ValiantSalvatore

@Preety_India Danke dir für dein Beileid.

Ich liebe rote/orange Katzen meine Katze ist vor ein paar Monaten gestorben und hieß Simba und war rot. Viel Erfolg und Spaß beim Deutsch lernen!

@HypnoticMagician I feel the opposite it would gain more. If you really want to play advocatus diaboli play it with a bit more mindfulness. I love criticism, yet what you wrote is sheer stupidity and myopia. I am better off doing the stuff instead of receiving that kind of feedback. What you are saying stuff that happend in my life would basically drive you to suicide for me you are just some rando online. I don't think commenting me is going to work for you. Just stop it. Writting j.k like a 12 y.o apologizing for brat like behaviour using this nasty kind of fantasy language. I don't know just give others feedback who are worse off than me. Your opinion to me is as close to worthless as it gets. The amount of assumptions you make is horrible. Go troll someone else. I care about results and not about your philosophy of things. What kind of feedback is this? The way you type almost tells me everything about you. So, just go through your transformation. Talking about assumptions.

@HypnoticMagician I think you received your fair portion of Hitlery in life. I am unsure how to reply to this level of toxcitity I am pretty sure you'll get banned also. Here a reply. Basically everything you type would be negated by dating coaches. Plastic surgery won't help anyones self-image very much without an internal change. Also, I don't ponder sex all the time that is an assumption based on your perception not mine. Also, I am not interested to keeping women around like a dog. There are way more important things to do. Going through data online even from one dating coach I am doing pretty good. Also your comments are highly misogynistic. If you have success that way great. Yet I highly doubt you'd keep a "women around" for some time. I was wondering but I figured it out. It's A Okay just please get banned you are perfect fuel. Maybe buy a dog instead of a cat or even dating.

What works as a humorous silly pic? Dressed up in a silly way. Making weird faces. Using girl clothes dressed as a women etc. or very feminine. making fun of gender roles/gender as a social construct. Silly pose? Twisted like a bretzel upside down hanging from a tree Using make up to look like an animal cat,dog, vulture, tortoise, turtle Not very good with this one yet, if you have any ideas relating to humerous pictures I'd appreciate it. I'll see if one of my friends and I can channel our inner goofball. Did some pictures "doing" sporty activity they are rather weak currently. IMO. I will see what works we took some yesterday outside after doing dips/cardio/pull-ups. I did them after a dip pose at the calisthenics stuff. I'll post if I find something that works. What worked was photofeeler wise using a grey filter sometimes.

@Fearless_Bum Through travelling and living at least in a couple of different cities I have a similar pattern of disinterest for low quality activities in terms of how "conscious" they are. You can just be excited about creating the life you desire and you automatically will just be interested in the sheer experience of whatever is happening. Some dude getting drunk, some idiotic conversation about a tv series etc. you can just pay attention and enjoy the process you can even meditate and totally space out and people will not really notice. There is almost everytime something fascinating about another person and you can share stuff about yourself also. It's important to reach out friends usually cost time and energy and many are lazy and not interested in planning/doing stuff if you don't have the exact same interests. Expanding your interests can also help. I sometimes feel like I am a boring asshole because I feel I don't know enough or very niche stuff like SD, Integral Theory, Politics is also not a very good conversational topic. Nutrition, health, science, entrepreneurship as well as personal development are all great topics to learn about depending on interest. Expanding your interests will also make you more available to people. I do have a good amount of friends just hanging-out and talking about day to day experiences and sharing parts of that even if we have a totally different background can work. It's often more a lack of effort to wanting to connect to others and then beign more inclined to be needy because you want that friendship/connection thing etc. That sort of is my humble opinion. Also if you are not interested in the other person that is totally fine!

@petar8p The point is if I feel it I feel very dominant and I don't care about other people anymore so I am unsure what to do I generally have high self-esteem. The point is I really do not want to hurt others as I genuienly feel that I can provide higher value. I am doing a course on who to refine this so I am refining I am really looking more for ideas instead of toolkits to add to my belt since I already have a toolkitbelt full of tools. I reduce them currently to what works. The point is I visualize 30 mins everyday parts of attracting and feeling like I have it I do a visualization where I feel worthy capeable of having more value. Now I often answer my own questions...... very often. In case you have ideas I'd really like to know or even challenges like looking at every girl you see in public in the eyes till she stops looking etc.

I am sort of getting more into this game stuff I bought the course from Tyler, yet I notice because of my LP it's not easy to find time for it and it's more of a longterm project now as I can study the theory more etc. I notice my inner game is lacking more then I originally thought. I currently have the issue that I am lower on status than most girls on dating apps. Which does not make me feel very confident I overcame a lot of insecurities in my past through shadow work etc. I approached the first girl on Saturday she told me she has I boyfriend I simply asked if she was interested in dancing. The point is how can I display status in my profile I've been talking to my friend who get's consistently laid through online dating and even though I haver a higher earning potential he just has status because he is becoming a teacher and studies at a better university. The point is I consistently match with people higher in status, yet find it hard to attract and get the more normal people who can't see beyond status to be at least attracted to me. I attract basically the people I "loath" which are the lazy and apathy oriented people. I usually do more then required even though I am lazy this has been a consistent trend in my life even though I might do not get the best results because of a lack of effort. This is sort of a conundrum I am consistently working with. As I have spurts in ingenuity often through beign lazy and taking my time usually my brain runs to fast to keep track of stuff properly. Here is a list of what is currently happening online as my day/night game will slowly happen as other projects are just more important. As well as I want to finish my online dating challenge I attract people who are between the ages of 21-31. Most have higher status chemical engineer, doctors of medicine, people who are younger and doing their graduate programms. Did not meet a single person, yet that was lower in societal status even though I might have a higher earning potential. They act with more value because they have more value it's hard for me to not admit that and feel like I have more value consistently, spordaically yes. Otherwise I am unsure what I am doing wrong I used to write in my profile that I am doing online courses. 70-80% of my likes are from women I feel no attraction towards and I would never date them. (smoke,obese etc.) 10-20% I can date and we usually chat even if they are more succesful and I like it that they are mainly very compassionate, since I am highly attracted to compassion. The point is this sort of get's me very hard internally because deep down I want to provide, yet I am scared and this can be fuel as well as a huge hinderance for me to continue online dating. It does hurt my self-esteem although I like to put myself out there online and be authentic. The point is it's not easy for me to be authentic since I have an injury that needs an operation and it is really messing with my head/mindset and authenticity (not as much a couple of months ago). Any ideas how find a fundamental solution besides increasing my "status" (LP work) more authentically as I am already doing? I took at least two new photos of my hobbies showing interests (reading, cycling) and some status I guess. I still have an old picture where I lived in China with a couple of women from my workplace, yet it's 5-6 years old I am usually quite social when I am out although I am a strong introvert (INFJ 4w5). They all liked me so I thought it might be a good idea for social proof. Also this shows more of my personality as I really helped them there. We even ate lunch at their house/appartenet so I feel this would be fine as I would usually ask them in person. Because of rights etc.

@something_else I feel on OkCupid anything is possible you could easily match and date a girl who is 24-27 although I don't know in detail. I am 27 most of my matches have been 3-4 years younger and older some are the same age so anything 3-4 years+- as well as people the same age definitely works. It's way more open-minded and about personality and authenticty. Also having skimmed once with a womens profile the competition is high, yet they use low effort pictures etc. So, just having a good profile definitely helps a lot. It's more like a display of skill than status in a sense I feel. This is my biased opinion!

@something_else Not using Tinder yet I am managing my activities as well as possible I should not even have time for this, yet this really is an issue right now. My friend basically get's most of his matches through Bumble and Tinder. I can compare Bumble with okCupid so far. Simple answer (2 weeks Bumble 4 months approx okCupid) Bumble more attractive and succesful women I repeat way way way more attractive women Bumble more casual Bumble less personality because of shorter profile design choice Bumble is still a riddle to me with conversations/chatting Bumble has more chats features voice mail and video Bumble very Orange/green to Green/orange Bumble feels more chill although not having any bee's in your hive just feels frustrating which is okay not always, but good practice for acceptance Bumble pictures seem to count more OkCupid more authenticity more depth OkCupid quite left leaning with more hypocrites (very green) has some yellow people from a SD perspective OkCupid intellectual you can just have deeper conversations that lead to dates OkCupid more naivity and fake profiles OkCupid till now conversion rate for me is higher here OkCupid has more international students and international people OkCupid seems to care less about status Overall I feel the hurdle is higher in Bumble, yet I have to test more currently OkCupid I can send out messages and receive most matches through originality which is only possible in pictures with Bumble OkCupid less effort if don't want to use super pictures OkCupid can feel very superficial in comparrision to Bumble OkCupid is also weird you can track people more I feel one girl is now online again after some dates with one guy I feel like they can't find what they want on this page although a female friend of mine found her current bf and they are together for 4-5 years or so. Similar women overall in taste adventure and travel picks are like everything I see and miss in my profile Some wome use both services Bumble and OkCupid My friend overall get's more matches most on Tinder so I can't really tell currently I get one like per day on Bumble and approx 4-5 matches per week on okCupid. Depending on effort of messages, yet the pool is getting smaller. Newer accounts I get instantly. I wanted to test Tinder sort of as last solution for online dating. Although they recommend in the David DeAngelo course to have more profiles on more plattforms. I am just slowly refining my profile to see what works.

@Thought Art Unsure how long you are into this the sooner you can meet it will be better and you'll see if she is a match as well as give the person a chance you might become friends etc. instead. This would be advise from the course from David DeAngelo which is a bit more intellectual/authentic. Chatting forever is a time waste for both of you. I still do this mistake as my text game is not perfect just saying and sharing what I've learned so far.

@modmyth It's a bit funny if you can tolerate / stomach racist humour although I would never call someone that it really is kinda gross, creepy and rapey. Nobody would believe sweet sauerkraut exists. Also that stuff is disgusting to eat imo. I used to get things that are directly related to my phenotype as a guy. Like how can you be black when you are so white. I am more of a chameleon by skin color guys who are latin etc are way darker than me and my father is very dark in skin complexion. While my mother is just normal white in her skin complexion. Speaking as a German/American. Fortunately my dates have not been very stereotypical till now. Yet, I received my fair share of racist assumptions from guys and girls durin high school etc. Sweet Sauerkraut sounds so wrong it's funny yet also just pops weird images in my head especially considering age during that time. I was visting a friend and she brought a friend along she could not believe that I was black thought I was from another country and not U.S citizen. It's a total mystery to people apparently. She never told me that yet my friend did because her reaction to me beign black was totally different. I don't know the issue arises again when you have swedish/americans, thai/germans, croatian/germans, philippine/german friends etc. It's funny if you also have bi-racial friends at least here to make fun of these idiotic assumptions and the level of myopia present.

@Thought Art Paradoxically the right assumption can work I texted one girl because I pretty much knew she was into it if she likes the final fantasy series. We matched although she was quite young we never meet. You can do both most likely the confidence of the message as well as the level of experiences and inner game etc. Vibes through through the message. Reviewing cringe messages after sometime. Helps to refine the message. A girl asked me for my number after I felt so confident that I knew this "type" of person and I called her a serial killer after that she wanted my number. I did not attempt to enter a more of a no-mind state and then write text out of sheer creativity in sort of an autopoetic/self-organizing form. ------ I guess it worked because she texted you back through beign authentic. (my assumption) I feel curiosity is the best way to avoid making assumptions although it might not be the best solution. Just accepting what is sort of.

There are some principles to texting that I am embodying I can type quite fast on my computer so I can send out original messages quite quickly. I've sent a message out to a girl and did not mentoning stuff out of her profile and sometimes they delete me quickly I have a bit of an issue with the sexual notion of things sheerly because of racist treatment and I really really have to chill to sort of calm my anger. So, I subconsciously do not engage in this type of chatting. I basically just want her number and meet up there are some ways to do that, that I am testing without bullshit. Yet, how come some delete me after one message and adding me before. I understand that his can happen although it happens a bit to often so I am unsure I keep thinking how I can make my profile more authentic, yet this takes some time as I truely want to master online game at an specific level. I like sort of the adventure of meeting a stranger through the internet and this has been a theme that goes a bit further back into my past. How did you work around this issue so it happens less frequently? TL;DR: Beign deleted after one message for beign authentic stings a lot how did you work around this issue? I'll sort of tap into social circle and night game as this is the only thing that can work here in combination more effectively. Pros and cons of my profile Pros: Professional pictures Unique profile description No grammatical mistakes as well as spelling erros I review my profile actually A call to action link to a funny clip/music video Promoting her to message me Mystery Ambition Evokes imagination Authentic/Original Speaks to her Crafted to attract the women I want Cons: Not congruent enough I lack travel and adventure pictures currently High competition even I do get matches pictures are just better and I am more authentic Non sexual text game sometimes it happens sometimes not Profile description is not concise enough Not neccesarily better because of lack of pictures social and adventurous pictures, but better profile descriptions -------- I'll create a new profile description tonight so if someone solved that problem in ONLINE DATING, then I'd appreciate if someone found a solution to this issue. As it could be a lot of things. I attract more of the girls that I am interested in now, yet they are further away. Another example 3 girls tell me they are interested in meeting but busy and some just want to meet and nothing happens. I give them my phone number I can ask for theirs as I will most likely do with this one. The point is I invest to much time and I easily become obsessive about an issue. Please no good intention advice I'd rather appreciate it if someone would tell me what works and point it out.

@Yarco Thanks advice is a bit toxic from what I consumed. I agree with the writing part for now. I don't invest that much time into getting nudes. I don't know not my interest. I'd rather meet her. I consumed a lot of advice this not all not helpful I appreciate the effort. Point is not a scarcity mindset. The point is what works technique wise etc. I appreciate that you tell me that it works, because I also believe that it definitely can work.

What services are working for you or what plattforms? Tinder,okCupid,Bumble, Match.com,Lovoo etc. I am curious as to what works. I would do real game in a larger town for now I am sort of getting the hurdle of approaching in public there are many attractive girls in the gym, yet I am also injured so I feel often like shit and just want to get my workout done. I need an operation. Currently, I can basically mainly do online dating and social circle and night game. I'll text some friends for night game and apply Leo's framework this will not always be possible. Since my LP is still a priority. I am still doing a 90 day challenge for 1h online dating when I move to a larger city I will definitely do some game. With a wingman so we have a common goal and I can discuss theory. Going out alone I am a bit tired of doing stuff constantly alone. Maybe if I am an a game OG.

From what I've read through going through dating material Confidence Humour Grooming Style Personality Adventeruous Virtue Bad boy characteristics (good boy turning bad - bad boy turning good) Playfulness Having and beign fully on purpose (divine purpose) Leadership Ambition Knowing what you want and getting it Decisiveness Caretaker qualities having a job, beign financially stable Character overall Cooky and funny humour Beign edgy Intelligent/Witty I am not done learning and applying yet this is a small list there is more.

@itachi uchiha It is recommended in the LP. Just chill the work is not purely about PuA one PuA book was also recommended in the booklist.

Alright... this is from a course I paid money from integral this guy taught fkings presidents so here it goes. This is still my map. No picture. Interest in or has don't ask my why or what I wrote down Consciouness Sexy body Playful Inner goodnes Animals Kind Conscienticous Enjoys staying in love Enjoys my presence Erotic polarity Femninity Adventure/Exploration Smile Spiritual Intuitive Improvement oriented Enjoyable/gentle Unique Clear purpose Hiking/Outdoor stuff Humour Quality time spent together Beautiful face is a human Subtle energy intuition Acceptant Having a deep souls purpose to me That would pratically be the ultimate for me to some degree. Anyway...

I created a love map that shows in detail what kind of girl I want and enjoy for example. Authentic, spiritual, compassionate, open-minded, into outdoors activities, enjoys beign sexual and some other traits. I will not reveal everything my first date hitted the exact spot for my love map. Did not work out unfortunately.

Hey there I just don't really know what to do at this point with the connection issue. The girl I dated now said something similar along the lines of spontaneity and connection is an issue and she had an issue with optimization oriented logic. Which at one point is sheer self-actualization. In my generation sort of all across and still in Gen-Z there generally is a meaning crises we talked written about how that was an issue. As well as she felt that she can't provide honesty and transparency which I find abit odd. As we played this cube game I am very good almost a master already at disambiguating power dynamics as I know how to thanks to Wilber courses and zazen, open monitoring oriented meditations for years now. As well as how we can combine as well as stage theory helped me a lot, yet green is very phony when it regresses back to amber. Yet, I find I have this issue currently with having neglected stage orange aspects of myself and it's important to nuture that drive. I don't know if she is Gen-Z or Gen-Y till now I don't have much success with Gen-Y and I generally feel more like Gen-Z with performance oriented stage orange expressions instead of Gen-Y who sees more of the success part. Anyway, she gave me the feedback she is not into optimization logic, okay uses an app that profits of that sure, okay all good. She tells me she is more spontaneous and does not think to much about it. I agree also that I can become very stiff in social situations because of past experiences and constant bias with racism. My nervous system is very sensitive and I am just unsure what to trust. I don't know if any women reads this it's similar to having a gut response when I feel a certain sense I know most likely what will happen or what kind of emotion is in the whole room. I often feel when I truely would connect I would feel more like her lapdog for instance and get friendzoned and I can't yet seem to strike a balance. I am usually very spontaneous, yet my psychlogist, my last 3 dates. All women tell me that this structure oriented thinking is horrible, the point is it's inevitable. I function better in society it makes me more happy I generally still am very spontaneous and flexible. I just don't bend over backwards as well as I would make time for her I find it weird that I get this feedback as I am the guy who in my friendgroup who usually travelled and visited different places the most am spontaneous as fuck I change direction almost instantly and just explore an area. If I would not have this issue with my leg I would do some free running kind of stuff, it's difficult to nuture my value of playfulness and spontaneity because of my issue with my leg. So, this would be more present as I don't fully feel it currently thanks to the issue of my leg also and this might be a lifetime of an issue. I used to do sprints and just run wild etc. Any feedback to the issue with my dates and them saying I lack spontaneity and flexibillity? Is this more a social thing as I made her laugh and we had fun or is it more emotional or even already at a beign level? What can I do to work on it I attempted as well as possible to connect to her emotions, THEN SHE SHOWS ME DEPTH often I connect instantly then she is gone, gone, gone. I instantly sense depth. I could just hug her and enjoy beign with her she kept biting her lip during the conversation. It was very similar as to with the first girl I dated, yet she had more empathy for negative things. Depth there we are not physical next to each other I can't escalte/show what I feel I might be better of to initiate a meeting in person if I already like her instead of via zoom etc. We could just walk in a park etc. or go for coffee as I like those activities. Any idea as to what the issue is? Is it me? Is it projection? Is it her? Is it both? Is it beign related as she was into Yoga? Was I to serious and not casual? I sometimes have so much fun I forget to ask what she wants in a relationship.

@Salvijus Thanks for the uplifting words! I currently do a metta/loving-kidness oriented meditation for 30 min since this is the most practical approach for my goals and I attend 8-10 retreat days I won't make it 14 unfortunately. I usually did 1h sessions, I'd rather would have done some of that Yoga with her because it was physically oriented and I could train my body for flexibillity and get a feel for that stuff and I can't do it yet if she is not willing. I listen to some Deida in the Gym I can't believe this stuff. I just like improvement and survival I am not willing to live like a monk as I do have material desire even if they are rather small. Even eating proper food etc. It's okay for now I just really looking for feedback here.

@Leo Gura That is a very good idea I can include this when I am done with my thesis and uni stuff and practice it for 2 months or 1 month and contacting a wingman for game that is a very good idea! Also, for day game I really want to observe a good wing first and see how he charms etc. For now I'll go with online dating and social circle and some night game, yet going out here solo is a bit to much the dude I saw on saturday in a bar just passed by my window 1h ago. He will pass by more often. I presume just social circle can work. Also, this phase of my LP will take a lot of time and effort. The new book I've started reading showed how much certain pictures matter etc. and basically it's all pics and some new tipps.

@Leo Gura Basically staying there for day game for one or two days or via online dating? Matching women in bigger cities and dating them there? I currently match the best women 155 miles away. I have also one date now there as this is a very international city. My friend says the same he basically has to drive. Driving there is okay. Also, I like driving. My car is okay, yet not made for long distances. The date is also iffy because she basically is 10/10... I was suprised by the match. @something_else My circle expands now 155 miles I am willing to drive dude 50 miles is a joke logistically I usually plan very well. Also the German Authobahn if I'd had a better car I could drive there definitely faster. Although I agree 100% it is a pain in the ass although my last date appreciated the effort, yet she just had to lead because I don't know every point in the city to go to even with good planning. I am not willing to make this a research project and distill every single bar/club option I see just walking through a city you'll find some good stuff and google usually helps. We went to a good restaurant as this was a 7h date. I was also very hungry since we went sightseeing the entire city. She showed me everything I just had no attraction to her because of clothes. I am not joking.

@Leo Gura Allright, I'll inform myself and get more into physical escalation. As well as do the physical escalation challenge. I doubt there will be a lot of going out and I'll still see what I can do. It would be great to at least have some people to go out with, I am asking. It somehow did not work for me when I see a face reaction I can't really interpret it till now, the last girl was not able to hold eye contact and she told me she had issue with that. So, there was no real way of me telling without more direct experience. I'll just see what I can do at this point. More info would really be good. As well as less demonizing for male energy I feel very guilty and I am currently torn as I can't enact it fully because of injury that I can't fix right now. I just don't know how masculine my energy is since I can't regard most other males that I know as masculine somehow after doing very masculine activities like zazen and weightlifting. I can be very present, yet tbh I can also just forget her in that state. I often feel it's more easy for me when I am in my feminine and everything is flow etc. So, I don't know I really have no freaking clue. @Illusory Self I don't like to give advise based on not having enough direct experience I could give you some common sense stuff, yet you would already know that I presume 100% so I just link this guy and hope he gives a good response! @flowboy