Ananta

@Ar_Senses It seems you have a lot of problems with her, not just sexually or her libido. Perhaps, you aren't meant for each other? I really dont have relationship advice. Sorry

I really dont want to use myself as an example in this..ugh, but to help the OP, if that's possible, I will. I was "exactly" like your wife for many, many years, EXCEPT I knew if my husband and I didn't have some sex he would leave or cheat. So, after years of fighting about and him begging for....sex. I came up with a schedule I could live with, he hated being put on a shedule! Twice a week (usually Monday and Wednesday) my husband got a lifeless, passionless quickie, then on Saturday the full deal with oral included. So, we had this "schedule", he got off, but there was no passion. I felt nothing usually, except on Saturdays, sometimes with the oral. For years I didn't know why I felt no desire, no urge for sex, ever. I had when I was younger, then it just stopped. Welllllll, I now know what happened. I was put on antidepressants in my mid 20's, stayed on them for many years. I was taken off them about a year ago... and wow! I have a high to normal libido now. So, it wasnt my husband, it wasnt him at all. It was what I had said over the years a million times. I just had zero sex drive. Now I know it was medication related. For others, maybe it's hormones and they should get them checked. I have a very happy hubby now ?. He calls me his new wife.

@Deutsche22 Is she on any SSRI antidepressants? Seriously, they are not good for the sex drive. They can make it non-existent.

@Sbilko I agree!

As I stated, its an observation. Btw, in case youre interested, there are forums dedicated to discussing Krishnamurti- Kinfonet.org comes to mind and people there dont copy his speech and lingo.

YES! You do have to take into account the perspective. Spot on!

See the "my" I put in bold? That's the problem, that's the "self" (lower case "s"). That's the parasite. The self that thinks "it" has an ego.

So, then, you're taking what u think "might" be true and projecting it, as truth itself. Perhaps it's not true? I'm not saying it is or isnt, but just saying you personally don't really know.

@MarkusSweden So, u contradicted yourself from Thursday to Saturday. Perhaps your posts aren't well thought out? Or they don't come from true insight? Actually, per your own post above, you would say, you're projecting your very own poor awareness onto the world. Think about that before responding.

But Markus, you wrote this-

Omg, this is hilarious ?, thanks for the end of the workday laugh! TGIF!!

? I can't tell you the countless times my husband has said right after sex, "uh, think I'll go to bed now".....me: "but hun, it's only 8pm?...lol"

@calibrate ? Of course!

@Recursoinominado "Is it just me or online spiritual communities are full of mental cases?" Yes, I do think this is a fair statement. However, one often comes to spirituality after a good deal of suffering, that can/does often lead to depression, anxiety, addictions and other neurosis, so you're really suprised? Even Eckhart Tolle was deeply depressed and suicidal.

@Jack River sorry, I got busy today and really haven't been able to participate anymore.

To me the opposite movement to clinging/attachment is aversion (ie, someone or something that arouses strong feelings of dislike.) We usually are either clinging onto this or that, or pushing something away.

Isn't that the remedy, not opposite, of attachment?

@Victor Mgazi Aversion

There are not spirituality meaningful or an error, they just ARE....they are an appearance like anything else.

I really don't have anything constructive to say, at the moment, but had to pipe in and say your user name is hilarious! Lol ??? Oh, PS, nice post!?

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@A Seeker yup!

Jackpot! ? ...and, if they are independent of an "i", what does that tell you about the reality of "i"? (ie, if they aren't "your" thoughts, then are you the thinker? Is there a thinker?)

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