Tyler Robinson

Thanks a lot for the kind words.

LOL. Once my bf hit me with a pillow because I was trying to fight him like a mock fight But he wouldn't stop hitting my head with the pillow. Bully. It began to hurt. And he wouldn't stop. Some guys love to act like kids. He was a headache. He even placed his big heavy leg on me while I was asleep. I woke up with a sore on the spot. After that I never allowed him to sleep next to me. He was asshole.

Explaining people that spirituality is a journey and not a destination.

@integral I think my love for him was crazy in the beginning and then turned into compassionate love. Although I consider compassion as the highest form of love. My love for him was like a service. I was always there for him. I didn't expect anything from him other than loyalty. He on the other hand was very shallow and thought that it was okay to cheat on women I was strict about loyalty. For him it was a convenience relationship. He needed me as a personal therapist and listener. He was using me as emotional diaper. And I was not able to separate my empathy for him. After the breakup, I grew up big time, got rid of that useless empathy and walked towards self love. Now whenever he plays victim and starts how he is so lonely, I don't feel any sympathy for him anymore. I'm able to attend to my own needs better. I don't even reply if I don't feel like replying to him or if I have some work. Before I used to reply to his every text, sometimes I would not even eat food because he wanted to talk to me. I was like that with him. But I changed a lot and went through a lot of growth. It was a spectacular recovery from who I was before. I was too naive. Too trusting. Then I learned to question people and be critical and not give power to others. Long process. Took a year. Tremendous growth.

@integral I really don't know what true love is according to you.

I told him that I don't want him. He gets pissed off every time I tell him that there's no chance. He disappears and then comes back and starts a conversation to see if I'm still ready to go back to him. Rinse and repeat. I have decided that I will never forgive a cheater. He acts like a child.

Maybe that's why I always see rich ladies with great husbands. Sad face. Some of these ladies don't even look good and neither have good character and they somehow always have the best men who never leave them.

Please start immediately. This thought always takes me back to that proverb - it takes a village to raise a child.

@integral Yes I have truly loved. But he cheated on me. That was the only guy I truly loved. Because even when the attraction died, I was still with him and wanting him. That time I knew it wasn't just attraction. Too bad he realized it much later when the other woman dumped and cheated on him. Just yesterday my Norwegian ex sent me this message feeling regret for cheating on me.

My arms are long and my wrists are soft and tiny. My body is soft like a pillow. So I don't think I'll last long if I fist fight a guy. I have never taken the risk of fighting a dude physically. I generally lack the adrenaline rush needed for such things and my stamina and strength is pretty low. I don't remember if I ever had a physical fight. I'm usually introverted and peaceful and stay in a corner in crowds.

It's generally used for bad

That's all I needed to know.

Sex is necessary for survival of the species. No turn-on, no sex. No sex. No pregnancy. No survival. Boring guy. No turn on. No sex. No survival. Sexy guy. Turn on. Sex. Survival. Survival programming code baked in female brain.

Yet guys are attracted to such women just like women are attracted to the biggest losers, assholes, narcisists, abusers, and scumbags.

You want women to use logic. But you forget an important fact. You men reward us not for our logic but for our emotions. Imagine a plastic doll who looks hot but it doesn't move, just sits there. You won't feel like wanting her, you'll try to sniff her and then walk away bored even if she is hot. Even if you did touch her and play with her, you'll bored quickly. But if you imagine a living breathing woman who is smiling, laughing, giggling, crying, yelling, screaming, moaning during sex, her mouth opens and moves, her eyes sparkle, her face brightens up when she is emotional or giggling, that's what you find attractive about her as a man, you feel her warmth, she becomes interesting and sexy to you and you reward her with sex and attention. So it's not like you are discouraging or negatively reinforcing a woman for her emotional behavior. You actually love it and positively reinforce it by being attracted to it. And logic and emotion don't mix well She can't be boring and interesting at the same time.

It's not about physical strength. Men don't want to hit a woman. Their primal instinct is to protect not hit unless they are raised like chimpanzees. Some men want to hit women but they don't want others to see so they will verbally shame her, it's the equivalent of throwing a physical punch but softer. Women haters generally. That's why men should masturbate. Reduces the hate.

Notice: you wouldn't be sitting there typing on the forum without that pastime. How do you wish to say thank you?

But emotions also make you love a child unconditionally. A woman has to be a mother at some point.

I want to look at this a bit more positively and in a wholesome way. I believe that men are leaders and women are followers (not in a sexist way, in a cooperative way). If women were exactly like men, very logical, orderly, very intelligent like men, then if a man married a woman, it would be like marrying another man. How will there be polarity and chemistry? What will complement a woman, what about a man will impress if she had everything that a man has? We like men if they are physically strong, because we aren't that strong. We like a man who is a good leader, precisely we can't be that. We like a man who takes good decisions and is logical because we can't be that. Attraction is only created through dissimilarity, polarity and chemistry. A woman had to be different from a man by divine design. For the chemistry and mating to be successful, the woman had to be less logical, if she was logical she would have not found anything too dissimilar or interesting about a guy. Also how else will a man find fulfilment in a woman if he didn't do anything for her. The woman is chaotic and confused. The man gives her guidance and direction. In this process he finds fulfilment of his Masculinity as a leader to the woman. How else would he feel satisfied if there was nobody needing his leadership I think that a woman's health and happiness in general is a good indicator of moral health and spiritual health of the society in which she is living. A woman who is unhappy constantly and being exploited of her emotions means the society doesn't offer her good leadership. Everyone is failing her instead of leading her. And in a society where a woman is thriving, happy, fulfilled and healthy, it's a sign that she is meeting good men, it's a sign that the society is made up of men and people who care about her survival, are moralistic and empathetic and not exploitative. Where a woman is constantly being fooled for her lack of logic and her womanhood being taken advantage of, it only means that the men in that community are not trying harder to be better men. It's like this. If children in a school are constantly failing, then maybe that school is rotten with bad teachers and that school needs to do better so that those children will thrive and stay healthy. I guess the same applies to the state of women in a society/community/tribe.

Yep.

Cute. I command you. Change your profile Pic to this or something similar. . Right now

I agree a bit too. Honestly don't see a problem with generalizing. You're appearing more and more like a hammer to me. Everything is a nail to you. You're acting a bit like a negative Nancy everyday. Can you say positive things too sometimes just for a change? You seem like an old bitter aunt these days looking through your glasses and telling little children that they didn't keep the dishes in the correct order in the rack. Improve a bit, you'll be more desirable, just saying.

@Something Funny a bit curious as to why you said I'm generalizing but did not make the argument against Leo who said "women are emotional puppets" on the same thread yeah? It seems your click-baity judgements are only reserved for members!

It might even mean - "some women are." But if a trend is general, you won't use the word some.

One thing I learned from my personal experience is that a man who puts pressure is not a good man. And women should beware of such men. What happens is this — He will tell the woman - "be my girlfriend or I'm finding another woman." Or "kiss me now or I'm leaving." These are not good men. They are highly suspect. A good man will not confuse a woman or make her insecure or desperate. Such situations are tricky because the woman doesn't know whether to say yes or no. If she says yes immediately, she is risking allowing a bad guy into her life and she is allowed very little time to get to know the man and his intentions If she says no, she is left feeling guilty that she might have lost a potential good partner by rejecting. He puts her in an emotional choke hold. This is an expert manipulative technique that a lot of men use and it's Powerful because the woman has to make a split second decision on whether to let the guy into her life or let him go and often this pressure induces the woman to say yes. Such men will never stay with the woman. They're looking for masculine dominance and conquest. They are not looking for a full time relationship. A lot of men enjoy the thrill of having conquered a woman mentally and sexually and care very little about how she will feel once he pumps and dumps her or is no longer attracted to her. This is not even love or attraction. It is simply conquest. It is similar to what a lot of women do on social media and get a guy to feel interested when the real intent is to just get some attention and likes from him and sorta string him along without actually ever loving him. Women should be careful of such traps. The guys who look attractive are generally the conquest type of guys. And they know subtle techniques that make vulnerable women submit quickly. Anytime you as a woman falls in love quickly, that's a danger. I'll call it tripping. You tripped for the wrong guy. He got your leg. Attraction and love often don't mix. A guy might love you deeply and care about you but might not know how to talk sweet things. Wait for the bonding. Let the guy want to bond. Let him show some degree of commitment. Let him genuinely want to be with you and not just see you as a conquest. Often times a guy who genuinely loves will give you a lot of time to bond with you with zero pressure.