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Had to immediately think of this when listening to the new episode

There is just an important difference. Playing Golf or Driving are car are not survival activities, so in a sense it is more deteached from human nature. Sure stuff like texting or the cultural norms of the time your body doesnt know about. But adapting to the current culture is natural. This comparison is also faulty because millions of people are dating successfully without even thinking about learning this stuff, but nobody just gets in a car for the first time and drives it.

People here will probably not agree with my advice but have benzodiazepines at hand so you can abort a bad trip immediately. They calm down your anxiety and make you sleep so you can sleep it off. Try to stick it out anyway but its good to know that they are there in case things get ugly. Be careful they are addictive.

Great list and all but my point is more meta. Even this distinction of pre-sex, post-sex. If you edit a text file on your computer called "pre sex texts" you have to seriously stop for a moment and ask yourself what you are doing here. Just imagine you are the girl in this situation and you think you have a light hearted conversation with a cool normal dude when in reality hes thinking about pre-sex, post-sex texts neediness, etc. Its all a facade and its going to blow up in your face. If you care about sex, act like you care about sex. At least thatd authentic. If it turns off 10 girls in a row this will self regulate and you wont do it anymore intuitively.

Seeee. You have to understand this. Life a certain process, and what you call a body, is a basically a accumulation. This body is the most sophisticated technology on the planet. Isnt it? hello? It can turn a banana into a human being. Let me ask you this. Do you remember your great great grandfather? Hello? But his nose is sitting on your face. Yoga means union.

But how will you test the waters. I always thought do nothing over text. So I just set up to meet with a girl and we had a conversation and out of the blue I took her hand and another girl I tried to kiss. Both times they were shocked and I was rejected. Then I see what other guys write to girls, like really "gay" stuff with heart smileys and shit. And girls seem to go crazy for it, these guys have a deeper connection with her than the guy who only writes her in a matter-of-fact style and then tries to get physical out of the blue. Havent you seen that when a girl fancies a guy they text each other all the time, shes constantly on her phone. A PUA would tell you to never do that and ignore her. I listened to this PUA stuff, set all these rules for myself what to do and what not to do and it backfired in my face every time. I'm still working on getting all these PUA concepts out of my head, its pure neurotic poison, thats just what it is. I think your advice on this topic is heavily biased by your PUA phase Leo. No offense at all but I think If dating happened naturally and not in a forced way as a PUA late in your 20s I think your advice on this would be A LOT different.

This is about the practical application and how transcending certain dualities can make your life worse. What about the dualities like beatiful/ugly or normal/crazy, politically correct/politically incorrect. So you transcend these and now everything is beatiful and you stop caring about how you look. Or you are just going to make racist jokes because the duality of political incorrectness doesnt apply to you. The problem is these dualities are in the heads of everyone else and behaving like this can make you an outsider of society or cost you your job. What if you were born "ugly" and you transcend it and dont think of yourself as ugly anymore. People will continue to put you into the ugly categories and it will have tremendous impact on the quality of your life. There is just no escaping it, you will have to pretend to care about these dualities so you get put into the right categories. How can you really 100% stop caring what people think of you as long as you want to live in a society. This is how this stuff is somehow not practical. You watch these (absolutely amazing) videos but then you go out the same night and stand in front of the mirror to make yourself look presentable to other people.

When you are in monkey mind you have the awareness of catching yourself, do this. Get in touch with your senses, look around, listen. Notice what the now-moment is really like and then notice what your mind is adding, how it runs its patterns. Try to really notice the high contrast between the calmness of the moment and the storm thats blowing in your mind, seperate them.

So when I cant get laid I should be happy because life is perfectly fair after all. For all the times I dont get laid, someone else will have sex with the girls I like so from the absolute perspective I will be one of these guys that do get to have fun, and therefore it perfectly evens out and is not unfair. Is this really a valid way of looking at this? If you told this to anybody they will look at you like you are crazy but thats not the point. Even if I keep it to myself it feels delusional and psychotic to think about it like this.

What if someone shoots someone else and then they regret it and become miserable and hang themselves out of guilt. How does that even out? Everybody lost.

The forum software kind of sucks. It is good for what it is but I would prefer something more like Reddit. The mega threads are full of tons of wisdom and reference material but who wants to look through 100s of pages?

Should one abstain from masturbation when practicing kriya yoga? I couldnt find a clear answer on the internet.

When we say the design is perfect do we mean the principles of how creation works are perfectly designed and then just "set in motion", or did god design every moment across what we call time? @Leo Gura

Do you guys feel heat during maha mudra? Sometimes I get these intense heat waves after exhaling and sometimes I just dont. I always feel like Im doing something wrong if I dont feel the heatwaves, so whats the deal with that?

I think I got this concept how bad things need to happen in order to maximize the best outcome for everybody. But I dont get how that leads to the conclusion that life is good. I mean there are countless people in this world who just get fucked over by life from birth to death. Everything seems to go wrong, they get teased with their desires all their life and end up achieving none of them. So I get it that their suffering is somehow needed to come up with what is best for everyone in the long run. But what does that help you if you are exactly that person and that is what God has decided is your purpose? God doesnt hate you or anything but he ran through every permutation and that is simply the best he could do, so your life ends up way below what the average person gets. I think its even kind of insulting when spiritual teachers suggest you should be ecstatic about this.

Had a good experience meditating on ketamine. The deteachment from body and emotions is quite nice. Other than that it didnt catapult me into states that feel out of reach without drugs, but I didnt k-hole. The feeling itself is honestly quite ordninary for what you expect from an anaesthetic, I personally dont find it very euphoric or addicting. But I can see the spiritual appeal regarding disconnect from mind.

@TheAvatarState I dont say you should be angry or anything about it, but how would a life like that make you happy as a person without massive mental gymnastics?

https://www.reddit.com/r/badscience/comments/85232b/youtube_video_from_actualizedorg_claims_quantum

If I am the creator of my reality and my vibration chooses the external reality Im presented with (Law of attraction), what about other people in this scenario? If my higher selve wants to experience what its like to lose a loved one and that person ends up in hospital dying, or due to my thoughts, my higher selve chooses that this experience is not relevant for my particular exploration of consciousness, what happens from the other persons point of view? Either Im manipulating their life, or they are not conscious like me, They are both not sounding right. How does this work?

I have these beliefs that you have to treat women like they are beneath you to have a chance to be romantic with them. I have the belief that if you are not sexual with a women all the time you will be seen as platonic and every chance of having sex with her closes down for you. These beliefs depress me to no end because I just want to treat women like people and Im not the kind of guy who is super sexual all the time. But I feel like if I keep being like that I cant ever have a romantic relationship. My beliefs also seem to get confirmed by reality because all the sexually sucessful guys I know are like this.

can you recommend something?

While Leo is away I can recommend the videos of massaros trinfinity academy. This teaching go pretty deep, from what Ive seen is in alignment with the actualized teachings + the empowerment courses are kinda what Leo talked about with integration of spirituality with tony robbins style teachings. https://www.trinfinityacademy.com/

There is no free will. That means all my acrions are pre determined. But when I become mindfull I can catch thoughts and stop them. So there is free will, or how would I be able to do that. Or the mindfullness itself and how conscious you become are just more pre determined thoughts and part of unchangeable destiny. Which is true?

I just dont get what Im even trying to acomplish when I meditate if determinism is true. Like someone above said, "life is effortless". So when I recognize that life is effortless/determined and as a result Im more relaxed didnt I change my destiny because I will make different choices based on that knowledge?

What do you guys think?