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Well, I'll try that. However, I don't know how I will be able to handle the times when I get so down and so preoccupied about other things in my life while I am working. I get so easily distracted by all of these thoughts and feelings.

Oh, so anyone who is a forum member can access these vids? Yeah, I tend to overthinking on what to do, in almost every area of my life. I have generalized anxiety disorder. However, I am also sensitive to emotional pain, and tend to have more meltdowns than the average person does when something that means a lot to me doesn't go the way I want or wanted it to go.

I dare all of you Incels, TFLs, and MGTOWs, who don't ever or hardly ever approach women, to approach at least 20-40 girls a week. Don't worry about getting the number. Don't even try to get it. Just go up to them in any public venue including on the streets and talk to them for about 1-2 min. each. However, make sure that you move around enough and away from security guards as much as possible so that you don't jeopardize yourself to possibly getting kicked out of a place just for talking to women. It's stupid when these guys try to 'protect' women from threats or from being harassed by innocent respectful men, but it has happen before to some guys including myself. Just watch out for the rent-a-cop knuckleheads out there. As long as you approach women in a respectful manner then you shouldn't be kicked out from a public place or at least don't deserve to be kicked out. Also, while you are much less likely to get into trouble with girls on the streets, don't try to stalk them after they've walked away from you and or politely excuse themselves twice in a row from you or yell at you to fuck off or what have you. You can still get into trouble with cops on the streets. However, as long as you again approach women in a respectful manner and talk to them politely and respect their wishes to leave the convo if they so desire to, then it's very unlikely if not practically impossible for you get into any real trouble with the law.

Yeah, where are those vids, Azote? Faye, I think I do love her, but I am not sure. I mean I've never been in a real long-term relationship ever before. Though, I do feel so attached to her. She's also great in her personality and we've had little drama so far. My parents have actually gotten to know her and they think that she's really a keeper. I don't know what to do. Btw, is it cool if we talk through DM?

Wait guys, I actually forgot to mention that monogamy is not going to work for MOST people because MOST people inevitably cheat on their partners, especially if they have been with them for several years. This is because people in monogamous relationships after a while get so bored with their partners and the old relationship energy they have had for so long. This is especially true if you have a high sex drive and even more true if you are with a partner whom you never really were that attracted to. Most people who have been with a long-term partner won't admit to this and if you ask A LOT of them how great their relationships has been overall, they will instead say stuff like "we've been happily in love and together for 'X amount of years' and not once have we ever cheated on each other." However, the reality is that most people have and will continue to inevitably cheat on their partners. Some of it is due to personal financial issues, incompatibility, individual character faults, etc. However, the truth is that most people were never designed for monogamy ever. Leo, you even said that one of the main reasons why monogamy has always been dominant virtually all cultures around the world is because humans in general have constantly been heavily indoctrinated by religion, the media, practically everyone's family, friends, etc. to have this deeply ingrained belief that monogamy is the "one and only way" to have a truly meaningful, moral, and practical long-term relationship with someone, especially when it comes to marriage. Yet at the same time we of course were never meant to be any sort of polygamist relationships. This is also why polygamy also never has worked out for any human ever (except for an incredibly small amount of individuals who would basically be considered to be the anomalies of sex and love). Damn it! I can't believe I forgot about this. I still am at a lost on what to do.

Ah I see. So, it's more about how much I honestly want a polyamorous relationship or not.

I am sorry that your ears will never be the same, according to you and your doctor. I can’t imagine what it’s like to have your condition. However, I am glad to hear that at least your ears have gotten a lot better. Do they feel comfortable throughout most of the day each day compare to before when it was constantly excruciating?

I am so sorry about all of this, man. You seem like a fundamentally good person. Has your ear condition gotten any better? Unfortunately, this is too complicated for me to answer well, but I truly feel your pain. I think that has to be some way to be able to do both your desires and be with your daughter. Some experts on here who are more qualified than me, should give you much better responses. Hang in there, man.

Mr. Gura?

In case you guys missed my question again. Bump

Wait, I know what you mean, but I am confused. Didn't you say in one of your vids that we humans are actually naturally designed to be polyamorous and in fact we are some of the biggest sluts in the whole animal kingdom? I remember you saying that monogamy is very hard for us humans to maintain, especially when it comes to committing to a partner for a lifetime. Also, I've been told by many male dating coaches who don't believe in the idea of being a manipulative pick up artist, BUT have said that all young men (from about 18-35 years, maybe even a bit older than that) should not focus their dating and sex life on finding a girl or woman to be in a serious long-term relationship and they instead should use their youth as a golden opportunity to experience dating, hooking up, and having fun with as many girls as their are attracted to as possible for at least a few years (especially if you are a newbie to dating, sex, and understanding women in general). Even though I am 30 turning 31 in a couple of days and already missed out a lot on experimenting with SO MANY girls during my 20s (especially during my early and mid 20s), I am still definitely young enough to do it. IN FACT, contrary to what a lot of guys may believe, men are actually in their SEXUAL PRIME when they are in their 30s, maybe even in their 40s as well. Now, I never condone being dishonest with women EVER, especially when it comes to discussing with them what my intentions are with them. Hell, I've never cheated on anyone and don't ever intend to do so because of my morals, honor, and respect for women. Plus, I have no respect for people who betray good, innocent people in any sort of way. That's why I always honest with women about my intentions, whether I am looking for something serious or not. Also, why have dating coaches said that it is fine to dating and sleep with multiple people so long as you communicate to her in an honest and respectful manner that even though you appreciate them, you still are not looking for anything serious and/or want to see other people? I am not trying to argue with you for the sake of it or say that you are totally wrong. I am just very bewildered right now and would very much appreciate it if you could please provide me with some needed clarification on all of this.

I believe that embracing either your masculinity and femininity is part of what makes you confident overall. We both have a certain amount masculinity and femininity depending upon our gender and how much we embrace the roles of our gender. That being said, ideally men should have predominantly masculine energy and women should have predominantly feminine energy, regardless of your overall personality and whether you are heterosexual or homosexual or bisexual or queer. The only exception to this would be those who ABSOLUTELY 100% TRULY deep down believe and are certain that they were born with the wrong gender and as a result desire to be transexuals. However, there have recently been a lot of transgender people out there who actually have or at least want to de-transition back to their original gender because they end up thinking or realizing that changing their gender was a mistake. I think from what I learned is that generally the reason why some transgenders de-transition back to their original gender is because they realize that changing their gender really was a means to change their identity completely in order to psychologically escape from the pain of having been sexually traumatized before. Anyways, masculinity is not just about being strong, brave, and confident. It's also about being dominant, aggressive, and rational. In contrast, femininity means also being strong, brave, and confident in a way pertaining to being a woman. However, it also means being submissive, complaisant, and emotional (intuitive, being more in touch with your emotions, and being more emotionally aware of others).

Ah, so if you are 100% certain that your physical health is perfectly fine overall, then have you talked to a therapist with a Ph.D or Psy D. before? Btw, if you eventually are able to effectively manage your social anxiety in any social situation, then you may have a higher sex and social drive than you thought.

Oh okay. Well, that might explain why your interest in girls is low, let alone your desire to work on getting better with women. Let me ask you this? How's your overall physical and mental health? Also, do you wish to increase your sex drive? If so, have you seen a legit medical doctor (Ideally an endocrinologist who specializes in diagnosing, treating, and possibly curing any problems related to your hormones) to check to see how high your testosterone levels and the levels of other hormones in you pertaining to your libido are? If yes and if you and your medical doctor(s) have judged with 100% accuracy and confidence that all of your hormones are within the normal range of levels, then have you talked to a psychiatrist or psychologist with either an either a Psy D. or Ph.D in psychology?

Then why did u come on here asking us how to get better with girls? I understand that you feel lost and confused. I was too until I finally began to truly crack the code to life. Also, are you 100% heterosexual? Furthermore, how high is your sex drive?

That's the beauty of working on your social skills/charisma and being more masculine and feminine. Practically everyone can improve there's significantly to the point of being to the level of people who have always had an above average ability to connect with others, captivate them, and project their inner masculinity/femininity (depending upon your gender and perhaps sexual orientation). Now, this doesn't mean that everyone can reach the level of the top 1% of people in the world who were naturally gifted with the potential to become one of if not the GREATEST OF ALL TIME legendary leaders (within the field of politics, business, religion, and what have you), inspirational orators, phenomenal actors, top salespeople, devious con-artists, daters/players/pick-up artists, popular/famous people, heroes, etc. Unfortunately, not everyone will be achieve to achieve that level of Magnetism. However, if the average man wants to have a very happy life including having a great fulfilling sex, dating, romance, and social life and having a very fulfilling career and life/purpose that he has a passion for and makes him wealthy then he does need to have the level of charisma/social adeptness of Julius Caesar, Henry VIII in his prime, Clinton, Obama, JFK, MLK jr., Jesse James, Don Corleone, Jesus Christ, Muhammed the muslim prophet, Daniel Day Lewis, Matt Damon, Heath Ledger, the most well-known dating/player/seduction gurus, Casanova, Marcus Luttrell. He just needs to work as hard as he can to becoming a charismatic, popular, and sexually attractive man who also has a highly successful and very lucrative profession. I totally understand how guys like you feel. Believe me, I used to feel so hopeless over the idea that the women I want will never really like me or be truly attracted to me because I have Asperger's and I am not so fun. However, I changed that situation positively A LOT over the past few years by working extremely hard on my social skills/charisma, masculinity, and self-confidence. I still have ways to go of course, but I know now that if I continue to work hard at all of this and actually be even more consistent with practice I put in to improve overall, I will eventually get even dramatically better overtime than I am now.

lol. says who?

Hey man, you situation sounds very similar to mine. In fact, despite having been always considered to be an extremely good looking guy my whole life I lost my virginity when I was 27 turning 28. Even though many girls would flirt with me middle school, high school, and college, and even a few of them asked me to be their girlfriend, the reason why I still waited so long to lose my V-card is because I had ridiculously high standards for finding the "right one" to lose my virginity too, was too much of a germaphobe when it came to actually making out and having sex, got too addicted to watching porn and jerking off, and lacked both the social skills and confidence to get laid with a girl I really wanted to bang (like one whom I thought was at least approx. a 7 out of 10 in my eyes). Hell, I never got a real solid girlfriend until I was 30 (which actually happened as of this year). Eventually, I got tired of waiting, feeling unbelievably frustrated sexually, and feeling like I couldn't do anything about my social and sexual situation. Therefore, I eventually decided to do something about all of this by working on both my social and seduction skills along with having done a ridiculous amount of research over the years on how to improve these skills that I really needed to work on. My first year consisted of actually putting in as much work (as I could afford to do time-wise) on improving my social confidence, improving my social skills/charisma, learning to become more masculine around women, building the guts to approach random women in virtually any venue, doing A LOT of online dating, getting over my fear of catching germs when kissing, making out, and having sex with girls, making realistic standards (though still always high) for the girls to possibly get physical with, going out with some wings to hit on girls in various places during various times of the day, continuously doing more research on building social and seduction skills, communicating with many dating experts and others who have good game with women, learning from the mistakes I made along the way in my interactions with women, and cutting out a little bit of the porn and masturbation all to find a reasonably cute girl to sleep with. As a result of all of this, I made outs with several hot girls I met in bars, clubs, online dating, etc. and I ultimately was able to lose my virginity to asian girl (who I found out cheated on her bf with me) whom looked cute enough to me to want to have sex with. A couple weeks later, I had sex with another girl. Afterwards, I was able to get more a lot more dates, some more make-outs with more girls, and get laid with about 2-3 more girls per year on average, for 2 years. Finally, I got a girlfriend whom I've been with for over 8 months now. Now, I am not saying that you had to necessary put in this much work on your self to get the results I got with women, my social and sexual confidence, my social/charisma and seduction skills, etc. In fact, if I actually truly had the time before to devote myself to go practically everyday to a really large city and/or college campus population-wise for me to approach at least 10-20 cute/hot girls a day everyday during the past few years, then I am very certain that my results would have sky rocketed to the point of having very little approach anxiety around girls and probably would have ended up sleeping with at least 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, or maybe more than that. Btw, A LOT of dating, sex, romance, approaching random girls, even getting girls you like from your social circle(s) is a numbers game. Check out this link below. These stats holds true for practically every man out there in the world, regardless of how high of a social status he has in the whole world, how good-looking and sexy he is, how rich he is, and/or how socially and sexually charismatic he is, how confident he comes off to women and even people in general, etc.:

It's not about pretending at all. I do agree with you 100% that everyone has to be absolutely the real you that's inside you. In the case of man, it's about bringing out that masculinity from within. Most men these days have become too feminine, which has made them too emotional, too needy, too insecure about themselves, and too unassertive. In actuality, most men are hiding behind a facade that neither shows at all what it means to be a man nor allows them to speak their desires and intentions as a man. Why do you think that most men don't have the balls to go up to a woman they are really attracted to and tell her with solid confidence that the real reason he is talking to her is because he thought and felt that she looked cute, beautiful, pretty, gorgeous, hot, sexy, etc.? Why do you think that most men don't want to be the one's to decide and state what they really want to do on a date(s) and where they want to go to on a date(s) and when they want to go on a date? Why are most men too afraid of being sexual and making the moves on her because he wants to admit to her or clearly demonstrate that he honestly wants to sleep with her and possibly be a potential boyfriend/husband instead of just pretending or giving off a false impression of wanting to be just friends with her? All of this is because because most men are TOO AFRAID TO BE DIRECT with a woman. They don't want to risk getting rejected or even coming off as a creep (which to SOME degree is a risk that every strong man has to take with women). Sadly, they are also so many out there too who never grew up with a father or an older man who could be not just like a father to them, but also one who could be a strong masculine father figure to them. Consequently, these guys never got to look up to someone who could really teach and show them growing up how to be a man, let alone experience true manhood. Yes, an ideal relationship consists of interdependence and mutual respect. However, it is a man's responsibility to take the lead and initiate almost everything with a woman. Most men are beta-male providers who get with certain women who only got into a relationship with them or married them primarily for their money and/or other means of providing for her. A lot of women also like to take advantage of these kinds of guys whom they can control and gain so much attention and validation from. Also, most women who are not with a dominant man eventually get tired of being in charge with setting up the dates they go on, handling all sorts of family and household matters, their finances, the sex they have, how much time they need to spend together, setting their goals for their careers, etc. Eventually, these women will lose all respect for their man, and more than likely cheat on or leave him for another man who hopefully can be a real man for her. Now, you may say that alpha males are not sexy, but when you come across a man who is one, then you will be turned on by him inevitably. You may feel somewhat uncomfortable with the raw masculinity he exudes even if you see him and you may not even like him at all in any sort of way from the get-go. Nevertheless, the fact is that when you are in the presence of a man's man, provided that he interacts with you as respectful gentleman, you will undoubtedly be so extremely influenced by him to at least give him a great amount of respect. This is because you see that he without a doubt stands out from the rest of the men as a man who is strong, brave, confident, centered, rational, decisive like a leader, has some level of charisma, street smart, is respected by other men, is on his life purpose, can protect her on some level, etc. Now, I am not trying to say that I like or even respect those "bad boys" who are completely abusive assholes or manipulative, conniving douchebags. I see these guys as the scum of the earth with no honor and no respect or real love for women, let alone for themselves deep down. I am talking about good men who have a backbone and genuinely respect and love women completely 100%, but at the same time are very masculine. These guys are like the true male heroes of dating, sex, and romance. While they are alpha males they also have a benevolent character overall. Now I will say that the "bad boys" who are good with women are not as a common as the contemporary "nice guys" out there. Hell, the "good men" out there who are good with women are even less common then the "bad boys." Some say that the "good men" that exist are like 1 in a million. This in fact makes the men who worked very hard to achieve such a rare status inevitably stand out as like the top 1-3% men for women. However, we need A LOT MORE MEN to strive to become like the real heroes of dating.

Hey man, glad you came on here. What everyone is saying here is definitely good legit advice. Btw, Ross is actually my real first name. Anyways, there are some things that I want to add here. There are a number of factors that we need to consider regarding why looks alone will rarely ever be enough for guy to pull the girls he wants. Let's dive into this. One reason for this is that naturally most women DO NOT ever make the first move on a guy, let alone take the lead in any interaction with a guy they are interested in due to the fact that the great majority of them are too afraid of getting rejected just like the great majority of men get too nervous approach the hot girls. The second reason, is that even though the feminist movement has greatly influenced women in general to be more strong, independent, assertive, and in some ways act more masculine, in virtually all areas of their lives, this has actually not been the case when it comes to dating, sex, and romance. There have been more women these days that have taken it upon themselves to go up to the guy, talk to him, ask for his number, ask for a date, etc. However, again, most women are too afraid to be that forward with a guy. This has been one of things that has been lagging with the whole feminism thing. Usually this is because A LOT of women are afraid of coming off as a sexually aggressive woman, because of the fear of being slut-shamed by others or society (even though, in most cases more men actually would really like it if she is very forward). This is true, regardless of where or how a girl meets you whether it be through your social circle of friends, from cold approach within any random environment, online dating, etc. So, having said all of this, most women naturally decide to leave it to the guy to be the man and take the initiative and lead with practically everything. This means that with most women (again, not always), you as the man are expected to be the one to approach the girl, start the conversation, ignite the sexual energy between you and her, lead the interaction, take control of the frame within an interaction along with what topics you discuss with women, sexually escalate with her, be the one to get her number, be the one to set up the date(s) (including time, place, and day), lead with calibration to you kissing her then making out with her and then to having sex with her, physically lead her to a certain place(s). Essentially, you are usually expected to be the leader with pretty much everything you do with and say to the girl no matter how good looking you are (even if you look like Brad Pitt, George, Idris Elba, Tyrese Gibson, Michael B. Jordan, Chris Hemsworth, Ashton Kutcher, Henry Cavill, etc.). Also, some women will feel too insecure or too intimidated to deal with a good looking guy because they are afraid of being played by them, despite them actually jumping the gun. The second reason for why just being a good-looking guy is not enough is that women are not as visual and logical as men are. Yes, they may think that a certain guy they see looks hot and may likely give him the chance to have a good start with her in the approach. However, if during the approach he says or does something that she thinks or feels sounded too awkward or weird then she will probably, if not for sure, end the convo either by excusing her self and walk away from him or will say in some sort of way that she wants to end the interaction with him because she's no longer interested in him. This is because biologically speaking, women's sexual attraction to men (assuming she is straight) is more based on their intuition and emotions than how visually and logically they find a certain a man attractive. Why do think that their still aren't as many women who watch porn as much as men do, especially when it comes to watching straight male dominated porn? Believe me, and I don't like to brag, but I've actually been told pretty much all of my life that I am an extremely good looking guy who should have been an actor or model, and yet I got rejected by hundreds of women I like. Most of women I like have and will always say no to me for a date and/or sex. Therefore, there feelings about a certain guy tend to be more fluid than a man's, which means that their emotions will tend to change more frequently than a man's. However, if you know how to inspire a woman to feel positive emotions and even more so get her on an emotional roller coaster that really engages her, then you will greatly influence her to be very attracted to you not just socially, but also sexually as well. This is why it is absolutely crucial for men to develop their personal charisma as much as possible. This means that it is immensely important for a man to improve his overall social skills as much as possible, including the ability to intelligently read and understand other people especially women's emotions and non-verbal cues, the ability to listen to people especially women well, the ability engage others verbally and physically on a very emotional level, the ability to emotionally connect well with others including women as much as they can, the coolness of the clothes and accessories they wear, how in style and congruent their haircut and facial hair (possibly beard or mustache) is, their personal hygiene, their wit and sense of humor, and possibly their ability to effectively organize and lead social circles and events, etc. Also, last, but not least is the fact that men HAVE GOT TO ACT MASCULINE/DOMINANT AND AUTHENTIC. Why do you think most women get turned on by the alpha males? Because not only do they act very confident, which in and of itself is very attractive trait (even for women to have), but also these very, if not hyper-masculine men project dominance and aggression around women (without being a creep or perv). WOMEN LOVE TO SUBMIT TO A MAN THEY AT ARE ATTRACTED TO (AT LEAST TO SOME DEGREE) WHO TAKES PRIDE IN BEING IN CHARGE OF HER. This is because submissiveness and passivity are more feminine traits and dominance and physical aggression are more masculine traits. Furthermore, they actually respect and get turned on by a man who physically sexually escalates on them all the way to kissing to making out to having sex. Even though a lot of women these days are taking pride in being a strong, independent women who seize the opportunity to strive for success, money, and power (including leadership roles), deep down when it comes to social and sexual matters practically all straight women want to be dominated by a man for the most part, even if she is married to him. Men of course involve their own intuition and emotions in deciding how attractive they find a certain woman to be, but during the beginning stages of dating guys decide how attractive a chick is primarily by her looks and tend to naturally deal with her on a more logical level. Btw, women in general are also actually more attracted to a man who has high status than a man with good looks even if he looks super hot. They also find men who looks fit and somewhat muscular (not to the size of a pro bodybuilder or powerlifter or strongman competitor) sexier than a pretty boy who looks scrawny. Though again, looks can only do so much to attract most women in general. So looking like a hot muscular dude will still only help you a bit.

Hey guys, it's been a while since I was last here on this forum. I have a burning question that I've lately been wanting to get answered. My question has to do with whether or not women often get approached constantly. I've been hearing from various dating experts including dating experts such as Locario, 33secrets, Mystery, etc. that women, especially the cute girls get approached all the time wherever they go because they are the ones who usually wait for the man to do the approach like tradition dictates and there are so many horny guys out there who are trying so hard to hit on practically any girl they think they can get either just to get sex or to desperately get a girlfriend. However, I've been hearing from a myriad of dating experts such as Hayley Quinn that most women don't get approached much if ever at all. In fact, she even did an social experiment vid where she stood out in the city of London for a long time, and even tried out various clothing styles to see which type of clothing styles would get her the most attention and attract the most amount of guys to approach and flirt with her. The results at the end of the experiment were that no guys really ever tried to hit on her at all, regardless of how sexy or stylish she looked. So, I am confused by this contradiction of information between the various the dating experts out there. Which or what do you think is actually the truth, guys?

So, I decided to write a personal diary of my own here, because I have absolutely no other place to vent my anger, fear, and other forms of "negative energy" without getting banned or alienating others. I don't expect anyone here to respond to me here, but I do ask that I don't get banned from here for complaining and dumping countless amounts of negativity on here. I've already been banned from a number of other sites for doing that and have been warned by some instagram users and people on multiple skype chatrooms that they will ban me if they see another word of whining or some other form of negativity from me. Also, my parents are tired of hearing me complain and it's not like I can have an unlimited amount of therapy sessions from my psychiatrist or psychology. Hotlines, aren't available either. I don't know where else to go. This world fucked up in so many ways and I am doing everything I can to live in it.

So, I hope this doesn't offend anyone, but I am getting tired of looking up porn and getting myself off privately. However, I have a high libido and am craving for sex. Yet, I can't find any girl through legal means to help me blow off some steam, if you know what I mean. Leo has mentioned before that you can't just meditate away and wait for it to pass, unless you are well over 40 years old and have had an ample amount of sexual/love experience with a girl (or girls) in your life. However, I don't want to pay for a hooker, because I don't want to risk getting into trouble with the law. Hell, I don't even have much money of my own and my helicopter mom tries to make sure that I don't just try to have sex with a random stranger. What am I supposed to do about this?

Everyday, I keep having the thoughts and feelings in my head over and over again that I will never become successful or achieve my dreams. I know that there are no guarantees in life, as much as it is a cliche. However, these nagging thoughts keep telling me that I may never get no matter how much work I put into it. Leo was indeed right when he told me that I have a victim mindset. I remember watching very thoroughly his Youtube vid where he talks about the stages including :being a victim, then becoming a fighter, then creator, and finally being peace. I am obviously still on the victim stage and here’s the crazy part about all of this. I am second degree black belt in a martial art and have been training in the art for almost 11 years. Plus I devoted over 4 years of my life to heavy weightlifting and bodybuilding. Also, I’ve been training for a half marathon for over 5 months now. I’ve been through so much training (not as much as a Marine soldier of course). Yet, I still feel and think like a victim. I am having trouble generalizing my developed willpower from all of the physical activity I’ve done over the past several years into all of my other areas of my life.

I see. So they may or not give you another chance after a certain amount of time has passed.