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@LastThursday That is cool to know first time I saw one was when I took the course. I am sometimes unsure I'd be way more critical of the content of SD itself having contemplated it for so long now, especially when reading and applying the sections from the book about life conditions, and it's not easy to establish those. I generally think with every model it's like this, yet if it's not polarity mapped, sometimes I noticed my thinking get's stuck on being focused on seeing the overall end-result and not the entire dynamic of the field, that includes obsession of the process of getting to the result, instead of seeing the full dynamic and how it runs and being reminded etc. I generally feel you can take every map and make it a polarity map and add orthogonal poles just riffing off language here to the map and it's quadrant. What many miss about SD you never are at one stage so the "dynamic" or polarity according to the book it basically runs like this if you are at one stage let's say I am orange then I use 33% one stage up and one stage down, as my main and these are integral terms... structure stage development. So it's fully achieved that I am orange and I now can use 100% of the capacity of orange, yet I fundamentally also will use 33% of the next higher and 33% of the next lower stage. I have access to 100% of the lower stages, yet my main "structure stage development" is bouncing between 3 stages using 33% of it's perspective most of the time. So you can gleam a good portion of the next stage and are using it at the sametime. Many don't notice this so when I am fully Green I use also parts of Yellow, yet I don't have the full capacity of Yellow active in me. SD is also value focused, integral theory goes a bit deeper. What I am saying is the model is one-dimensional most likely, yet the polarity is applied to the "whole field" of SD stages more, as when living conditions hit the fan. The dynamic spirals down till it hits a center of gravity. Then the polarity beginns again. Then there is the translation of the stage also basically moving towards the positive orthogonal pole more. Basically more direct experience of that stage polarity etc. --- I know it's a very unpopular opinion, yet I think the MBTi is heavily limited as it's so focused on the cognitive capacity of ones type and you can only be one type. It's everytime this stack of cogntive stacks of this compares to the stacks of that. It's like they forget that people have a body and only have a brain and are hunting for types instead of just seeing compatability. I noticed this when dating too... as a model I prefer the Ennea. As it deals with human desires and vices also. As well as includes congition. As well as has neuroscience as well as MBTI has neuroscience. Dunno hope I did not derail the thread I definitely flucatate between all 4 of these, most likely bandit the least, as I am heavily focused on win-win situations from reading PD books. I definitely also would feel and say most people are more like bandits.

I recentely used this https://www.amazon.de/Success-Journal-Serious-Blue-Productivity/dp/1631066641 it helped me a lot to achieve my goals and work a lot without feeling that I burn-out. I find myself consistenly unable to hit all of the 5 goals from the life purpose course, yet this one really helped me. Any tools you can use for a longer time to reach goals. I read some theory behind it, yet never found a proper tool. Mostly I write it down and track it nowadays, make aribitary dead lines on my calendar and measure the progress at best. I don't do all of this consistently, yet this really helped me. Look at my LP goals daily. The LP goals are basically the higher vision goals. I do have a vision board. (no dreamboard yet ) and I visualize my current goals. Yet, Istill don't take daily action tracking has helped me to stay consistent over a weekly basis mostly or monthly. Yet, some goals require more effort on a daily basis more. The book/tool above helped the most till now when it comes to taking consistent action on a daily basis, what has helped you the most to take consistent action on a daily basis to reach and achieve your goals?

@LastThursday I've been going out more and more and generally still and really have issues with people who are into academia and socializing, it's like some people make it a loose-loose scenaroy in case you are not part of their social groups behaviour. As many others are just open-minded and cause more win-win scenarios. I took a course online and I speed ran it I think I did not even take notes, as I felt sort of scammed, yet I noticed it now more how important it is and I intuited it's very important to know that stuff as it's adressed towards people who want to lead at the cutting-edge and who are interested in integral theory and all the ken wilber stuff. What I notice when I look at the map of the 5 laws of stupidity and consider the course is. That it's never mentioned it's a polarity and you could make a polarity map almost out of the map of the video. As everyone goes through all of these quadrants it's important to notice it's a polarity basically smth. like this. I do feel also this map is very applicable to the map above, it looks complex and! It is really not complex. https://sixseedpartners.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/Blog_PolarityMaps5_Seriously-Lightly-702x526.png These are sort of polarity maps. Thanks for sharing the video! I never would have come up with the idea to share this idea and information. https://universityinnovation.org/wiki/Resource:Polarity_Mapping My point basically is when the 5 laws of stupidity are applied there is a polarity you will inevitabely glide through all quadrants and find yourself at one more, using a polarity map would show that it's important to focus on an upward movement of the polarity. As this loop or infinity symbol in the picture I posted above shows, if it would be placed lower there negative dynamic would be more in place. As the polarity would move more backwards and forwards inside the negatively listed quadrants of the map. This can be contrasted with everything. Social vs unsocial. Justice vs. unjustice, feminine vs masculine, globalization vs nationalism, inside vs outside, individual vs. collective, conservative vs progressive. Each has upsides and downsides the important part is moving the dynamic more upwards towards the positive. As the map in the video is not fully laid out to be a polarity map it's biased towards one quadrant. All I want to say is it's a dynamic and that it is important to see that this happens, a polarity map displays this not sort of so absolutist quadrant view and is still free of interpretations mainly. To give a personal example I am going out more and more and I notice I focus more on the social negative sides of the feminine that I do not like instead of the positive and mainly focus on the positive masculine polarity/dynamic. Assertivness, dominance, providing, protection, leading, confidence, more active Instead of the more negative ones. For e.g aggression, domination, unstable, abuse of power, control, hyper competitivness, physical violence etc. I barely notice the positive feminine support, caring, intuitive, creative, kindness, nuturing etc. and notice more the negatives witholding, manipulation, victimhood, over sentimental and over sensetive, neediness. I do notice as everyone has these qualities that it's not so easy to move into the positive polarity consistently where I feel you'd mostly feel the positive qualities which would automatically create a win-win. My masculine side also appreciate this a lot when I receive positive feminine care etc. Emboyding as well as transiently experiencing any of these emotions more often would lead to more intelligent people regardless of sex, color and creed etc. That would be my take on the video. Got me thinking because I am going out more... thanks for sharing! Hope this is informative and useful!

@Illusory Self Found the perfect article. https://www.businessinsider.com/foods-that-might-be-giving-you-acne-2018-1#:~:text=Eating lots of refined carbohydrates,which theoretically may worsen acne.

@Illusory Self What I noticed is that when I eat less refined grain/carbs and eat whole carbs and eat less sugar my skin improves especially my face, unsure what is the reason for this. I sometimes get pimples when I eat to much sugar and regular wheat/ refinded carbs. I did a course and a section of the course about nutrition said to cut out white wheat stuff completely. White rice, noodles that are not whole wheat etc. I did this already because Michael569 gave me the tipp. So that helped me to deal with unneccessary pimples additionally to eating healthy. I watched some video ago also on gym advice. I sometimes wore my gym shirt two times in a row when I did not sweat a lot, yet there is an oily substance called sebum that can clog up poores in your skin, so I had some pimples or skin disturbances on my shoulder. Can't find the video, yet the stuff gathers in gym shirts and is cleaned through hot water, so basically washing it. So it get's in your poores when not washing the shirt. Hope this is useful!

@Anon212 No experience, yet definitely would love to go out with someone like this.

INFJ - 4w5. OCEAN: O- 80-96 percentile C - 20 percentile E - 30-40 percentile A - 76 percentile N - 50-60 percentile This is also interesting systems thinking and mbti. https://thesystemsthinker.com/a-new-path-to-understanding-systems-thinking/

@Loba Thanks for explaining ??.

I do run in some issues while attempting to learn game. From going out in my 100k city. The city does have a decent night life. Yet I see the same people over and over again. Which has advantages and disadvantages. Competition is also rough. Military guys with a sh*t ton of money who all have a lot of status and girls are out for them. Spending money like if it was nothing. Not all of it is real etc. Also there is a shit ton of battery. Recently someone got stabbed and my friend tried to revive the guy. People start greeting me now especially guys as they all are looking to get laid and sort of this subconscious pact builds of who knows a good place and girls etc. Some guys just hug me and people really love to drink with me, which makes it difficult not to drink. Some guy gave me expensive parfume while I took a piss to even smell better. A girl she was very unattractive spend me a drink last time. Bar keeper women keep flirting with me even if it's for fun and not the extra tipp. As well as starts leaning against me making physical contact. Mostly they are hot I seem to have a very comforting vibe. People ask me to go out into clubs when they re-open. The main point is I really do nothing. Guys just come to me think I am cool for some reason and wanna talk. I always also get these deep conversations about life in a 1 on 1 situation. Even though I think this is so superficial after doing psyches etc. Mostly I never meet again with the guys. I feel should I ask for guys numbers? I basically have the option to be picky since I already know two naturals who get laid a lot. Yet these are my only options, yet they really go out a lot. I like deeper bonds and quality wings in that sense, yet really nobody knows game here. It's just socialization and befriending women. Since people know each other approaching sometimes feels extra scary. As people pass by they are like fk it they'll come back the group comes back etc. What can I do when I feel just sort of as a secondary character when going out? I am mostly bored when I do not drink. I generally still lead drunk or not drunk. As people seem to have trouble making decisions where to go etc. What to drink etc. I am so busy with myself I struggle to open up and let go. I can make an effort to just still talk to girls, yet tbh conversations come quiet easy to me. I really struggle rather to get laid and approach and deal with the whole modern mating ritual. After being rejected I feel a bit scared approaching as I am the only one doing it. It all feels a bit to civil. Also guys keep telling me their secrets etc. Which is odd. How social do you guys think I am? I am not good at "external perception" or how others perceive me.

@Nahm Thank you for the advice. I'll consider buying the whiteboard and listen to some manifestation stuff. I am still young and can definitely afford to test this out. As well as to look at how the synchronicity feels. @Fearey Same here especially as a fellow 5 with a strong w5. My nervous system is also super sensetive. A peaceful area really helps with working towards my goals as well as soltitude and meditations. @Dryas Yes, same here. The less distractions the better the quality of my work.

@Ulax I've read/listend to the audiobook atomic habits and took notes as well as action on it. I certainly fall of track and reply the advice when circumstances change, yet changing my outer enviroment is still the best approach for me till now. This is more of a phase. That I have to work through. Can you link the book? That would be great. Not finding anything through Amazon and or Google and or YouTube. I bought the hot seat home programm from RSD, yet I have different priorities. The book might come in handy.

@mivafofa I did a shit ton of stage red shadow work with the 3-2-1 process. It did help me to include a lot of negative qualities and to own them. For instance my arrogance as well as being fine being seen as asshole and feeling the pain of it. There are many shadow work tools. I still have the same issue with assertivness and dominance. Personally it helped me with integrating my hate and sometimes owning it, arrogance etc. There are also golden shadows for example stuff that you admire about another person and you could never think of being that way. You most likely have that quality and are denying it. For me for example I almost admired very intelligent people, I still do and I often heavily cripple myself in terms of my capabilities out of fear or self-hatred. I really had to own it that others in my real life persona see me as intelligent and capeable. This still is an issue I run into. That is the opposite of having only negative shadow elements, there are also postive golden shadows or projections. There is also retroflection https://www.quora.com/What-is-retroflection-in-Gestalt-therapy Basically you turn the energy or the shadow projection against your self. Self-hatred is a good example imo. The energy is used in an absolutely deconstructive manner and causes harm. This is the last book I've read on traumas called The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma. It's more of an scientific perspective showing how soldiers in vietnam overcame their trauma and the entire history of how trauma was studied mainly, which modalities where used, their family lives, how they coped with their traumas. What worked etc. What is used in therapy etc. For me personally I'll utilize exercise although out of this book as a modality for shadow work as it's the most convenient and makes me feel the most alive and integrated. Especially cardio currently.

Best stuff I've seen is from integral as it's mostly gender-neutral or takes different kinds of relationships into consideration. I am mostly heterosexuall, yet from listening to one course they talk very neutral about relationships in general and take homosexual relationships also into consideration. It's more functional and less bs. The course does cost money, I did not finish it as it's quiet dense. Free ressources I don't know and have not seen about dating at all for gay/homosexuall relationships as a hetero guy all guides I've read were for hetero guys. The course is focused heavily on relationships.

@Ludwigvan That is very interesting! Especially the overriding of androgen receptors with testosteron as well as what even prolactin is, I heard the name of the hormon multiple times. Also the idea of not doing any activties that release more dopamine than my life purpose is highly interesting. I never thought about this. I do think just from the sheer amount of comfort I create in my enviroment that I tend to do that. Tea, good music or dopamine releasing music like trance for instance. Yet, I really struggle in the morning for years now. I eat a lot of protein currently and I exercise with weights 5x a week. I meditate for minimizing stress and cortisol levels. Healthy lifestyle I am unsure.I do eat and drink quiet healthy etc. I could eat more fruits etc. Do you have any recommendation in terms of websites for such biological breakdowns that are pratical? Only thing I sometimes watch is the Huberman lab. Enviromental design etc. Is a big issue I run into. I don't own a TV and I plan on never owning one in my bed room etc. I never tested my t-levels I think doing it would be clever. I threw out my coffee machine. I basically have a computer, books and a bed in my appartement for stimulation. Enviroment design is what I'll utilize the most when it comes to habit change. It's a bit difficult currently as I'd need a larger appartement, I do like this concept from atomic habits. A seperator currently won't fit for the exact spot I'd need it. I'll definitely contemplate how I can make my life purpose the number one dopamine activity. Or lower the dopamine impact of other ones for example no music at the gym only audiobooks etc. That is an awesome re-frame and advice! Thank you for that a lot!

@aurum Yes this is exactly what I mean! Do you just write it down? For example I want to buy the SM58 stage mic for my sound journey and then you write it down in your note-taking app? @Loba For me it's similar coffee does help me a lot and journaling, yet I threw my coffee machine out of my appartement I drank to much. What do you call introspection practice? What is that and how does that help you achieve your goals? @Eternal Unity I'd love to have the patience and time to practice tai chi. @itachi uchiha I notice this when I don't surround myself with self-improvement material a lot especially in audible form as this is the most flexible. For example while cooking I often listend to the mastery audiobook, same as when working out. I do notice it reaches the depth of my unconscious a lot and then I take notes on this and ask myself... how will my behaviour change? Then write down what I want to implement, sometimes I am overwhelmed, by the sheer amount of exposure. Like 5x working out 1h approx of audiobook on 2x. Then note-taking. As well as cooking 20-30 minutes 5-7 times a week. Listening to audiobooks/self-improvement stuff. Showering listening to it etc. I'd love to have a subconscious revelation, yet currently I don't really have one. I am surrounding myself more with "classic" self-help material currently and many topics interconnect. @Nahm I looked at your website and the dream board tbh I love the fking idea of it. I love whiteboards and earser boards look similar. I wanted to ask you again a couple of questions regarding the process. As well as what is your opinion for example on synchrodestiny in the context of manifesting desires. I really love Deepak Chopras work around manifestation and I tried it in a similar way, of how a you define the dreamboard. With a simple list and meditations. What are you thoughts on synchrodestiny? Basically that your live becomes a miracle and stuff unfolds as well as desires manifest and you consistently act on them, especially on coincidences. For example I found my current psychotherapist because her therapy dog ran away and my mother found the dog on the street and somehow arrange it, so the dog came back to her. She was forever grateful that was shortly after my grandmother passed away and so I had a spot immediately, instead of waiting 3-6 months or so for a spot. Another example for a synchronistic event was a date of mine posting a phone call with her showing an image of what my second name stands for which is close to impossible as it's persian in origin and quiet random. Or for example in south korea I meet a girl who lived 1h away from my home town, so we talked and bonded immediately in the hostel which was totally random as well as the odds of that as it's not a densly populated areas is way to low. Such conincidences what are your thoughts on that? As well as do you act on them? Sometimes I hesitate to act on them because I fear that the desire will not manifest. Sometimes the desire is also quite dark and does not feel fully ripe. Like texting the girl who posted a picture phone calling with my second name.

@VictorB02 Gotcha, I utilize journaling heavily mostly as for keeping my ideas and notions of stuff fresh. I use android and I would try try IPhone app. I don't own one.

@Vision I googled and I did not find a solid answers besides that a vision board is supposed to be working only for 4-6 months or max half a year so rather for short term goals. As well as a dreamboard was more for longterm goals or vision. I am unsure if people use the concept interchangeablly. As from the LP course from Leo IIRC it's supposed to be more longer lasting unsure if the information is correct. I can't read it anymore without a VPN this was the article IIRC. https://www.abc4.com/gtu/gtu-sponsor/the-difference-between-a-vision-board-and-a-dream-board/ I have a vision board it works for me as a reminder, yet I struggle to find an effective process for example. Regardless if visualization or vision board etc. https://www.inc.com/amy-morin/science-says-your-vision-board-actually-decreases-chances-of-living-your-dreams-heres-what-to-do-instead.html I asked Shinzen about visualizations and goals as I also did a lot of meditation out of performance reasons. I'd be curious how visualizing your goals helped other people to achieve their goals anecdotally. As well as how they visualize. For example in psycho-cybernetics it's important to keep the end goal in mind and imagine that you have it, in the manifestation community it's like you are supposed to feel like you already have it, so you don't feel the lack. In "psychology" or basic self-help it's to get rid of negative believes. Then there is the negative visualization process, which I never tried. Science it's more like you focus on the process and in the end I combine all of it, I just lack taking action mostly. For me it worked so far only once. I am being very patient with this as I ultimately do not know what works for me. Or what the exact issue is.

@itachi uchiha What specifically helped you there just the information and the mindshift? I've read the book and I have the other mastery audibook and listend to that 5-6 times or so.

@Kksd74628 What you are saying is basically what I mostly did find an internal reason, specificy the goal for example I want to be healthy and feel good about myself. I want to workout 5x a week. Or I want to deepen the quality of my relationships to feel more fullfillment in them. I will attend a relationship seminar courses etc. Same with getting laid. If my interpreation of your comment is correct. I did that mainly in my journals (offline) and with some digital journals on my comptuer. It does not always workout. Best thing for consistency was tracking, yet I really forget everything. Sometimes I feel it's unhealthy, yet it's the best thing I can do to keep myself honest with my goals and accountable. That is why I was asking what worked for you. Passion is for sure a driving force, yet sometimes it needs some re-kindeling that is why ppl usually take breaks etc. For me the question would more be how can I be as self-accountable as possible without burning-out or feeling utterly devasted by the process. I had the stragety of surrounding myself with succesful people which I did as well as possible and that helped tremendously for passion. Yet, it's dependent on others to some degree. Do you know of any tools that helped you or someone you know for self-accountabillity. For me seeing stats, tracking, numbers etc. Helped me the most to stay honest, yet sometimes I feel judged. I never achieve my goals "spontaneously" if there has not been a fundamental structure implemented and constant revision of the process, yet it's very draining for my social life. As I struggle with perfectonism and cripple myself. @aurum What do you mean with your goals are specific so tools won't apply? I don't understand that yet. What note app are you using the standard one for your phone? I had an idea booklet that I carried with me, yet that did not workout all to well. I mainly use the audible note taking function for example in the gym to take notes. I did not even know they had this. Otherwise I take handwritten notes while reading for example. Did this process help you to achieve your goals more? For example the specific goals that you set and if yes how did you set them? @VictorB02 Again which notes app? The standard one provided by your phone or what note taking app? I mainly use one-note for notes about PD and Notion for active projectes that are larger as well as for tracking purposes, as I mainly use my pc for this stuff. @Yoremo Yes, I see what you mean Michal Thaft is close friends with Shinzen, Ingram etc. They released a podcast that was of ultra high sound quality last year during an online-retreat I attended. I am not familiar with Cassinas and stuff like this. I listend to the Sedona Method audiobook and I practiced it for a while not long. It's so similar to meditation techniques I decided to just meditate during the day. Especially Shinzen Young's feel flow technique helps me with digesting negative emotions and is similar to feeling the emotion and letting it go. I do meditate for quiet a while, 6-7 years now pretty consistently. Generally it helps me to deal with the emotional difficulties and upheavels of that occure during the process of achiving my work. I was more looking for a tool. Or a new way of achieving my goals. Visualization is the tool I utilize the most currently. Or something that helps with taking action. I do burn-out so, I have to be careful. To not overdo it.

@Kksd74628 Tools like software, scientifically proven ways, personal ways you achived your goals, notebooks, whiteboard, calendars, visualizations. At best something I can feel and touch. I like the wu-wei approach of seeing your work as something passionate therefore it's not work. Yet I need some level of accountabillity an accountabillity partner does not always work out. I prefer self-accountabillity more. Obviously also choosing one thing as your main thing which I have as programming. It is mostly for my other goals that are also important. Quadrant two goals... stuff that is immediate, but not urgent. For example going out twice a week and approaching 50 women or smth like this as an example. Or eating less sugar and sweet stuff. If you have any websites or know any where I can find without paying that would be great. I feel less emotionally threatened that way and can engage without fear and much thinking. That is why I liked the success journal as it helped me with progress goals which is one concept from Scott Young. To reach larger goals. Basically IIRC time-constrained activites for example 1h going out approaching women or 1h jogging.

@Kksd74628 I was specifically asking for a tool, otherwise I'll hide the thread. This has no use for me. I am sorry. Not denying anything you say, yet to reframe it in your context. I need a tool for my passions. As I have many passions.

@Holygrail I asked this question last year on the kriya-yoga forum after buying the book. https://www.reddit.com/r/kriyayoga/comments/mju8b7/how_long_to_practice_kriya_yoga_a_day/ I mixed it with 1h mindfulness meditation, so doing 1h 20 a day I lasted max 6 weeks. I learned a lot conceptually, yet it was not really suited for my current life style and I saw that I need to dedicate 3h at the end to be very serious with it. I just skimmed my notes in the book I did it for approx 6 weeks. After realizing I have to do it for 3h a day I thought this is unsustainable for my current life style. 2h is doable when I see what Leo wrote and skimming the book again. I might have skimmed to the wrong part. Yet 2h is definitely smth. feasable. I noticed after mixing the practices that the breathwork is quite good to incoperate, yet I was advised from advanced teacher to not fuck around with breathwork to much if there is no guidance or teacher. So, I mainly stick to meditation. Definitely felt better than doing regular meditation even if just 20 minutes. Although it was quite intense learning the stuff conceptually and pratically. 20 minutes is not good in my experience. It was interesting, yet not good for the long-haul. This is as much feedback as I can give.

I did some of the courses that are offered by Ken Wilber and Integral Life as well as some of the stuff in other places and there are practical ways to get a taste of each stage and it's karma I did the full course on full spectrum mindfulness and some of the stuff is not talked about here. @Husseinisdoingfine You can basically get a taste and burn through it at home yet, also notice how active the stage and how much you can exhaust the karma or jsut having the awarness of it is very good. My example is applied to your post as you asked about green. I exhausted green a lot and had more stage orange drives to deal with. I find orange also more interesting from the way the course split up the basic drives of stage orange. Hope this is helpful I don't have all the time to format this. For example in the course they recommend to meditate with integral mindfulness which is not very different from any kind of mindfulness out there to feel to imagine how the stage feels like he gives you sort of a guided meditation and explains the overall framework These are my notes out of the course: Came with a emergence with a fourth person perspective meaning they could criticize science. Or what is objectively seen. Relativistic - Caused the movement of deconstruction. Criticized previous levels and deconstructing them especially universal claims. Especially their fragmented viewpoints. Says there are no universal truths. No truth to anybody. Ones own believe aggresive critiiques of big pictures. Marxism, Fundamentalism, Sexism, Patrichalism, Spechism, Scientism - all this was critizied because of it's wholeness. A fair amount of truth is there from the level of criticism. The previous levels tended to be less inclusive and less universal. But they went to far. All knowledge is context far and boundless and depend endlessly on interpretation. All knowledge is culturally constructed. They give a universal picture that there is a big picture, so there is no superior view. No-gos are at this stage green value level. Emposing and promulgating that a green structure stage is now being used in a country which has a lower level of development, will only cause the next dictator or a similar old structure to rise to power. Because you can't skip stages you have to give them the appropriate space to grow. What Wilber shows is that this map is universal true. So Green would deny it. Culture wars shows this stages. There will never be harmony in a culture as long as there is no higher stage offering higher wholeness instead of this coercing madness towards the enforcing structure stage. There is nothing superior on this planet. You have your truth and I have my subjective truth All ranking all hierachies are strictily taboo. Partnership society are needed excellence and achievement is looked at critically and this is nothing but oppression. Everyone is encouraged to share there feelings. Comes straight from the heart thinking is out feeling comes in. Most be emodied must be anchored in feeling not in thinking. Quantum Physicts is eco-centric instead of ego-centric. Is feminist, gaia focused and earth centered. Perfomative contradiction = you are actually doing in your own behaviour what can not be done at all or what you deem as evil or bad and should not be done. You are judging them for judging. You are ranking them for ranking. You have the truth. You like to impose your view on their view that imposes them on others. Green says it treats all people fairly and loathes all orange values and recognition of exellence. Loathes all integral and amber values. Exercise from the course: Notice how you judge. Pick a negative example and hold that situation. What is it like to judge somebody negatively for being a racist. Feel that judging activity as deeply as you can. Bring pure witnessing to that feeling of negative judgement. Universally valid judgement that racism is bad. But if you allow that universally you are not contradicting yourself. Universal judgements. We want to be aware of judgements in any case. Integral mindfulness on that area. Making judgements starting with negative judgments, intolerant, sexist etc. What is this charateristic that is behind it. Where is it located, what color has it, how does it smell like. At the sametime you are not a pluralist either that denies all universal judgements. Attempst infinte acceptance attempts infinite love acceptance, still bound to the self-contraction. Look at the things you do judge and see if it is a good things or if it is on good reson. This is important coming from this stage. It sees non-ranking higher and better then ranking it is still ranking. What are good guidelines in ranking then ? Postmodern pluralistic level 6. When is ranking okay but recommended according to this levels own values. This level values equality over almost everything else. Not all levels share this view. None of them in reality does. Predeator and prey at red for e.g 0 equality here. Amber the saved and the dammend saints and sinners. It will accept only those who are dammend saints. Orange will put them into winners and looser none of these equality stuff. Only green values equality and sees them as essentially equaly or egaliterian. A developmental level it is just that. Vertical development is much better then not having it. Ranked and judged accordingly then this stage level 6. Treats all people fairly and morally. How tolerant are they or not. Green pluralism wether they treat others. Not treating all people fairly is bad. Each higher level is more adqueate and better. Increasingly more inclusive more embracing more moral and more loveing. Eros showing ist true colors. Men = Hierachy and autonomey -> Men and patriachy (In a different voice Carol Gillgian) all patriachy are bad. Women = Relationship and belonging Both men and women develop throught the 4 basic hierachial development. Stage 2 or care. Only her self to care. Stage 3 all humans regadrless of race, color, sex and greed. Women tend to think hierachiecly themselves. More feminine values. Each higher level is more moral more caring. Dominator Hierchay: Cast System, Mafia the higher the level you are the more people you can opress, authorterian state, president trump and decress. Growth Hierachy: Most of them in nature are them: Atoms - > Organism. Transcends and includes. Higher levels don't oppress higher levels they include them they embrace them. Perfomative contradiction = it puts hierachy on it's lowest level of hierachy. Bright light of mindulness video tape it from all possible angles. Transcend and include all judgements we want to let go of judgement all together. This is better then this ?`What color is it what shape is it what does it look like what does it feel like. Get this attitude firmly into awarness. Fully firmly. Alternate this focus on finite judgement making with limitless unbounded awarness. With pure everpresent awareness. World centric judgements are better then ethnocentric judgements -> That is not what wisdom traditions mean. Ultimate truths are ultimately non-dual etc. Beyond pleasure and pain etc. Radical love or beauty of consciouness. No inside vs. Outside. No good v.s bad. Just pure isness pure suchness no up no down. Creator of all concepts (cloud of unkowing) zen calls it don't know mind. Ultimate unqualifyable Inclusiveness = Positive sense civil rights movements, enviromental movement, feminism, closer and closer to ultimate truth as we have seen with relativity. Focus on your own sense of indentity a strong deep sense of being identified with someone or something. How your own ultimate awarness becomes identified with I am this or I am that. Imagine it expanding to include your family, circle of friends, college and business associate. In your state or your nation entire global village expand and expand and expand. Represents the ongoing movement of the universe itself. Constant eros = transcend and include. Larger and larger and larger -> Remember is occuring along with exercises in growing up Personal Example for the session I don't know maybe my ego wants harmony with others not being hurt stopping this endless cycle of pain and hurt and agony over survival, culture wars and endless manipulation and hierachy games. I could avoid it by first accepting that his happens and then working towards creating harmony in my own live with my own level of idealism that can for sure work or releasing it throught spiritual practice and finding a way to deal with fear through meditation or working with my emotions more directly. A hidden superiority for me is by knowing wilbers work and spiral dynamics and seeing myself as higher placed than others I judge lower ranking systems if I do not like them. I see myself as superior morally and try to not convey it but I convey it nonetheless so I accept that I convey it and judge them and see that I am higher placed then them. Yet, that does not give me the right to negate their viewpoint or condem their moral system as being bad or useless. It has less wholness and intuitivness as well as less competence. Consider the pockets of pain and struggle in the world: from refugees to war to climate change. Can you relax your mind and heart while opening to stillness and compassion? I would feel sad thinking about them yet also offering them kindness and support would yes open my heart and allow myself to feel balanced and relaxed in my own view of helping them, yet I would also feel a tremendous amount of sadness for their circumstance and try my best to help them if given the chance or seen from afar offer my support in stillnes and in a sense of prayer help them or thank them for being so strong and enduring What inside of you is desperate for more harmony in the world, and how can you avoid becoming caught in a cycle of fear? In what ways are your perspectives and behavior have a hidden moral superiority to those around you–for example, do you judge others for being judgmental? Think about the most important or pressing situation in your life right now. How can you show up with more unconditional love right now?

To add some ideas and experiences. I do have similar issues, yet mostly in a group I am unsure what to talk about because I focus in on one person mostly. Yet for all my dates I had online and offline I basically dominated the conversation as I saw no other choice. I talked for approx 2h+- on dates etc. Just because I legit can. It was not forced in anyway. I mostly talked about travel experiences, similarities we both study the same thing, like the same thing, asked her what she is interested in or where she travelled to. Hobbies. If she is currently reading smth. Asking questions generally is good as the question will most likely be thrown back at you, so you can talk about yourself. Good topics are history, violence for example or anything about culture. Projects that I am working on, goals, aspirations etc. In a chill and casual manner. Or with excitement also frustration the whole spectrum basically. Meditation. Meditation retreats etc. I even talked about quiet a racist book I orderd about black history and the women I dated loved it and bought the same book. I told her I was so pissed reading this. Then we talked about astrology and stuff like this also. We still want to meet she wants smth. casual. Astrology, hand reading anything stage purple is gold, yet tbh I also hate it at the sametime. Women seem to love this stuff l don't know why. I did a personality exercise called the cube game to learn smth. about the person you can do it with anyone girls,guys etc. A lot of women liked this a lot and then wanted to do it with me which also can tell you a lot about the other partner. https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/quick-personality-test I did it because I like stuff like this. I'd steer away from politics as this can be to polarazing and at the sametime I've done it, it was okay, yet not the best topic to talk about. For example one girl told me she would never date someone who has a moderate political leaning again. I am unsure why, she told me why I don't recall anymore. I did not go further into it, she said I am glad that you identify as liberal. --- I am unsure how it is when you approach someone on the street from the infield I saw just from normal dudes, they mostly just asked where are you going, what are you doing, you have a gym bag are you going to the gym, hey you come here often for coffee etc. This is my dog etc. I do this and this here with a bit of nuance. Basically just self-revelatory stuff with a bit of small talk and observations as well as assumptions. For example you look like you are from Italy are you from city X? This is basically what you could talk about with almost anyone disregarding age, gender etc. I mostly think the energy and intent behind it is way more important. I did not do any day approaches till now only night and online-game. I have female friends that I meet from time to time, so conversations come easy to me especially 1v1. I am not the best in groups. Hope this is helpful somehow. Good topics are violence, history, drama, pop-news, culture, arts, traveling, fitness, events in my point of view. Topics that don't seem to be so interesting or to polarazing are politics, tech, philosohpy, video games, sports etc. Also this depends I dunno if you see smth. observational like she talked about some tech topic or video game etc. Then you can easily talk about this for example. Day game looks differently from seeing some infield it's not as elaborate as on a date. I bet people can also pull/sexualize things way faster. Inuendos and double entendres seem to be good for that, yet I am not very good at that yet. In terms of being social.

Anyway they all knew each other even the girls they pulled. Unsure if this is interesting. Guess this just happens and next time I approach at the end when people mingle to get their jacket. I saw two women alone. I approach. I usually take it slow when meeting new people as this seems to be okay and I can just get to know people and it's a principle from how to make friends and influence people I know it's an old book it seems to work a bit. Yet we barely talked as everything was crowded and people just moved the whole time. As everyone wanted to get into the club of the bar as this is the only thing that is open as clubs are closed. Unsure again feedback is appreciated my friend told me it's fine nothing really happens as there is not much going on currently.