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Getting others to deal with your anger, by them changing to suit you, will keep you believing that others ought to change to suit your ways. The idea is to change our own attitude to accept the things that don't go our way. The serenity prayer is good for this. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. I used to say this many times, for years. Now it works automatically. We cannot change others without causing some resentment, so we accept them. But we can change our attitude, and it is by acceptance that the attitude changes, or by changing our attitude we experience acceptance. The singing in the shower may become a humorous thing for you, besides its just a short while. Secondly, the singing becomes your next challenge to take out (erase from consciousness) during your meditation. Meditation ideally can be done during all sorts of distractions. The more important way to deal with anger is to see it as a fear of yours. Treat yourself as you would treat others suffering from fear. That is, we would listen to what we are afraid of, not the story of what is not going our way, but why we are afraid of it. It usually is about believing you won't cope with it, like: "This singing is going to drive me crazy!". Really? I don't think so. So use this as an opportunity to practice patience, tolerance, forgiveness and acceptance. After all, these virtues are not just given to us, but require practice to obtain them. Also, to be with a scared person is to remain calm, soft, listening, reassuring, and loving. So do the same with yourself as you would towards a scared (angry) person.

@nahtanoj Good on you for opening your mind to possibilities. Because we limit ourselves to a small number, compared to the vast number, of dimensionalities we tend to see impossibilities. Impossibilities are seen that way until we understand how it is possible. What seems impossible is not necessarily so.

@Weltschmerz Fear feeds what is (perceived) evil in your mind. The more you feed it the more likely for it to manifest. So stop feeding your mind with fear. Change your thinking to what is loving.

Nothing wrong with that, as far as I know. I do the same. Remember that most people read stuff about what is easily observed on the surface of life. Now and again some polished stuff among the rough is found, often thinking they found something of great value. We collect these polished bits as prized possessions of self value. Then, if you are lucky (preparation meeting opportunity) a diamond in the rough is found. A diamond which nullifies nearly everything you thought was of value. Even some of the polished stuff becomes tarnished. A whole new perspective to life evolves.

Yes. But the less words used the better. Using a single word to contemplate on really focuses on the issue. Things we have trouble finding is hampered by some sort of fear. So don't be surprised to find the truth about what you fear. To ask a general question like "what am I hiding from myself"? is better ask what is it about me I am afraid of. The common ones are labelled under the single word 'secrets'.

@sweater Law of attraction: "Nature abhors a vacuum." - Aristotle. The real question is how to create a vacuum, and a specific one at that. Here are some keywords which create vacuums: unconditional, acceptance, letting go, and unexpecting. Here are some keywords which create attraction: truth, love, patience, allowance, acceptance, and fearlessness (faith). The unexplainable bit is having a need without having to need it.

That's good that you trial-run certain things through visualization. It could save you much time and money otherwise. But remember you will mostly visualize what you already know about. So other aspects of your visualizations will have missing bits (from the real) because you have not experienced them yet. For example, as a last resort someone may take up a job in aged care, then after awhile they end up liking it, because they found aspects of the job more valuable than the unpleasant bits they first visualized. On the other hand, many elite athletes regularly meditate on visualizing themselves doing their sport, overcoming possible difficulties, and winning the event. They do this so well, the mind cannot tell if it is a thought or if it was real. To the athlete's mind, they have already experienced winning the event. And as a result, there is no doubt that they can win it.

Nobody does something consciously for nothing, and since you wish to find out why you do it. Please consider the following. Remember, a lot of our truths have been censored and heavily veiled to keep our ego's interests alive. So your answer is most likely found in the subtle. That is why a deep introspection / meditation is often required (until you become more attuned to the subtle). My ego used to ridicule me (shaming) for wanting to look at things which I (my ego) feared to find out. My mind would say things like "This is insane, there is nothing to find." "We looked here before." "Don't be so stubborn and give up". But I do not pay attention to this. Then after a while of silence something comes to the surface of consciousness (a revelation) as if to say "Is this what you are looking for"! At last some truth, and because it took so long to be revealed, sometimes an hour, it usually reveals what I did not want to know, because it usually requires me to let go of what I was hanging onto. You may find the more you have invested into doing something the harder it can be to let go of it. I was in my fifties when a revelation nullified all my life's work in creating a legend in my own mind. The slate was wiped clean. Even today I hesitate to talk about my passed. When I do, it is only to explain something, and not to boast.

Before you start on this project spend a good amount of time doing a marketing research on your idea. Find out if your idea is what people want. Ask all sorts of people in the area you wish to start your business in. If you are not familiar with this approach to testing the needs of the people, read up about it. You will need to anyway because all good businesses spend a good deal of money and research into marketing - it's a big part of their annual budget.

Good on you. Great start. Once you start always finding/seeing the positive in every negative, you will start see multitudes of positives to every single negative.

Your answer, if you are honest, is in what do you get out of it. You wouldn't be doing it for nothing, so ask yourself "Why do I do it"?

Still waiting for certain parts to arrive from China. I checked the supplier, and I found out that I am not dealing with the actual manufacturer, but some in-between agent. The agent reputation via eBay is the worst I've seen, with close to 500 complaints by customers. I'll check who I am dealing with next time I make an eBay order. I always place more trust in people than some think I should. Some say that is a fault of mine. But I still rather trust and be sometimes disappointed (for a short time) than to not trust and be fearful all the time.

Why not finish university so at least you have a qualification as an engineer. Then work for 9 months. During that time set your goal to travel to, say Germany. Learn to speak German. Arrange to work in Germany in 12 months time. After 9 months, pack your bag and travel to Germany and tour Germany for 3 months and refine your German language. Then start your job as an engineer in Germany. Then start the whole process again, visiting a new country each year.

Normally a person who pays back their loans, to their parents, can borrow again from them. However, if you have no job, then how are you going to pay them back. It's not prudent for your parents to loan hard earned to someone without income. Why not do what most others do to get money - work for living. You're just 19, there is plenty of time to save up your money to take massive action in life. But don't be surprised if after all that work, and saving, you may rethink blowing it on some massive action in life you had in mind beforehand. Easy money easily it goes. Hard earned money usually gets spent wisely.

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Once other people are involved ethics comes into play with honesty. There is a famous ethical example of this, where nuns were hiding Jewish children in a convent and a Nazi platoon leader asked the head nun if any Jewish children were in the convent. To be honest meant the lives of the children, to be dishonest meant the possible life and/soul of the nun. However, we can be totally honest about ourselves to others, if you value your truth above pride and vanity.

It's okay to be the only one who talks sense. At least you will know you make sense. Seriously though, the more truthful you become the more isolated you may find yourself from others. Most are honest when they need to be, but most prefer to avoid exposing their own truth to others. And this is wherever you go, whether you travel, stay put, in a saloon, or in a church. But all of this does not matter anymore, because truth becomes your best friend. You would rather be alone with truth, than with a crowd of deceived.

Thanks. That is true, that reason drives a person. Usually the reason is either fear or love based. My previous post was to explain that willpower ought not to be considered as something that is needed throughout the goal, but only to initiate it. Many people do not realize that and give up before even trying.

Let's assume a person is suffering from low self-esteem (ego-energy). Their ego is largely based on shattered hopes (the bankrupt idealist). They need to find a new hope and to rebuild self on a more solid footing of truth, reality and love. In this way, they learn the truth about their ego and can learn to not rely on it like they used to. In fact, they can build up enough truth and love to no longer needing validation (humble and meek) like the ego does. So, a healthy ego is one who is okay with being not okay (so to speak). The fears which once ruined the ego has been replaced with the love of truth. Though it likes the love, but the truth keeps it quiet, humble and meek. Cultivating it? Deep introspection of one's truth, and accepting it, (eventually) puts one's ego in a safe, calm, soft place (which it loves). For it knows that it no longer needs to work so hard from keeping the person in denial of itself. It has already been exposed, dissected, de-mythivized.

I find that it all boils down to two reasons: we do things either out of fear or out of love.

Yes you can. I have lost many materialistic things in my life and at first I always got stressed, angry, and grieved over my losses. Then later I learnt to accept and let go of my investments into materialism, beliefs and relationships. That does not mean that I do not make investments, but it does mean that I regularly let go of them. Anything I fear losing means I have to ask myself if I can let go of it. As soon as I can honestly say that I will be okay without it, then my investment, at that moment, has depleted itself. The hardest investment to regularly let go of, for me, is relationships. I have to let go of it every day. Before going to sleep, I ask myself if I can be okay if I never saw my girlfriend again. Until I can say I am okay with that, then I sleep like a baby.

Happiness is a releasing emotion, much like love and gratitude. The opposite is tension. Acceptance is the key which unlocks tension, and creates gratitude, love and happiness. If you are not happy, then there is some person, place, thing or situation you are not accepting. As soon as you accept it, its tension vanishes. From that liberation of tension causes one to be grateful, happy and loving.

Everybody is a free agent regardless of whatever circumstance they may find themselves. Even a forced slave is a free agent, though their body may not be. However, what most people tend to forget/deny is that we, as an individual, become totally responsible for it. That means, we cannot blame any person, place, thing or situation for our choices.

Installed the control panel onto the console and wired the harness to the three terminal strips. Now I have to make another wiring harness which goes from the three terminal strips to the two connectors located on the back wall of the console. These connectors will have plugs and cables connected between the console and the display diorama.

You (mind's way of making sense of itself) is a by-product of brain (body) activity. So the 'you' is a mental fabrication (story) of the body. It's not real, though it can strongly seem real, because it's intermingled (mentally) with all other body senses.