see based on your beliefs,world views,identity and it focuses on that stuff...some people only see beauty,love,magic of life it has nothing to do with the world its what your mind focuses on to survive better(but in this case doesnt care how "you feel")

@something_else i can understand that if you date for a month but here what i got is they are talking casually(not intent of dating) and he suddenly said that she loves her ?

It was taken down for a reason

@something_else Thats interesting,how long from knowing a girl? Thats put extra pressure on guys and putting them in disadvantage hmm...

You are doing uncalibrated things that makes you come off creepy... Saying i love you to a girl you dont know that well is first...

What this thread turned to i hope guy is not hiccuping like crazy ? @something_else yep cant approach a girl to save his life ?

I understood him until i read this,this is too much in my opinion... Really cant tell nothing from the post actually because ill have to know more about him... But what i learned from people is that stingy person is someone to be really causios off they are not quality people(which im not saying is your boyfriend)

@Someone here when you realize yourself as reality then theres constant fullfilment and happiness that doesnt end basically...where every pleasure ends in material world

Ultimate hedonism is knowing/embodying what reality is...

Good job! Authentic expression is the key!...many guys including me have problems putting it out there because you get stiffled...amazing that you can do it first time ?

If you can have fun with girls that you dont find attractive then you are on a good path it shows you are not reactive,having secret agendas that they could sense...but a all around social guy who doesnt depend on externals to vibe thats the whole point of sociallizing not wanting but giving and if they give back great doesnt matter...im still working on this it doesnt matter who it is as long you are bulding skill and providing yourself and others while not depending on externals...

@Carl-Richard what do you mean by externalizing emotions?

That means you are not learning you are just approaching and doing same thing from approach 1 to 1000 you should fix on the way learn from refrence experiences...

Meditation is just a technique you can add way more powerful techniques in the mix but does end resault worth it? I mean if you wanna be happy just because then yes!

I would say...letting go technique,sedona method,finding the subconcious beliefs about things that makes you anxious(finding why),exposure theraphy,shadow work,deconstructing mind,mindfulness meditation,conciousness work(having attention in neutrality of being)...