Frylock

The older people in my family, and my friends who are older (when I say older, I generally think 50+ years old) have pretty much been the same for most of their lives. Still going through the same life worries, still closed-minded, still spiritually "poor" i.e. not very high on the conscious scale. This worries me in a way. I can't imagine going another 20, 30 years with very little actualization growth in my life. And yet most of the people that I know, from my perspective, remain in the same rut for the rest of their lives. To me, that seems like hell. I don't want to be stuck in neutral. I know it's not my place to judge others and where they're at in life. But still... I feel bad about how stunted and closed minded people are for very long periods of time.

Yeah. I just want to make a difference in every girl's life that I have had relations with, no matter how small. Or even just people who have opened up to me. I'll never be able to save anyone, or vice versa. But I can operate from a place of unattached love and compassion. That just feels right for me.

I recently came across an old lover of mine. I used to really like this girl, but she had addiction problems and would go AWOL with some bad people. Anyways, she was opening up to me about her current boyfriend... how he doesn't care for her despite her trying to be his everything. How he's unkempt (barely showers), lazy, and how she tries to "fix" him. She showed me a picture of him, and he's a grotesque overweight man. She said he's been talking to other girls behind her back, and that broke her. Here you have a very beautiful woman, with an unattractive man with not many redeeming qualities at this point, and she's pouring her heart out to me and crying, saying how he doesn't love her as much she does him. This really fucked with my psyche. I know both men and women make the mistake of trying to "fix" someone, because of some disturbing emotional needs, insecurities, etc. She told me she dated down because it made her feel more valuable. I don't know... this just really disturbs me. I guess because I don't look for a partner to fix, or one to fix me. I think that's such an unhealthy balance. To see an old flame of mine so heart stricken, completely unable to see her own value, beauty, and worth... it was heart wrenching for me. But that's just the way it goes I guess.

What are some ways to build up mental toughness? I hate to say it, but I'm mentally weak right now. So far, I know doing the following things on a consistent basis will help me become stronger: -Meditation -Cold showers -Spending time in nature -Working out -Pickup/social freedom exercises Any other ideas?

Pretty much everyone has bad experiences with rejection. But I will say, those reactions by guys were over the top and childish. Hopefully men in their 20s aren't going to act like children, and if they do, they're just stupid idiots not even worth the time.

I don't know why women feel like the guy always has to do the initiation. Out of the few times women have approached or initiated me, I greatly respected them for it. Any normal guy should too.

Probably. I'm going based off exactly what she told me... that she thought she could fix him. I don't know the dynamics more than that, but that's just unhealthy and disempowering. I hear you. I only ran into her at a house party, so I doubt I'll see her again. I do give people who open up to me the time of day. Not for any selfish or white knight reasons... I can never "save" anyone from their pain. It just doesn't work that way. I just needed to share this, get it off my chest. I've never seen someone devalue themselves to the degree that this woman has, and since I have that old connection with her, it does disturb me in a way. I'll get over it... I just hate to see this kind of thing.

Anyone else snicker when you hear someone say that? Ain't nothing is serious.

Most times this is said, people aren't in critical danger. Even then, nope.... Still not serious.

I don't think enlightenment means total "fuck you" to society and our systematic ways. You can still have a family, love one another, and enjoy life for what it is.

Isolation gives you time to reflect, contemplate, slow down, and look at life objectively without being caught in the whirlwind of social games. This is why it can be helpful for self-development, so long as you have some basic level understanding of awareness and introspection.

Ayyyyy

I think categorizing women in tiers is a dangerous trap. Your mind is creating these hierarchies, and yes, it has been socially influenced. But every woman is beautiful in her own unique way. You may vibe better with one girl than another, but it doesn't make the other girl low quality. I dunno. I've been thinking about this lately. I think accepting people as they are, without the notion that they lack something, is just a healthier modus operandi.

I never said it was bad, in general. But it can be a limiting mechanism in certain cases.

Absolutely not I don't blame him. But societal conditioning, plus the ego's attachment to comfort zones, will lead to greater suffering down the road.

You have a lot of mental roadblocks, hurdles, and preconceived notions about sex, dating, relationships. Trust me, I know where you're coming from. Just relax... peel off all of those layers and ideas you have about the opposite sex. Work on your inner (self-awareness, mental barriers) and outer (style, conversation) game. A woman that you want isn't just going to be delivered to your house. Online dating is a game of near certain failure for men. You've gotta go and put yourself out there, physically. You're too young to give up on something you know you want. Don't waste years of your life like I did.

Leo's got that cult of personality. Not that it's a bad thing... Most people really don't care to listen to someone who doesn't have a charismatic persona. There's definitely a niche for someone who, in essence, brashly says "Wake the fuck up, idiot!" It's moving and inspiring.

Why does it take so much time and focus and effort to get that feeling? Why does it take a drug like DMT to get the feeling? Imagine a heroin addict wanting to get high, or alcoholic wanting to get drunk. No amount of inquiry or yearning will make them feel the sensations of an altered consciousness. That's how I feel about DMT. It so-called brings you together with infinity... but you've gotta extract it from some animal somewhere. And sitting around meditating for years ain't gonna get you high like a drug.

You can't trick yourself into actually believing something if you don't feel it. Rather than saying "I'm awesome!" and trying to believe it, just say to yourself something like "How would I behave if I felt like I was awesome? What would I do? And what's the alternative to not feeling that way?" At least that way you're not trying to deceive yourself. Rather, you're coming at it from an observant perspective.

Survival instincts are deeper entrenched than egos. If I were to theorize why we identify with our egos, I'd say it has to do with how our tribal communities evolved, and how we played specific and niche roles in a society. If you forget your role, you're likely not going to be able to act consistently in keeping the group's goals in-tact. But then, you're at the mercy of society and its expectations from you.

It all depends on what you want. Some guys and girls want to explore many sexual possibilities, others care more for a long-term relationship with one partner (which are difficult to maintain after several years, anyhow).

So then DMT is like a Starman? Temporary godlike power-up? But that's what psychedelics are... an alternative high state. One that supposedly can possibly make you realize the absolute. But who' to say that's the absolute? Why not drunk or high? Good post though. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I want to be able to relax in public too, so it gives me some hope.

No one became enlightened through happiness, right?

The only way to handle negative emotions is to accept them. Emotions are a physical sensation in the body. Shine your light of awareness on the physical sensation. Don't judge it or put a label on it, just be with it. This is how you process emotion in a non-toxic way. You'll never get rid of negative emotions, as they're part of being human. This is a trick I recently learned. I haven't found a better way of dealing with something like, say, a breakup.

To some extent, there is some levels of truth in RedPill's madness. However, instead of stepping outside of the boundaries of their comfort zone and actively working to adapt to understand women and psychology, they'd rather just be bitter about it. I don't think any type of community that festers such a closed mind about human relationships can be considered helpful in too many ways.