Joseph Maynor

I think it could be if you met the right person. Will Durant was married to Ariel Durant and she even helped him write his 'Story of Civilization' books. She was actually co-author of all but the earliest volumes. Will Durant proves to me that you don't have to do an either/or false-choice regarding Life Purpose or Marriage -- because Durant did both -- he proved it -- who has written more than Will Durant! -- Few people. But I also think he picked the right woman for him too. Whether that was skill in the selection process or luck, who's to know. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Will_Durant https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Story_of_Civilization https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Story_of_Philosophy

SOME MUSINGS ON LIFE PURPOSE Life purpose should come from within. Maybe you're you're the one who feels 'at a crossroads and at a looming doom' and you're projecting that 'out there' instead of accepting it 'in here'. Life Purpose is all about solving your biggest life problem for yourself and sharing the fruits of that with others. Do not base your Life Purpose in some kind of compassion for others. First of all, you don't even have compassion for yourself yet. My main point here is, your Life Purpose should be solving some kind of problem for you primarily. That's why you have a super-human motivation to work on Life Purpose. Sustainable Career is then an evolutionary and inevitable fruit of that massive action you'll take working on your Life Purpose -- working on sustainably solving YOUR biggest problem in life. But step one is to make sure you find your genuine Life Purpose. I give you props for asking this question. I don't think you've found your genuine Life Purpose yet. Being a do-gooder is not a sustainable Life Purpose in and for itself. My Life Purpose is to help myself and others accept themselves and reality by optimizing the use of the mind. And that's also my biggest life problem and always has been, see. So, as I'm working on my Life Purpose, I'm also sustainably solving my biggest life problem. That's like putting your Career on the fast-track if there ever was one -- and it doesn't even feel like work. I would pay to do what I do. That's how you wanna feel about your Life Purpose. Find work that you would do where you would pay to do that work. // Charles Bukowski describes very well what's it's like to work with an authentic Life Purpose: ‘SO YOU WANT TO BE A WRITER’ - by Charles Bukowski if it doesn't come bursting out of you in spite of everything, don't do it. unless it comes unasked out of your heart and your mind and your mouth and your gut, don't do it. if you have to sit for hours staring at your computer screen or hunched over your typewriter searching for words, don't do it. if you're doing it for money or fame, don't do it. if you're doing it because you want women in your bed, don't do it. if you have to sit there and rewrite it again and again, don't do it. if it's hard work just thinking about doing it, don't do it. if you're trying to write like somebody else, forget about it. if you have to wait for it to roar out of you, then wait patiently. if it never does roar out of you, do something else. if you first have to read it to your wife or your girlfriend or your boyfriend or your parents or to anybody at all, you're not ready. don't be like so many writers, don't be like so many thousands of people who call themselves writers, don't be dull and boring and pretentious, don't be consumed with self- love. the libraries of the world have yawned themselves to sleep over your kind. don't add to that. don't do it. unless it comes out of your soul like a rocket, unless being still would drive you to madness or suicide or murder, don't do it. unless the sun inside you is burning your gut, don't do it. when it is truly time, and if you have been chosen, it will do it by itself and it will keep on doing it until you die or it dies in you. there is no other way. and there never was. // https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Bukowski

'Need to Know BE-ing' is a trap for Enlightenment. Don't get trapped in Tier-One Metaphysics in Enlightenment work.

You nailed it! Take what's useful to you from Peterson, leave what's not. 1 line.

What came first, the chicken or the egg? This is exactly the same kind of question you're asking. You're taking concepts ahead of BE-ing -- you're putting the cart before the horse -- the map before the territory.

You’re not creating and developing any opportunities for you to get laid. It’s not that you’re unable, you’re just not doing any work. Would you expect to be great at math without doing any math problems? Do not expect girls to approach you in life. That’s a horrible strategy bro. It will just lead you to more and more misery over time. If you wanna get laid, you need to create and develop, through daily efforts and work, sustainable systems to make getting paid happen in your life. Unless you’re tall and handsome or have money or fame — girls are just not gonna approach you. The only sustainable solution for you to get laid is to approach girls on a regular basis. That’s your responsibility to create and develop a system to change a system you don’t like — namely, you not getting laid! But I can tell you this — waiting around for girls to come to you is a disaster for a dating strategy. Big time disaster.

The only way you can build self-esteem sustainably is through Enlightenment — through transcending the ‘Paradigm of Self Or No Self’.

The difference between you and her is that she has her daily efforts and work aligned 100% with her passion and you don’t. Now, why is that? What does she have that you don’t? You need to find that secret ingredient she has that you don’t. I think what it is is that you’re way more distracted in your efforts and work than she is. Her efforts and work are hitting her Actual Problem Situations right on the nose and your efforts and work are not anywhere close to doing that for your Actual Problem Situations in your life.

Hells yeah! Remember back in the day when you taught me when I was an Enlightenment noob? I was stuck in all these traps and you were trying to help me raise my awareness.

By this point you should take all the energy you devote to Need to Know BE-ing and just direct it to surrendering to BE-ing in the moment without pre-judgments or pre-expectations. You just can’t quite get over that hump it seems and you’re gonna be that same tail-chasing dude in Enlightenment work until you do. ‘Need to Know BE-ing’ is a 100% distraction because it’s irrelevant to BE-ing.

CAREER WORK INSOFAR AS LIFE PURPOSE WORK IS CONCERNED HINGES ON A 'KILLER PRODUCT OR SERVICE' -- YOU GOTTA CREATE AND DEVELOP A 'KILLER PRODUCT OR SERVICE' FOR CAREER WORK -- IF YOU'RE NOT DOING THAT, YOU'RE NOT ON POINT WITH CAREER WORK -- YOU'RE WALKING AROUND BLIND WITHOUT A CANE ON THAT ISSUE What's your product? You need a killer product or service. 'Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door' -- Ralph Waldo Emerson. Don't do that, and nobody will give a sh*t. You'll hear a bunch of crickets. So yeah, killer product killer product killer product! Create and develop your killer product and then basically market it using YouTube or whatever. Don't try to muscle a crap product in with great marketing either, that's unsustainable and soul-destroying. First make your beautiful art (your killer product), then you can get fancy with marketing it.

BE-ing sits above theory, are you aware of that yet?

ON THE IMPACT OF MUSIC IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT I think listening to music and playing music my whole life has given me almost super Emotional Intelligence. I also credit music with expanding my mind a lot too, including by not limited to laying a foundation for Creativity in me. Playing Jazz Trumpet also helped me become super-Intuitive too -- and to trust and run with my intuitions.

What’s weird is I hear quite a bit of the same tone but in both, especially the older Leo videos. Same kinda preachy, ranty tone. I’m not trying to make Leo sound bad, so don’t get your panties in a twist here. But oftentimes we don’t like those who have similar qualities to ourselves. It’s like holding up a mirror to your shadow-side.

Leo alludes to that at the end of this video: I don't recall Martin Ball explicitly saying that 'he became Enlightened through 5-MeO-DMT use' in the below video:

Very profound.

Stage Orange must be your Shadow side.

A PROFOUND STATEMENT FROM CHAPTER 27 OF THE 'TAO TE CHING' What is a good man but a bad man's teacher? What is a bad man but a good man's job? If you don't understand this, you will get lost, however intelligent you are. It is the great secret. Source: https://cpb-us-w2.wpmucdn.com/u.osu.edu/dist/5/25851/files/2016/02/taoteching-Stephen-Mitchell-translation-v9deoq.pdf

When you are burdened with protecting a Self, it’s hard to be compassionate to others, that’s all. Compassion comes from transcending the ‘Paradigm of Self Or No Self’.

It’s hard show a lot of love to others when you yourself are suffering a lot.

Your Ego loves to feel so above all the monkey chatter — yet you had to chime in as well.

Great reading your posts, as usual.

Yeah, I just don’t like it. It really doesn’t resonate with me to direct any kind of judgment against the people who come to Personal Development looking for light — as flawed as they might be. There are better battles for us to fight in life — especially if you’re a Personal Development teacher! This ‘eating our young’ distraction is just dumb in my eyes — and hurtful to others too. Nobody likes to be called stupid or crazy. Imagine if your college teacher called you stupid or crazy! No good, right. Even if you are stupid or crazy — it’s still no good, see. Your job is to help those people, to have compassion directed toward those people, to see an earlier you in those people. There was a day, maybe years ago, when yes you Galyna asked a dumb and crazy question about Personal Development too, was there not? Can you put yourself in other people’s shoes? Don’t turn this into an ego battle or competition between me and Leo — all that does is show us your Ego. And I’ve criticized you on a similar kind of ground once before as I recall.

Leo’s a good guy. It’s just he and I have a little bit of a different Perspective on this narrow issue. And you definitely don’t wanna force yourself to be compassionate, that puts the cart before the horse — and will take you further downstream of Enlightenment. Compassion results from Enlightenment — and it's unforced. It’s not an ideological compassion. It’s a letting things BE kind of compassion. It’s an acceptance of the moment kind of compassion. It’s a BE-into the moment kind of compassion. You think your limited Perspective and experience on this matter allows for such a strong conclusion? How do you know that about the people who do Enlightenment Work?

I don’t like this need to demonize others. Really, that’s just the Self trying to elevate itself over other people. You tell me how you substantiate your ‘correlation’. And you’re always on the Forum yourself — so don’t you get captured in your own over-hasty conclusion too? I admit that I’m getting a little triggered by this because the awesome people on here are doing the right thing, and yet they get called crazy or redundant or what not. You wanna be more supportive as a personal development guide — and you’re a good guide too. You wanna be happy about and supportive of the people who come on here. These are the fabulous few who dare to work on themselves, just like you and me many years ago. And some of these people on here have been doing this longer than we have.