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@flowboy have that ever worked for you asking for a relationship right of the bat?

Im aware that im dreaming with my mind and that imagination is not reality but just one aspect of it...to see that you are imagining body etc would need really high levels of conciousness and i dont see whys that important?

Why does it matter if its called girlfriend/boyfriend? If you are having amazing time then sometimes its not even mentioned its obvious whats going on...you shouldnt fixating on that, fixate on being more attractive and having amazing time thats it...

Interesting that you see both sides usually people see only one and fight for that side...embracing both sides equally and making it a whole part of yourself its whats the healithiest and key to being your true authentic expression...

By not trying to put a front to stop being nervous show you are nervous and say that every time someone opens up you get nervous but go on i wanna hear anyway...it gets awkward because its dishonest and it becomes weird...

Overanalyzing comes from not being sure of things (low value) if you are sure and not have to do something extra and watch every step you have to take and do.... Its a shift from i have to do something to make things work(doing) to im the thing that makes things happen(being) Removing mindset ill have to do something to im that thing and if you are that thing you dont overanlayze... Remove layers of whats blocking you from being and stop trying to come logically to what you already are (being) if it makes sense ?... If it all goes wrong then you are confident you will handle the pain now you try to control things to avoid pain... All problems comes from you so you have to come to Im the solution Im confident im sure already no need to overanalyze... Dont know how and what to do just be sure in yourself and thats it ? Its a balance and dance in the end... Edit:its tough to explain and write hope you get something out of it

I think dumb means carefree and not attached to anything, producing most fun as possible, while logical serious makes everything not that fun and reminds them of everday life=boring?

Lets start fresh <3

You pedestelize someone because you yourself think you are not good enough for that person, you see them more special than yourself. I dont know you so i cant say why you think you are not as important as them,its some assumption or belief that you as you are is not good enough <--- probably just that Or could be the fear you wont find great girl like that if she leaves you so you make her more valuable and you become more needy..

Basically all the lies ,deception justifications we do from ignorance...

Because you put her on a pedestal you see her more of a value than yourself so its natural you will lose your charm as long as you see her above you this will happen...treat her looks like nothing special while being around them more often...imagine her without make up and how she looks when shes taking a dump next time she comes around im serious ?

Better way in my opinion is to take psychadelics once or twice a month, then focus on shadow for longer period and go slowly,to me thats common sense, if you went to gym and did it every day all out then you would feel horrible... Too much of good thing is bad...

This is how it goes:in subconcious there are trapped emotions that you supressed because they were unwanted or too much for you to handle, so every time they come up its because you get triggered ,when you get triggered you have to set the intention to identify(shifting focus on) the specific emotion you want to let go(step 1) then you have to stay there and experience it fully(step 2) now dont try to control the process of letting go just with focus and staying on the emotion everything else will be resistence to it and thats why they are trapped in the first place...no control no how do i do it just fully experience it and if you do it "right" emotions will start to shape into something i would call "liquid" emotion they will be experienced for what it is then suddenly they will go by itself and you will feel the relief after that...its actually super easy but ego stepping in and labeling emotion as bad or trying to control the procress is resistence that makes emotion trapped back in subconius... identify shift focus and experience it fully staying on the emotion not the ego/thoughts

@Muhammad Jawad In many cases people respect their parents too much and they should but in this case,when father disrespects you dont respect him back you are too meek in your delivery and still trying to be on good terms even tho someone is disrespecting you...show him his teeth as saying goes, get in a conflict with him that he sees that you truly mean it shake him up show him you mean business even tho if he would shout back or whatever he will secretly earn respect for you... Or just plain avoid him...probably not what people wanna hear from a mod but im real here... Stop being an nice guy and people pleasure or not having danger side of yourself easier said than done...

No. Setting boundaries no matter how enlightened you are,abuse is not something you tolerate...they treat you like that because you allow it and you are an easy target for their insecures egos to get a short lived satisfaction...you could use it to release emotions but still no abuse or toxic behaviour is allowed...

Seems the problem is black and white thinking you either dont say anything about yourself or you unload everything on others(they are not ready for that so use right timing)...being vurnable is saying stuff about yourself and being ready to be hurt thats strenght you are ready to be hurt and people who sees it as a weakness you drop them... When the shame and emotions pop up start asking why do you feel like that so you can detect the belief behinde it...

You are either trolling or have the most insane resaults in history of pick up ? you say to friends i need to borrow her for a second ,make sure she is turning towards you and not seeing her friends, in her world it will be like they dont exist.. you befriend the friends showing them you are not creepy but social dude, if they see you are cool they will let her go

You sound so down but thats impresive dude you manage to pull a girl and you never did it...and with mind that produces panick attack thats like homeless guy owning a villa all of a sudden ?

Becoming something for others to get something from them is never a good idea, its like nice guys trying to be nice to get approval and likes from others..it comes from a weak mindset and frame...to become something of value you do it for self and to bring value to others just because and not to survive better with people just a causion to not go overboard its a balance you cant use just one tactic...

I have friend that we meet once every 3-4 months...i created the list of importance for how much i put in the effort in people, if you are on top you get vip status,if you are on bottom its superficial friendship..rang people based on importance and how much you are in same boat...

Sounds weird but by becoming a victim(seeing its not all your fault) you could move up...

@catcat69123 amazing post ?? Fake front is creation of false self to become liked by others while authentic self=something bad will happen,they wont accept and like you why do you need to be liked? @B_HAZ authentic self dont need to be approved because thats your reward being yourself

First i would regress to talking to clerks in shop then when you feel "ready" when you see a girl you go straight to her without thinking just doing it(have success bar extremely low) the more you do the more mind relaxes...when you start thinking how im gonna do it rather than doing it then mind will find an excuse to not do it...

@Galyna im impressed with people who can do both like leo im not the guy to speak on that i just know thats a good sign you are making serious progress..

Thats exactly what a spirituality process looks like its nothing wrong its a struggle...and all that will pass at the end of the storm