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@Truth that's the thing, I don't know if I like it internally or not. I mean I've only found two values when I go back to my previous experiences, all the other 20 or so that I've found seems to have external benefits. Let's face it, when there are external benefits, it is hard to focus on the internal, the external benefits seems to blind me. I know this is bad, but how do I find what my authentic self want? any tips?

@SFRL this is the thing, If I want to fuck a girl and get rid of my virginity. I can set it as my goal, and I would lose it really fast. But the thing is: it's my first time, shouldn't I be taking it easy and wait it out for one girl that I have some meaningful connection with? If I want to I can just go to a party and get myself laid, but I don't know if that is what I want. what do you think? by the way, that thing you guys were doing with my last name... I don't know what to say about it.

So apparently people have been telling me that a lot of the concepts I have about girls are false. I am just posting this to clarify some concepts. First a little about me: I am a virgin, male 18 years old. 6'1'', and probably one of the most athletic 18 years old you have ever seen. (I've got pretty much everything but six packs, can only see my six packs when I flex my muscles. All my muscles are also well balanced) I don't look bad either. I am not experienced with girls at all, had one girlfriend and the relationship didn't last long. I stutter (medium severity), which gives me somewhat lower confidence than normal boys who have this kind of body... Anyways, I am into self development right now, combined with my stuttering, don't really have that many friends. (I don't go looking for them either because I need to study and figure out my life purpose) Once I'm done finding out my life purpose, I will probably take a course on how to attract girls (or start doing some research on pick up methods and become serious about finding a girlfriend) But I also want a girl friend right now. Just want to know if those concept about girls are true. 1, Girls are not that attracted to high social status. I've been told that social status is only 5% of what girls are looking for. Is this true? 2, stuttering doesn't matter? Do most girls judge guys who stutter? I've talked to some girls who responded badly as soon as I started stuttering... Girls need security right? Would a guy who stutter give her enough security? 3, girl social circle If I find a girlfriend, I would need to fit into her social circle. I don't have a lot of time to socialize right now, since I need self-development I think I can find a girl friend now, but I am just worrying about some of the events that might happen after I find her. What if some other guy approaches her and ask her out, I got nervous and start stuttering... That would be really awkward, I feel like the girl would be dissapointed in me What if I go and watch a movie with her, stutter when I am talking to the cashier, can't even order movie tickets? And she ended up having to finish my sentences for me... All though moments, I would be embarrassed. Those are the things that I am worried most about in an relationship. I just don't know, what should I do right now? Should I focus on studying and my life purpose, then find a girl friend after? What do girls care about? If I wait and try to find a girlfriend after I've found my life purpose, how do I know that I wouldn't have more important tasks to do then? How do I know that although I am really busy right now, that now isn't the perfect time to find a girl friend? any advice? Jordan

The thing is that, I changed 4 month ago which causes me to improve at my highest level, and be able to reach where I am now. One of the habbits that reminded me to take action is to scream (or shout) really loudly in public places. (I know this sounds weird, but I feel so good after screaming) I believe that screaming releases stress, also it reminds me of other people don't care about what I do. (most of the times I scream people just look at me, but don't do anything) I have screamed at places consisting of nearly 100 people and got attention... But recently, after my situation improved, I don't feel the stress anymore. But screaming has become a habit, I know that I can change it anytime, but would it be beneficial? Other people began to think that I am weird, just this morning I screamed, and one of the girls that I have feelings towards heard me, and walked passed me without looking at me. (which made me feel really bad) Should I stop doing it? Should I change base on the feedback that other people are giving me? I don't want to fall into other people's standards and do what everyone expect me to do. (Like a robot) But screaming has made me unique, but it also made me weird and is hindering me a little bit. WHAT do you guys think I should do? Jordan wang

@electroBeam I'm just asking the people on this forum to get advice. I want to see other people's opinions on my situation. Isn't personal development about having a sense of control over your life? If you don't know where you are going, if you don't have crystal clear targets to shoot towards; if you don't have a compelling vision for yourself in the future, you will never get there. That's just what I am doing right now, creating a vision and a plan, and follow through. Sorry if I annoyed you with my questions, I know I've asked something similar before, Just a little different this time...

@Extreme Z7 I live a busy life, I'm in university engineering. I don't meditate. Maybe I should? I am thinking of getting into it now. Cuz Leo said It helps me control my emotions, and makes me feel happy.

I want to be an entrepreneur, and there are two qualities of entrepreneurs: 1, they develop themselves to the highest level 2, they are really social, talk to almost everyone, and therefore can find the people resources when they need to I live in university residence where everyone knows everyone. Whenever we eat food, we eat it together, and we usually have a conversation while doing it. (which usually takes an hour) It is a waste of time, really. I rather be doing more important things than to have a conversation with someone who I don't even want to be friends with for an hour. Therefore, I start to cut the conversations short and avoiding people in the Dining hall. Which made me loose friends, and now I go to the dining hall I feel fucking lonely because I am eating breakfast all by myself, while the others are in a group. I don't want to hang out with them because they party and do a lot of useless shit. Most of them I don't even want to be friends with because they have no ambition. But I also don't want to be lonely. if I don't talk to them, I can spend the time that I saved really well and really productively. (I have a tons of things on my waiting list which I want to do) But that would make me have little friends... IN the residence. I know that I have to make a lot of friends and have a lot of connections as an entrepreneur, but should I make friends with everyone? OR should I just make friends with the high achievers? (which is what I've been trying to do in the past) Can anyone give me advice and guidance? Jordan wang

I believe that if I keep self-developing, I will become a billionaire one day (hopefully soon) And by then when I become the perfect guy, I can just get any girl that I want. I am 18, should I wait like 5 years until I've achieved a lot and become rich to date the hot girls, or should I start dating now. (if I date now it would affect my personal development, since I have to spend time with the girl, it leaves me less time to do what I want) the truth is: not a lot of girls are into personal development... also: girls are looking for social status. I can't get this if I hang out by myself. (which is what I do most of the times because I can't find anyone who is into self development to hangout with. And the other people (common, normal people) I find conversations with them sickening. What is the point of talking to them when they complain about their workload or job all day?) I don't have a lot of friends, because I don't hang out with people (I can hangout with them and make them my friends if I want to, but most of the times I find that I can't get anything out of the relationship). When people see me by myself all the time they just assume that I am a loser (even though I know that I will be a billionaire in the future). This makes me really depressed... What people don't get is that: if they do what normal people do (which is hangout and talk to friends) they will end up normal. But if they do what I do (which is unique) they will end of unique. I will probably be alone for another few years.... Maybe lose my virginity when I am 22? ..... sigh.... does personal development always have to be this way? I feel like if I get a girl now it would just be a waste of time since I can get sooo much nicer girls in the future if I spend my time investing in myself instead of wasting it on mediocre girls. I know that I am unique since I can see the larger picture of things, I invest in myself everyday when others are out partying and doing drugs... Why party if you've got nothing to celebrate? I will start partying when I become a multi-millionaire, because then I got the right to party. But before then, I will probably be seen as a loser with no party experience and laughed at by those low achievers who have friends and party all day when I am actually filled with potential. Anyone experienced anything similar? Jordan wang

@eskwire Umm, why don't the people at new york talk to each other? be polite and kind? Does this make sense? Can you explain it further?

@Alex4 I'm in engineering right now. I plan to graduate with an engineering and business double degree from Simon Fraser University. Or I might transfer and do business as a minor. First find out my life purpose, my strength and weaknesses, limiting beliefs.... I will start investing once I am 19, Learn how to invest. (associate with businessman once I have a business... get in the social circle). Travel around the world, get inspired by life after I graduate. (I know it sounds like I am bullshitting, but I plan to do this no matter what) Maybe I need to sleep in parks with nothing but a sleeping beg in cold winter (I'm fine as long as I don't freeze to death) (I mean you gotta experience life right?) Maybe I can build enough passive income when I am still in college that after I graduate I will travel, and the passive income will get my expenses covered so I can live in hotels and stuff. (this would be great) Maybe couch surfing, anyways I'll try to cut my cost as much as possible. While I am there I will try to learn their culture and language, and make connections. When I come back, I will create a company (If I have not done so already) (Remember that I am an engineer? Yep, I'LL create my own product, my own invention.), And focus on investing and the company. If I can squeeze in the time to read some self help books that would be the best. Plan to marry after I am 30 so that I have time for my business to grow before I am occupied with kids. I want to retire before I get 40. I will probably do what ever I want for a while, then I will become bored and get back to my business again, get back to making a difference to the world! What is your plan to become a millionaire? Jordan wang

Just a suggestion: Should we create a group of posts in which members post what they have achieved? And where they are in life right now? Or life purpose? Like an introduction page where everyone introduces ourselves. Just so we get to know everyone. And also if any of us want specific information we can just message specific members directly after we get to know them? Also we might be able to make real life connections as well. Leo what do you think? Jordan wang

@RossE seeing your point of view inspires me. But I need to question it, (not saying that I disaproves it though) 1, if you go out, party and smoke weed, don't you feel like you have something better to do while you are doing it? Like you could be doing something that contributes to your life purpose right now, but instead you are just entertaining yourself. 2, I am a really goal oriented person, I don't like to sit around and see life take me to places. I feel like it's the same with friendship, I don't want to just develop random friendships and see it take me to places. Besides I don't even know what those places are. (I much rather just work hard and feel a sense of control over my life) 3, You talked about being a loner. Well supposedly, If I meditate, and do enough inner work. I will fulfill myself from the inside, I will become so strong on the inside, that even if I am alone, I wouldn't feel lonely. I would be happy all the time, and no matter what other people do, they wouldn't hurt me, because I am aligned with myself, I don't have any inner conflicts. That is the state that I am trying to achieve, I don't mind being alone for a while, I just want to get stronger on the inside. And that will protect me like a bullet vest.

Everyone into self development talks about how action is the game. Action is everything. If you have an idea, take action. But the thing is: we also have to focus like a laser beam so that we only work on one or a few things at a time. Because successful people concentrate and specialize. there seems like a conflict here. If I take action on every good idea that comes up to my mind, that would distract me? (trust me I got a lot of good ideas) I am focusing on swimming and studying right now, anything else is a distraction? should I act on my ideas or not? Any opinions? Jordan wang

I noticed that two of Leo's videos conflict with each other, "advice for high school and college students" and "work less to accomplish more" One of them talked about the best thing to do in order to set up my life in college is to: not join frats, no social groups, eat healthy. Pretty much to do none purpose less activities at all the other one talked about doing something that is purposeless once in a while is good, and I should find a balance in between purposeful activities and purposeless ones. So my question is: which advice should I listen to? Should I find a balance in between the purposeful and purposeless activities, or to do non purposeless at all? jordan

@username being a billionaire is just my way of expressing: "being successful and happy", that's it. Doesn't mean anything else, It just means to have financial freedom, to not worry about money, to have enough money no matter how I spend it. OK maybe I did get a little bit cocky, I apologize for that. But I will become massively successful, I believe in myself 1000%. I am shallow spiritually because I haven't done any spiritual work yet, I got more important things happening in my life right now as I need to get my purpose and values straight, and sharpen my life for the lifelong learning that eventually will take place. I will pursue spiritual work and eventually become less shallow after I've done this.

@Hungry for Truth The reason why I want to only hang-out with high achievers is because of "the rule of five" (is this what they call it?) you are the average of the five people that you hang out with. There are a lot of losers in my life, I live in SFU residence, and in the summer, pretty much everyone is international. Everyone smokes weed, cigarette, drinks, and parties. No one is into self-development. In a situation like this, I would rather spend time by myself self-developing until the good group of people come in the fall, people worth socializing with. I don't know, am I judging them too much? the international kids. Because of the rule of five, rather than hangout with a bunch of losers and become a loser myself, I would rather be alone and do my own thing. Is this the right move?

@username What have I accomplished? well, I have only been in personal development for less then half a year, but I will tell you what I have accomplished. I am 18 now, in my third semester at university. during my first semester, I stuttered severely, I didn't have a lot of friends, played video games everyday instead of doing homework... Blah blah blah... You get the idea, I was a really negative person, and my life sucked ass! I fell to rock bottom after my grades for first semester came out, which was a 1.1 GPA, it got me into probation. I had a long, serious talk with my counsellor, she said that If I can't get my grades above 2.0 the next semester, I will be kicked out of SFU. So I changed, and discovered self-development. Despite my stuttering, I constantly asked questions in 400 people lectures, people were staring at me, my professors know that I stutter, and they won't pick me sometimes because they think it might hinder the class. But I still kept raising my hands. Whenever I see a hot girl, no matter in what situation, I would at least talk to her and try to ask her out. I stopped playing video games completely and started eating healthy, I start swimming again (I did it pretty much everyday) I studied whenever I could, joined toastmasters... BLAHBLAHBLAH After second semester, I got a 3.74 GPA (I'm in engineering), my belly fat was pretty much all gone, (I joined a swimming team, and my goal this semester is to join SFU varsity swimming team) Everyone is looking at me as if I am a different person (the truth is: I am) And my stutter went from severe to light. (this is what happens when you face your fears) Furthermore, I made friends with some of the brightest minds and the future leaders on the campus. I did all this in less than 4 month. Which left me with overwhelming blind confidence that I can accomplish ANYTHING!!!! in the world. give me 5 more years and you'll see me in TED talks, newspapers and shit. remember this name: JORDAN WANG because this is the name of the person who will rule the world one day!

@Dan Arnautu your words make me very emotional some how... 1 billion dollars, 100 million, doesn't matter, you get the idea. If I can reach 100 million, I can reach 1 billion, then 10 billion. the only reason why I am still a virgin is because I don't see any reason of having sex just yet, I have plenty of other things to work on, Such as investing, finding out my life purpose, find out how to learn, explore my life interest. the truth is: I won't be able to attract hot girls until I live a exceptional life, and I can't live an exceptional life unless I spend time investing in myself first. so this is what I'm gonna do. then when I become successful, you'll see how many girls I can fuck in one night! Doesn't matter, what ever I set my mind to, I will accomplish it, I am a virgin because I don't set my mind into chasing girls, I don't see any value in chasing girls right now. Once I am successful, sure I will lack the experience with girls, but I have all the other resources I need to learn how to attract girls. Plus it doesn't mean that I won't find a girlfriend before I become successful, I will if I find the right one. I just won't actively look for them. Jordan wang

I am a person who is committed to apply the concepts of self-development into every aspects of my life, but should I apply it to dating? For example: self-development concept: (never give up) When I ask a girl out and she rejects me, if I apply this concept, I would just keep asking her out and keep bothering her to the point that she finds me disturbing and annoying. I know that I am not suppose to give up, but would this get me girls? Wouldn't girls just see this type of behavior as uncool and not sexy? concept: (keep on asking girls out until you get what you want) If I get out of my comfort zone and ask one hot girl out per day, what if the girl that I asked out yesterday sees me ask or kiss another girl? What would she think of me? Or worse, would she tell all her hot friends to beware and never date me? Self-development involves a lot of planning and committing. But relationships are unpredictable, one moment it goes well, the next I might fuck up. Should I plan what girl I'm going to ask out and commit to that one girl? (probably not right?) Basically: Am I suppose to be pushy in terms of my relationships with girls? Or should I just don't (plan) expect anything and let it happen? (isn't this the loser's way? But maybe it works with dating only?) I'm lost as F. Where does relationships and self-development meet? Is this the only area that I shouldn't apply the concepts of self-development? I am 18, only had one girl friend. I don't get girls in general. If anyone can answer my questions or just explain what girls want that would be appreciated. Also how do I have as many one night stands (Or just hot fuck buddies) or just have a good sex life in general without appearing to be an asshole who cheats on woman? thank you, jordan wang

So I recently made a list of goals, and among 50 goals that I've written for myself. I found out that only those ones are both urgent and important: 1. Transfer to waterloo with a 4.0 CGPA 2. Find out my life purpose (watch one video, ultimate life purpose course by Leo everyday) 3. Win provincials swimming contest for 100 or 200 IM, 100, 50 /free, back 4. Speed reading (Learning process with scott young) 5. Cure my stuttering So I decided to only work on those during this school semester. But in the meantime, One of the things that I've always loved: Music, playing the guitar didn't make the list. Along with some other goals such as becoming a public speaker (Wining the Toastmasters internationals contest) I remember hearing Leo say in one of his videos: "successful people are like a single laser beam, strong and focused. While others are like disco light bulbs, goes into every direction" I've also heard a story (don't know if it's true) "warren buffett was talking to his pilot, he told the pilot to create a list of goals and pick the top five goals (just like I did). When the pilot finally did it, warren told him that anything on your goals list that did not make top 5 are the "avoid at all cost" activities. Because they interest you enough that they can possibly distract you." Does this mean that I have to avoid playing guitar at all cost? (I know this would only be temporary, but is it neccesary?) I can probably pick guitar up later on in life, same with public speaking. But this choice is hard. What do you guys think: should I prioritize and only focus on those 5 goals, or do a little bit of guitar and public speaking too? If I do guitar and speaking that would definitely make me less focused, (because they take time). Jordan wang

I am 18, I don;t mind dating someone who is 30 as long as she has big tits and doesn't look that old. But the thing is: I don't think the 30 year olds want to date someone who is young like me. (Although I am tall, handsome and fit) So the question is: Should I fall within society's standards and just casually walk past the 30 year olds, or should I go up and ask for their number? Maybe I should just ask other 18 years olds out? I like mature woman though. (doesn't have to be 30. Can be 25, 28?) Jordan wang

I want to be a highly productive person. I want to hang out with people who are ambitious and committed to self-development, like Leo. But unfortunately, there are not many people around me who's like him. Now I walk on the street, eat at the dining hall... I see people and I judge them, I want to know that it is beneficial for me to talk to them before talking to them, or else I'll just walk past them. I don't want to waste any time, therefore, I am determined to drive the "losers" out of my life, but the thing is: there are not a lot of winners. Now that the "losers" are gone, I find myself friendless. What should I do? Should I make friends with the people who I used to hangout with? (those people are not productive at all, they eat dinner together and talk useless shit for an hour, then they go to parties. I bet they get really low grades.) When I see girls, I usually stare at them for around 3-8 seconds before making a judgement of whether I should approach her or not. (I look at her breast, face, and butt). Am I treating life too seriously? Should I just be chill and talk to anyone? Jordan wang

the think is that: i've seen a scientific study which said that the penis is like a muscle which needs to do work in order to stay it's size. Is it true? What are the positive sides of fapping? I know that it makes your sperm more fit.

@AndreiC I know, what you've said totally makes sense. But the thing is: If I hang out with them, that would give me less time to do what I want. (such as reading a useful book, or completing my ultimate life purpose course) Everyone only have so much time. And for someone who just have so many goals like me, I don't know how to use my time properly to generate the most progress. By the way my social skills are not bad, I just don't see any value in talking to some people.

One of the major principles of self-development is to do things that are beneficial to you, even if It afraids you. For example: Ask a hot girl out even if I am afraid of doing so. I am already doing those things, but over the past few weeks, I have made a list of the things that I am afraid to do: 1, purposefully embarrasing myself in front of a large public group. (for example, do stupid stuff in front of them, or stutter in front of them) 2, Purposefully, or uncontrolably stutter in a 400 people lecture hall (There seem to be no benefit for this except for getting out of my comfort zone) 3, the stuff that Youtuber: "AdrianVanOyen" does. Making loud noises publicly and appear to have an orgasm. I am really afraid of doing this, I know this is definitely out of my comfort zone. But I also know that this is disturbing to other people, and they would look at me as if I am a maniac. (Adrian's braveness amazes me and I look up to his abilities of being able to kiss random girls on the streets. But should I do this myself? I want to but I don't know if this is beneficial... Would it ruin my life? Or should I try it and then see? Shoot and then aim?) Should I only take initiative in the positive direction or should I in the negative direction as well? (if both direction are out of my comfort zone) I know that winning requires consistent action. But what if I can't think of any positive actions to take and can only think of negative ones like (embarrasing myself?). Should I do it anyways because I would be moving, and going somewhere is better than staying in my comfort zone and not going anywhere. How would my friends look at me if they see me pretending to have an orgasm in public and other people laughing at me? Is getting out of my comfort zone always good? The questions is: Is getting out of my comfort zone always good? Even if the task doesn't bring benefits? At what point of the getting out of comfort zone does my actions start to look like I am just giving up on myself and my life in general. (should I even care about this? How I appear to other people? I know I shouldn't But should I embarrass myself in front of people just to get out of my comfort zone?) those are the questions that had been troubling me for some time now. Any suggestion or sharing of experience is appreciated. Jordan wang