Danielle

For me 24.is the biggest struggle, fitting in everywhere, but never truly fitting in anywhere. I'm still learning to navigate through that

The more time I spend in nature, the more clear it gets: people are not living. I asked myself that question so many times during all these years : i'm alive, but am I really living? It feels like my city environment is so fakely structured, so out of touch with our nature. It's so beautiful to be out of civilization, no buildings blocking my view of the sky, no cars, just stilness. I've noticed being out in nature produces a similar effect as meditation, sense of presence. Just complete silence. Perfection. Chaotic order, absolute joy produced by simplicity. It's enough for it to exist to be completely amazed by it, nothing else is required. Any other concept that is put on it is already ignorance of its raweness, there is no way it could be captured with a limited system like the human language. Another benefit of being more out is the natural meditative state that comes with it, making it easier to be more mindful for the rest of the day. It's pretty much effortless and free, a great therapy for the mind and body

I finally understand what Ram Dass meant when he said : if you think you're enlightened go spend a week with your family. It feels like I went to a freak show. Whole lotta noise, every neurosis imagineable, unconscious behaviors that have been repeating themselves for the last 30 years all combined with lack of any self awareness. The one thing that bothers me the most in family reunions is the fakeness, complete lack of authenticity , white lies, critizing without looking themselves, denial of shitty situations altogether. When I am real with them, it backfires on me and they all do their best to invoke the inner chimp in me. And the tragedy is, they mostly succeed.

Here it comes again - huge resistance in my body and mind. I can't sit still for longer than 10 minutes, I feel really tense, which is always the case after a state of clearity and bliss. Most of my life I thought I knew stuff and the last year, upon hearing various spiritual teachers it's beneficial to not know anything , I adopted that attitude. I did exactly what one shouldn't - i pretended I didn't know anything while I thought to myself : yeah I might be wrong about some little things, but really, I have it all figured out. What a joke! Now that I've really started to question everything, I see how horrifying it really is. Is anything really real? Is Trump an alien? Am I living on flat Earth? Is scientology the answer to life's questions? Is wheat evil? Does global warming exist? What is death? What is anything? Do other people exist? I just DON'T KNOW And I can finally accept it

Your technique looks pretty good and it could produce great results, but I think that telling yourself to let go of everything etc does the opposite of what you're aiming for. I think it would be useful for you to completely surrender during your meditation, which actually means even not saying that you should let go. Just stop controlling anything in any way. Also, this is like the 100x time I repeat this, but seriously strong determination sitting with self inquiry will be a game changer! There's a reason why it's so hard, it actually works

I can relate. Sounds like you need some real healing. I know the feeling when even the most brilliant concept and 100x positive habits can't help you. You need to give yourself some space and some love. It's not true that meditation takes years for it to work, you can heal really fast if you're just commited to it. You don't need to lose your humanity, you need to embrace it fully. Forgive yourself for everything, be totally honest and open about it and learn to love it. Take care and good luck

@Adam M Reading can help short term, but it won't suffice. When you're in midst of an ego backlash and when suicidal thoughts arise, anything that anyone writes or says will be irrelevant to you. Without an authentic desire to know who you are, not even the most complex amazing teaching won't be enough to keep you going. And like @Shin said, try not doing it for some time, it will be really painful once you've pierced through the veil

Cultivate a real desire for truth. Why are you meditating? You get distracted easily because, in your mind, meditation doesn't serve a crucial role. Contemplate the effects that meditation could have on you if you just stick to it.

Few months ago I was very strict about having 'high consciousness friends' so I could preach to them about non duality, how everyone's asleep, you know - the usual. Recently I noticed that it was a trap I fell into- labeling people as this and that and not having time for 'chimps'. If you truly enjoy the company of your friend, don't label him as this and that , it's an oversimplification. You wrote you talk about deep things so I suggest you talk to him about your vision, your path, why you're doing what you're doing - get his imagination going! The chances are, he'll listen and get curious about why you're chosing to act in this particular way. Also, there are ton of benefits by being friends with 'low cons.ppl' - you can reflect their behavior onto yourself, see all your defense mechanisms pop up etc. Pro tip: nothing will train your awareness as much as being friends with low consciousness people

You just answered your own question Do whatever works for you.This path is different for everyone, there is no formula to determine what will grow you the most. Observe day to day changes that occur when you practice certain type of meditation. Are you more aware? Are you less reactive? More prone to do positive things? Etc Good luck

I can relate to your story. The first year I had some childish expectations that by the end of it I'll be totally blissed out and purified. It's a difficult road and right now is the perfect moment to ask yourself how bad do you want it? Are you willing to go through all that pain? I hate to inform you, but things just got serious Suicidal thoughts, existential crises, overwhelming pain and suffering have to be there. You have them pass, not supress them. They will come and go, stay on track! Also, expect all your ideas and beliefs to be totally crashed down until there's nothing left. This process shouldn't be taken lightly, you're facing your death here.

1)advice for students Have a life purpose- what's your art form? Don't be afraid to break off on your own What lifestyle do you want? Build a strong work ethic - it's going to be harder to put habits into place when you're older Study for the sake of studying. Read books! Learn how to date and socialize ( don't have serious relationships) Avoid partying, alcohol, drugs, social groups, cults, gossip, trying to fit in, worrying about social status Focus on yourself. Stop playing video games and tv by 80% Clean up your diet: soda, pizza, potato chips, candy, junk food, wheat and fruit juices Be careful about debt- learn how to manage money Diploma doesn't mean anything. They care about results, how you carry yourself, if you're a good learner You should be learning about pyschology, self help, meditation and enlightenment,fitness and nutrition, dating, sexuality and relationships, business and marketing, biographies and money management Meditate! Don't fight with your parents-take control, live like you live on your own Build your foundation, take responsability. Plan on being a lifelong learner 2) avoiding bad relationships Red flags: borrowing money, history of cheating/being arrested, if they run a shady business, history of short relationships, if they don't have friends, if they expect gifts, showing up late/ standing you up, forgetting a lot, jealous, protective, control freak, unwilling to work on your relationship, not willing to improve, lying, arrogance, selfish, perfectionism, angry, agressive, threats, gets easily offended, blaming, long distance Cut this person out of your life, don't think twice 3)curing perfectionism Chronicly not willing to accept reality According to overbundance of choice: maximizer or satisfier You are constantly disappointed if you are a perfectionist, you will never be happy It's a sneaky form of procrastination Perfectionist is attached to outcome Criticising others and oneself is the same thing You set too high of a standard, guilt will come up You are causing damage to yourself Just accept it, your work doesn't have to be perfect Notice how critical you are- retrain your mental filter. Don't nickpick everything Get a rubber band and wear it for a month, don't take it off. Keep it as a reminder to not judge. Tell yourself: when i criticize I rob myself of my future. It doesn't advance your life in any capacity, ask yourself is it worth it? 4) mindfulness meditation Experiencing reality as it is Its a skill of focus Sensory clearity- how much filter there is in reality Equaminity- ability to experience sensations and not react Seeing: look at an object, note that you're seeing it. Say to yourself : see and then savour it for 5-7 seconds Hearing: note that you're hearing a sound, say to yourself : hear and then savour it for 5-7 seconds Feeling: notice the sensation and say to yourself: feel, savour it for 5-7 seconds Those are outer sensations (objects, body) Inner sensations - your mind's eye, hearing your internal dialogue, emotions Set a timer for 20 minutes Let mind focus on whatever it wants, notice it, note it and savour it Do do this daily Benefits : better focus and awareness, emotional mastery, reduce suffering, increase fulfillment, behaviour change, you can experience enlightenment 5) how to overcome creative blocks and writer's block 1)brute force it 2) find the source of motivation- the ideal Do the important thing that isnt urgent Recommit to your art Get into the present moment, think about things that make you depressed and unmotivated, feel it fully Shake your body, get rid off that feeling Take another deep breath and imagine yourself in the most creative mood you've ever been Imagine yourself as your role model Slow down the pace of your work Explore fresh sources Focus on mastering your field Keep a file of inspirations- images, music, texts Find your life purpose 6) vision for a self actualized life Waking up excited, falling asleep feeling calm Being an inspiration Turning your work into your passion Mastering all areas of life Eliminating toxic self talk Mastering emotions Life long learning It will work if you just commit to it Goals Creating a life where you dont have to worry about money ever again Work being your greatest joy Developing emotional control Becoming a grounded being Having a deep understanding of the world Sucessfull intimate relationship Amazing sex Having amazing confidence Deep self love and acceptance Feeling energetic, endurance Positive friends Advancing humanity Intense pride, without regrets on your death bed Realizing truth about reality and yourself Having time to contemplate Get knowledge/learning Start making small changes- eliminate toxic addictions, create good habits, create a good morning routine, life purpose, become financially independet Life is short Hold this vision close 7) radical openmindedness You have to make the counter intuitive move to let go of knowing and get into a state of not knowing to be openminded Not knowing is an extremely powerful state. People think they know, but they don't By opening yourself, you get better at enlightenment work, it frees you up, you understand reality more Acknowledge to yourself that 99% of what you think is second hand knowledge- you take it on faith Examples: 1) earth is round 2) viruses cause illness 3) big bang theory 4) matter is composed of subatomic particles 5) evolution 6) earth is 6 billion years old 7) existence of jesus and buddha 8) you don't know if you are your parents' child 9) relations with your siblings You have assumpations that you know aren't true Examples: 1) atoms aren't balls 2) you believe sun is rotating around earth, you think you are motionless 3) stars exist as physical objects 4) you think objects fall down You have a model of reality which is a complete fiction. Recall how many times people have been wrong throughout history Examples: 1) earth is flat 2) earth is at the center of the universe 3) witch trails 4) time is absolute 5)geometry 6) blacks are less intelligent 7) flight is impossible 8) wireless communication is impossible etc Open your mind to the possibility that there are other things you think are true, but are false. The culture you grew up in has imprinted you with values and beliefs of which you are totally blind to What model of reality would you have if you were: born in the middle east? Born in an african tribe? Born in north korea? Born 10 thousand years ago? Culture, society and time shape you in radical ways. You have no control over this factor! Recall all the times you were wrong, all the times you thought you knew, but later found out you didn't Admit you could be wrong about everything. Mind has the tedency to decieve and lie to itself Acknowledge that when you don't know, you don't know you don't know Acknowledge that you haven't been able to locate yourself and you don't know who you are. Notice when you try to push your ideas and beliefs onto others Just be open and hold no belief, having no position is liberating! 8) 30 ways society fucks you in the ass Bad news: Society exploits your lower self ( you're a chimp) Traits of your lower self 1) salt, fat and sugar 2) Sex 3) need for power and status 4)fun and entertainment 5) validation 6)security and comfort 7) love 8)vanity 9)gossip They function unconsciously 30 ways : 1)Food 2) alcohol and drugs 3) farmacutical industry 4) college and education system 5) celebrities 6) books- romance novels, sci fi, fantasy novels 7) video games 8) tv shows 9) news 10) social media 11) internet 12) popular culture 13) chimp behaviour with friends 14) status game 15) porn 16) shopping 17) fashion 18) tech bubble 19) financial companies 20) night clubs 21) caring too much about what kind of car you drive 22) holidays 23)politics 24) religion 25) marriage 26) romance 27) family 28) typical 9-5 job 29) stock market, wall street 30) proffesional sports All of this is an espace Society is amusement park for the ego to distract you from looking inward It's a distraction from truth, death, shortness of your own life and lies you tell yourself because you're not living a real life Society aims are : status quo, progress, achievment, power and efficancy Those aren't your aims Your aims should be finding your authentic self Society is about doing, not being. It doesn't care about truth Good news: it's fully in your power to avoid these traps. All it takes is some awareness and care . You will be called weird if you live a conscious life. You have to be okay with not being normal. That will take emotional labour, indepedent thinking and courage. This lifestyle is the harder option and it means you can't follow the path of least resistence. Recognize how unhealthy society is for your mind and body. This is not an evil conspiracy - it's just ignorance You can use all these traps to find your authetnic self - sort of against them Commit to living your true life- life that is worth living Take one week of where you'll be alone, no friends, no media, no phone, no work, no fun etc. Sit there for a whole week and contemplate life- how short it is, how valuable it is etc. Meditate, detox Notice how you feel, what you want to change. Take it slow.

1) how to meditate deeper How to meditate deeper Stage 1- simple observation Sit down, open/ close your eyes. Let the mind wander, simply observe Stage 2- active detachment Sit down. Actively release every thought that enters your mind ( let go) Stage 3- awareness focus Sit down. Put your awareness on awareness itself. Ask yourself what is awareness You can't control your thoughts. Meditation will not be calm and peaceful. Stop resisting thoughts. Stop trying to get anywhere, be ready for bad days 2) science vs religion Science vs religion 90% of prerational beliefs are postrational truths that are misunderstood. Enlightenment seems like religion to rational people Vodoo, shamanism - level 1 Christinity, islam - level 2 Zen masters and yogis - level 3 Body( matter, energy,people, cars)- mind problem ( first person phonemena) science doesn't ever talk about this, it ignores it completely. This body mind problem creates dualism. Rationality has limits, it's a perspective, not the truth Rationality keeps the illusion of the self alive All beliefs are false- they are just models with limits 3) how to unleash your ambition How to unleash your ambition If you have a bigger vision and great ambition you have to be a leader - honor that Stop with the false modesty! You can do better You have to fight for your passion - it's a choice you make Position yourself to share your gifts. Think how you're going to do that Ask yourself: what will be the pay off? What could I accomplish if I went all out? You have to rely on yourself. You have to be self driven, self motivated Find the thing that will make it all worth it You owe it to yourself 4)how to get shit done World is based upon results Dreams don't mean shit if you don't have real life results Early humans had to create results or they would die, in modern society we get taken care of and we got lazy Dreams are bubbles and usually burst when they get in touch with the real world. You have to change for reality, reality doesn't change for you Be humble to let reality work on you Talk less, do more - don't talk about doing, actually do shit Have goals and projects Look at life as a series of projects 5) lower vs higher self You have a switch in your being When you feel threatend you go into your lower self. If you're making plans and decisions from a position of your lower self, it will turn out awful Watch out for subtle triggers that send you to your lower self? What are your triggers? Write down the situation. Remove them and write a list how to do so Notice your emotional body - observe it until it goes away Build your mindfulness, you need to notice when you cross the line. Disengage with people when you're in your lower self Change the structure of your life so you don't get triggered 6) Mascuilinity vs femininity Each sex doesn't understand the other one. Men are created for modeling, they are highly logical. Women are created for communication and relationships Men's mind is female mind if it were autistic It's too logical Women need to accept men's detachment and sex drive Men need to accept women's emotions Look at things from their perspective Boys would rather break emotions to save logic and girls would rather break logic to save emotions We have different values Women are attracted to personality, men are attracted to females visually. Men want sexual variety, respect and easy going companionship. Women want emotional security, leadership and deep intimate connection Accept differences, celebrate them Women want emotional support, men want to fix problems and be left alone Finish this sentence : what i need to accept and integrate which I've ignored until now is..... 7)Meditation on steroids Sds fast track towards enlightenment This shows your mind's rotten Deep happiness isn't stimulation, it's complete presence Being one with the reality, being peaceful no matter what happens Monks are training to eliminate resistence The objective of meditation is to become one with reality What are you doing to get happiness? Has it been working? This practice will sober you up- about your happiness. It makes your mind stop and be present Stop resistig reality! You are constantly living in a fantasy land because you resist the now. When you stop resisting, you gain true happiness Purification= pain * mindfulness Mind is forced to sit still and psyche has to purge material, shit that has been in the back of your mind Suffering= pain* resistance Your pain will be gone as soon as you stop resisting it. It shows how out of touch with reality you are. You have to become okay with pain and suffering, this practice helps. We set the bar very low in our society. 8)the grand model of psychological evolution Psyche develops in a certain direction, in stages Each stage varies from selfishness and altruism Each stage has transformational dilemma. Each stage doesn't know stages exist and they actually despise one another. You can't stop stages Stages: 1) stage beige (me) basic survival 2) stage purple ( other) ethnic tribes, magic 3) stage red (me) egocentric power, disregard for rules 4) stage blue ( other) civilization, democracy, religion 5) stage orange (me) individuality, success, science, freedom, rationality 6) stage green ( other) altruism, peace, love, connection 7) stage yellow (me) systems thinking, complex, paradoxical, world is grey, understanding multiple perspectives 8) stage turquoise ( global) holistic global actualization You can be a mix of few stages Ask yourself: where am I? At which stage? 9) one simple rule for acing life Always do what is emotionally most difficult in whatever situation you are. Do the exact opposite of what most people and you do Easy thing leads to mediocre and frustrating life Living a good life is counter intuitive, you have to go against what the herd/ society is doing Your mind is unconsciously programmed to find emotional security and comfort Self actualized life is the emotional hard way Don't look for short cuts You will have peace of mind, dying happy, being happy applying this principle Do the emotional labor required, it's not as bad as you think It feels refreshing to your soul 10)How to be funny Benefits: social confidence, better business connections, attracting women Leadership skills,.more charisma Big picture: you have to change the lense through which you see the world Humour is supposed to be effortless You have to be relaxed as opposed to anxious to let the spontaneous humor come through To be humorous you have to be relaxed and emotionally impulsive Let go of the filters that prevent you from being goofy, blunt and authentic, instead look for the funny and the absurd What makes people laugh: ridiciolous humor, role playing, self deprecting humor, play on words - go against the green, break every expectation the other person has of what you should say Train your mind to constantly ask itself: what can I say in this situation to make it funny? Look for the funny Exercises: sit in a quiet place and think of something. Then use the last word to form a new sentence and so on. This will release mental filters over time. Picture yourself being funny in every situation Talk with somebody and try to turn everything they say funny Not to do: do not use canned lines, they are context sensitive. Do not seek validation, instead do it for your own amusement. It has to be funny to you so others laughing is just an addition

1) career path Career path 1. It will change 2. Don't get a job that drains you 3. Will i look back and be happy about my career, what I find meaningful? 4. Is this what you were designed to do? 5. What am I willing to do? 6. Where can I grow, express myself? 7. What value can I provide for others? 8. What makes me happy? 9. What could I accomplish if I went all out? 10. What impact do I want to leave? What am I good at? What kind of impact I want to leave? What would I do if I had 100 million dollars? 2) what should I do with my life? What I should do with my life What is valuable to you? What are you willing to bleed for? Come up with a mission - what would it take to get you off your ass? What would make you excited? You have to have faith in it, you have huge potential. Don't limit yourself! Disconnect from everything - ask yourself what are willing to do with all your heart? Write a lot - what do you want, what do you want to have, what kind of friends, how you'll look etc Think big! 3) fears Fears Ask yourself; what is the worst thing that can happen? What is so bad about that? Find the root cause. Write out the worst case scenario? Why is that so bad? What will I do if that happens? JUST DO IT fears are illusory, exgaretting It may happen, but is is unlikely What is my biggest demon? Am I avoiding it? You have to face it, it will come back for sure. Deal with it now, the pain will be much bigger in 10, 20 years. This is a hero's journey Find the problem- ask yourself - what is causing this? Look at the process- emotions and thoughts that are causing this behaviour. What is the root cause? 4) responsability vs blame Responsability vs blame 1. You have to recognize you're a cause of a lot of thing you're not willing to admit. You are not admiting that you are responsible for subtle things. You are creating every situation. Life is a chain of causes! 2. Don't blame anyone or anything This is a promise you make to yourself If you are tired of victim mindset do this! Focus on right action - you can change a lot 3. You have to at least some control You have control over how you respond to whatever comes. You can control your interpertations of reality. 4 your response is what matters the most You can choose your response. Think about those situations in an empowering way. This will create power, you will grow yourself more 5) paradoxes Paradoxes You are perfect, but you must work on yourself. You have problems, but your problems are illusory. Relationships can give you lots of happiness, but they will never make you truly happy. Be wise, but failure is good. Think about your life, but thinking is a form of neurosis. Work hard on your attractivness, but don't work so hard. To be in a relationship, don't need a relationship. Be present, but focus on your future goals. Be careful about self deception, but trust yourself. Never quit, but cut your losses early. To be happy, don't think about happiness. To be selfless, you have to be selfish. If you want to be authentic, you have to eliminate yourself. Problem with paradoxes is that they shake your world view and threaten your security - it's the problem of the ego. Ask yourself: are there any contradictions in reality? There are concepts and models that are limiting, don't take them seriously. Embrace paradox! It makes you more openminded. Don't cling onto your beliefs 6) what is karma Every action has a consequence, inside a consequence. Karma= action Good means selfless, without your ego Evil means selfish, with your ego Punishment is suffering, it's all inside! That was karma is about. You manipulate people and things to protect yourself, you feel like you have to Be mindful of how you do this - watch out for your selfish behavior, especially the subtle ways You create your own suffering not external situations. When you do selfish things it ends up backfiring on you. 7)understanding emotions Understanding emotions 1 category - apathy- least resourceful Depression, defeated, bored, lazy 2 category - grief Sad, hurt, betrayed, disappointed, guilty 3 category - fear Terror, nervousness, worry, insecurity 4 category- lust Craving, greed, possesivness, frustration 5 category - anger Disgust, pissed off, vengeful, annoyed 6 category - pride Icy, judgemental, arrogance 7 category - courage Confident, creative, happy, secure 8 category - acceptance Compassion, loving, playful 9 category - peace Awareness, calm, feeling complete, free, centered Emotions are neutral, don't judge them as good or bad. Emotion is just a sensation in your body. Mind creates the judgement! Feel your emotions fully, don't run away from them. Emotions are a language of your subconscious mind. All emotions will keep you alive- it's their job to make you survive and reproduce Those emotions don't care about your happiness, it's all about surviving. Your objectives are emotional, your entire motivational system is based on them You can't control your emotions, emotions are controlling you Emotions are the foundation Mindfulness is the key to mastering your emotions, just observe them! Stop judging your emotions as good or bad. Feel the emotion deeply! Don't judge yourself for having a negative emotions Stop, don't label it, just feel it Practice!!! Exercise: Create an alarm for entire week that rings 3 hours after you wake up, 3 hours after that - 5 times a day. Stop, get a journal, write what your emotion is. 8) feminine vs masculine compassion Are you doing the thing for their good? Be honest Is it geniune? Your compassion grows with awareness. You can see everything as you Identify which pole you go to and use the opposite one. Build balance between the two, be more flexible with it 9) how to stop backsliding How to stop backsliding Expect homeostasis Set proper realistic expectations Expect that mind, body and people will resist Don't listen to excuses your mind is coming up with Be prepared for serious negotations with yourself Ease off a bit when you need it. Expect emotional labour! Practice meditation Choose the right thing, just one change can transform your life. Make a 100% commitment, no excuses 10) How to become enlightened There is no process! It's a gateless gate/ pathless path Action steps: sit down, set a timer for 30 minutes or 60, sit upright, be alert. Find you realest sense of self, who do you feel you are? Is there an entity here? Where am i? Who am i? Am I the body? You have to have an open mind to do this right You believe you're the voice- go meta on it, who is aware of the voice? You have to come to the point you don't know who you are . Everything you are perceving is ariving at nowhere, become conscious of this. Where is the perception of the perceiver? Am I a perception? You have to have a huge desire for truth. You have to keep refocusing because your mind will wander. Don't believe the voice - it's all sounds and images Reality is the thing that exists right now. Only now! It's not real if it's not happening now, it's a story in your head Content is not real, do not believe your thoughts or the voice. Drop all beliefs, all ideologies Trust your direct experience You know nothing

Lately I've been feeling blank, totally indifferent to everything. It's like all my desires vanished and my goals don't feel true anymore. Last time I had this occur I was in the midst of the dark night of the soul, but this feels different. Most of the time I feel peaceful and just blank. When I ask myself what do I really want out of life, old answers come up, like becoming a good public speaker, developing unconditional love etc but they don't feel true anymore. Any answer I come up with feels wrong, except nothing. I want nothing. Does anyone have experience with this disorienting state? Is this what people mean when they say falling away of personal will?

@LaucherJunge thank you for sharing, that resonated. I don't feel depressed at all, just confused because it happened in a snap of a finger and made me question a lot of things.

1) stress management Your life is stressful because of your mind Emotions + thoughts - stress It's always in internal reality. Ask yourself : what is the issue on the inside that is creating this stress? Cultivate positivity and reduce negativity Take responsability, you can't control other people, only yourself! Focus on yourself - on your direction, what you want to create Ground yourself in yourself 2)dropping bad habits Have motivation - why are you dropping it? You have to take responsability for your bad habit You have to believe you can do it It takes about 30 days to drop it You have to replace it with a good habit, otherwise you'll have all that time free to do your bad habit Be commited 100% Close your eyes, feel your body, visualize the effects of your bad habit next month, next year, next 10 years Close your eyes, feel your body, visualize the effects of your good habit next month, next year, next 10 years, imagine how powerful you'd be, how inspirational 3)visualization You are working on your self image by having visions on your mind By imaging you are motivating yourself Sit alone, set your timer for 5 or 10 minutes Close your eyes - have a goal to focus on Calm yourself - deep breathing, focus on your body Vision your goals - fill your mind with vivid and detailed images. How would your life be different? Include more than one sense - what emotions would you feel? The more real it feels, the better. Visualize yourself having that goal right now. This should be an emotional experience You have to do it every day! Mind will project resistance. You have to train it. 4) how to stop caring what people think of you Are you letting caring about what others think of you control your life? Realize you can't control this - you are giving your power away to other people No one should have that power over you, only yourself You have to be grounded in yourself, your values. Don't depend on others. Take the middle way between goodie and an asshole. Don't seek validation and approval, you have to become indepedent of opinions of others. You can't make everyone like you! That is perfectly fine Opinion of other say a lot more about other person than you. Opinions are just words(fogment of someone's imagination) , they don't matter. Don't take it seriously There is nothing a human being can offer you of true value. Be on your own path, own your potential and build your sense of power. It's okay to have a unpopular opinion, stay true to yourself. Don't be a validation whore. It's okay to be abnormal, to not fit in. Say to yourself: i'll be dead pretty soon, I have more important things to do, I can't be bothered with nonsense If you're a people pleaser be more of an asshole, express yourself Action steps: use affirmation I am completely indepedent of the good or bad opinions of others - use for 90 days straight. Don't miss a day! 5) how to stop being a victim Recognize this: you are responsible for your life. Only you 100% for all your emotions, failures, accidents, wins and relationships Levels of development: 1. Victims 2. Fighters 3. Creators - those 3 are low consciousness 4. Max consciousness How do you respond to situations? From what stage? You at least have control over your reactions Tell yourself: i won't let past control me and hold me back from getting what I want It's scary to stop being a victim because it requires emotional labor, you have to work Stop blaming others! Stop with the excuses 'Fuck the ego, I want happiness' List of phrases by victims - cut those out I can't, it's impossible, it's too hard, I have to/ I must, I need, I should, I've never done that, what if i fail?, it's his/her fault, I'll try, maybe, never/always 6) luck& success Success is grounded in your work, don't depend on luck. You have to have passion and work hard. Stop giving your power away to external things. You have to be your own master and creater. Have ownership over what you want, don't expect miracles Take opportunities you get, don't worry about luck. Keep your eyes on the prize by putting all you've got in your work 7) gratitude Focus on little things you take for granted, think about how lucky you are to be where you are, with all your experiences, all your material possesions, your very existence Make a list of 100 things you're grateful for Keep a gratitude journal, it will make you happier and you'll appreciate things more, even if things don't work out the way you want them too. 8) how to deepen your love for life Exercise: what are the top 10 things that I love most about life? Write a list Ask yourself: how much time I spend on them on a regular basis? Is this aligned with my life? How can I have this activity more? 9) difficult and toxic people Remove those people, CUT THEM OUT you are average of 5 people you are spending time with! Be careful who you chose. Traits of toxic people: depression, negativity, limiting beliefs, victimhood, closeminded/dogmatic, angry, drama queens and violent They will drain! Set up your boundaries. Be a good judge of character, look out for this traits. Don't rely on other people to bring you what you want. Bring more positivity in your life, disconnect with people that aren't good for you. 10) how to stop being jealous How to stop being jealous The reason you feel jealous is because you feel like something is taken away from you Turn within - it's an ego game, it's destructive. Notice it and label it when you feel jealous. What will you acquire with jealously? You can't control other people! Don't even try to control them External things won't give you any value. No human being will make you happy. Be very mindful when you feel jealously arising, don't judge yourself, simply observe Wish that people do good, see things that they have and vision it for yourself. You'll be happier if you wish others do good. Tell yourself: i'm a big person, i'm okay for people to be succesful. Fuck it, let people be better. You are good enough! Study ego and do shadow work, work on your self esteem. Action steps: affirmations, visualizations and meditation.

1) how to master and control your emotions You are creating your emotions! You can change them with your reaction Outside event- emotion x false Outside event- thoughts- emotion true You have to take responsability, control that layer - the filter- thoughts you are having about whatever happend You have a choice what you' ll think, by remaining unconscious you have negative emotions. Ask yourself : do you want to take control over your interpretations or have negative emotions? Be extra aware of your negative emotions Notice your thoughts, be more mindful How are you creating this emotion? 2) how to create freedom Are you a slave to your desires? You can't be happy if you are reliant on external stimulation You have to face the pain and work to be truly free Recognize you are investing in yourself, you are growing every week and every month. Be patient with yourself, but take action Essence of freedom is creating options for yourself. Only way you can achieve that is by working hard 3) negative visualization Imagine you lost something you really appreciate. How would you feel? Most of the things you have you take for granted. Ask yourself what if i lost my eye sight, hands, legs, parents, house etc? By doing that you develop a sense of gratitude You are entitled to nothing. It's a miracle that you are even alive! You have trillion cells that are working so you can be alive right now. All of these things will be gone, appreciate it now before it's gone. Even if you lose everything, you still have so much Action steps: write a list of things you take for granted Next week spend 5 minutes doing negative visualization 4) how to stop being lazy You need positive intristic motivations to do actions that are neccessary to get you where you want to be Find out your values and life purpose - you have to be driven by something Short term laziness- stop thinking about doing the thing and actually do it! Don't overthink it! Be easy on yourself, slow down, don't expect it to be pefect, just do it! Long term laziness- ask yourself: where sre you in the cycle (motivation- action- goal)? Develop more good habits, it will become effortless once you create them 5) positive thinking Don't be too quick to judge things as bad You worry about things that are good for you! There can be no problem because it's always an opportunity You can find something positive in your problem. Remember : what can i get from this? What will I get? What is the lesson here? Think about this: you will be truly cheerful in life the day that you realize is that no matter what is happening around you, being anything other than cheerful will not make it any better. 7 day positivity challenge Commit to thinking 0 negative thoughts As soon as you see it, drop it within 60 seconds Distract yourself or think about something else 6) self image It's a framework how you see yourself and life. It's a constructed, biased mental model of reality. You make a lot of assumptions about others and the world. Those assumptions are mostly subconscious - it's under the surface. 95% of your actions come from your self image. Grasp this- almost everything you do is unconscious If you want to change you have to work on your self image - shadow work and introspection. Look within how you got a certain belief about yourself etc It takes 21 days to drop your self image 7) how to become optimistic You sabotage yourself when you say it won't work. Optimism is a hopeful outlook. Ask yourself: is the problem permament? How does it affect my life? Are you hopeful? Take responsability for the good things, don't say you were just lucky. Action steps: write 30 things you are excited about 8) fixing low self esteem Put yourself on scale from 1-10 on power and self respect It's a self image problem - childhood issues What are the incidents that trigger that negative self image? 1)Live consciously 2) practice self acceptance 3) take responsability for your life 4) have purpose 5) be expressive 6) integrity - are you living inline with your values? 9) judgement- how you ruin your happiness Reality is neutral Judgement creates resistance, struggle You can't be happy if you judge all the time Notice how much you judge others and yourself Judgement is toxic - it creates negativity Judgements are lables and are arbitary, they are meaningless. They are just thoughts! Let reality be! Don't try to put reality into a box Be more mindful of judgements you put on people, objects and situations. How do you feel when you judge? Is it justified? Is it really true? 10) positive attitude 3 pillars: 1. Accept the present moment - nothing could be different now. It is what it is. There is nothing you can do 2. Worry is useless - seriously, you gain nothing. 3. Accept that positivity is the best way out of a problem Don't be attached to outcome, to results Don't expect too much, be realistic but hopeful

Ofcourse nothing happens because the mind doesn't know the answer,it just gets back to fantasy. In that moment where there's seemingly no answer your true nature appears. Don't try to get the answer from your mind, simply ask who am I and be silent. There is a video about this by adya on youtube called the simplest thing, might be worth checking out.

Best way for me was writing down ALL my goals first, even the 'shallow' ones. Then ask yourself: do I really want this? Are my goals beneficial for everyone? Are my goals realistic? Are my dreams big? Then you should be left with less amount of goals. Based upon those write out your vision in detail. By the end of it, you should be crying P.s write out your goals and vision whenever you feel really grateful for something. That helps a lot.

1) how to feel good Focus on things that will give you lasting benefit, don't waste your time on things that don't fulfill you. Start developing good habits- meditation, solitude, reading, journaling, studying, work that means something to you, working out, eating healthy, eliminate addictions Start doing them right now! You have to get rid off negative thoughts, they are holding you back the most 2) how to find your passion Be authentic, what are your values? Find out who you are, you have to try things out. Discover more about yourself every day and think about what you're passionate about. Ways to find out: 1. Read various topics 2. Go to college 3. Travel 4. Try different jobs 5. Live in different places 6. Meet new people 7. Spend time alone- journal, ask yourself questions 3) how to be yourself Stop caring about what others think of you You care about validation too much- it's like a drug. Understand it's not valuable at all! It won't ever make you fulfilled. You are sacrificing a part of who you are to get a positive reaction. Happiness comes from inside out, not the other way around There are costs when you're being authentic, but you don't need everyone to like you. When you are authentic, you become magnetic. Ask yourself: is it important to be expressive or strive for shallow things? Write a list of all the ways you're being a validation whore and what social debts you have. Be specific on what the cost are. Tell to yourself: fuck the costs, i will be myself Observe yourself when you're being a whore, what thoughts you have, where does your motivation come from just don't judge yourself. Notice the subtle ways you do this. 4) how to exploit people to grow yourself When you see someone doing something stupid, turn in on yourself and ask yourself how am I doing the same thing in my life? You have to accept everyone's insanity You can use their actions to your benefit Use it as a reminder to stay on track Use people as mirrors Observing people makes you grateful for doing this hard work! That could 've been you!! 5) how to forgive someone 1. Let go 2. Forget It's a decision in the end. There is no reason to judge or to hate, you are only hurting yourself when you hold a grudge You have to have courage to forgive, be the bigger person If you can't forgive you are living in the past! This is not serving you in any capacity Focus on yourself - what you're doing so you don't have time to be resentful 6) openmindedness Test yourself on self actualization journey - someone who is developed will not easily offended or offended at all You have to be brutally honest with yourself You have to be open to others perspectives So what? Don't get offended, learn something, it's a way to grow yourself more You are defending your ego when you get defensive - ego is fragile and anything can disturb it Admit you could be wrong! 7) how to make friends Ask yourself : how deep are your friendships? How many actually care, know and support you? Friends require energy and time . Don't take friends for granted. How many friends do you want? How much time and energy can you invest? Why are you friends with this person? You will have fewer friends if you look for strong, high quality friendships 1. You have to socialize more, be around people 2. You have to have time and energy 3. You have to get rid off judgments 4. Don't be shy. Be confident and be yourself! Don't have friends that are identical to you, have diversity. 8) why evil doesn't actually exist What is evil actually? Is it an external thing? Evil is a thought, a judgement on reality Good is just what you prefer, evil is the opposite Meaning only exists in your head - reality is neutral! You don't need morality to behave morally for example a pack of lions don't attack each other if they aren't in danger, it's the same with human beings. Concept of evil is universal- murder, rape, if you say otherwise you are insane. It's a social construct. You are labeling things just to protect yourself, your self image, it's all ego No judgement of someone is ever justified, you are putting someone in a box, you don't want to look at things honestly. 9) communication skills 1. Assertivness- have your own agenda 2. Authenticity- be yourself, don't hold back 3. Openmindendess- respect others, don't judge other perspectives 4. Empathy- relate to their emotions, understand them 5. Clarity - be clear about what you want 6. Listening 10) how to follow advice Don't use justifications and excuses Stay in line with your values, don't do something if it doesn't goes in line with them Take actions, notice your ego at play Look at your results : are you improving? Are you strategic?

Create a powerful vision for yourself. Write all the details and goals you have. Read it every day when you wake up and you'll be motivated to do the work once you see for what you're working towards. You will fall of the track certaintly, but the vision will help you come back. Think about what you actually want Good luck!

1) how to use technology for pd Put your willpower to things that are going to give you growth, do not waste it, willpower is limited. Make things easier so you don't have to force yourself to do them, that's what technology is for! Action steps: write 5 ways you can use some piece of technology to advance your own personal development Make sure it's practical. Actually implement it! 2) Introvert vs extrovert Introvert thinks that his world is in his mind, he takes his time to respond, it's all highly analitical. Extrovert engages in his senses much more, thinking to him is secondary. You can flip it out, get outside of your mind and into the outside world. Take it all in, don't think about it. Or if you're extrovert think about something first, it will benefit you. You can be both! You have to value both, you have to balance both sides Make the best of them, when you need to be either, be it! That way you become a full person 3) how to have a healthy relationship Realize first that nobody can fulfill you but yourself. You have to be happy by yourself. Make yourself attractive. Don't be needy, have options. Work on yourself and be true to you, don't pretend to be someone you're not. Give, give, give! Relationships aren't about taking, it's about giving- do nice things, share, share, share! 4) how to let go of the past Let go of all things that don't serve you anymore. Past and future are thoughts in your head. Exercise : think of something that is bothering you in the past- feel it fully, don't resist it. Close your eyes, become aware of your breath - put all you focus on it. Put all your attention to your body- scan it throughout, pretend that there is no future. Pretend that past doesn't exist, it never happend. Say to yourself you can let it go Past only exists because you keep bringing it back up. Decide to let it go - just stop thinking about it Past has no use to you, you don't need it anymore. Distract yourself with something positive 5) critical thinking It is independent ! You do it on your own - you don't take anyone else's word for it. You rely on yourself - you have a sense of direction. You have to unplug yourself from other people's negative beliefs and facts. Think for yourself! Discover your own truth, don't accept anything. Be your own primary source. To be critical you have to be curious and openminded. Ask yourself : what is true for me? Was I told that by someone else? Did I pick up someone else's belief? 6) emotional intelligence 1. Ability to understand your emotions 2. Ability to manage your emotions 3. Ability to read other people 4. Ability to manage your relationships Do you take responsability for things? Are you honest? Are you confident? Are you stressed? Are you judging yourself? How strong is your decision making? Are you flexible? All of your answers show how much eq you have Eq takes time to develop. Action steps to develop it: meditation, journaling, reading books 7) cause & purpose Ask yourself: what are you willing to die for? What are you living for? What can i do that will advance humanity? What are you creating? Are you on a hero's journey? Stop being fucking selfish, think big You have to have a sense of direction of what you're trying to accomplish 8) becoming a jedi master Read a lot about various topics Think critically about things Think about society, your ideologies, your beliefs, your conditioning Ask yourself: are you living your highest value? Are you living without any striving towards something higher? Are you a jedi master or jabba the hut? Are you aligned with the force (life)? 9) essentials of getting results Build a big picture model of what you're doing with your life Have a vision and set goals Have a life purpose Drop distractions, build good habits Journal daily Meditate Reprogram your subconscious mind All of those take a couple of years to develop, be patient and persistent. 10) how to love yourself Focus on your positive traits You are so much more than your imperfections Accept yourself fully, with all your flaws and aspects that you hide from yourself Ask yourself: what is holding me back from loving myself 100%? Exercise: look at the mirror, straight in the eye and say to yourself : i love and accept you as you are 20 times in a row Don't judge yourself! Actually believe it.

Write how you feel after a certain activity, for example after 2 hours of playing video games I feel _____ etc and then write how you feel after doing a good habit like meditation. Keep it close so when you get the urge to do the bad habit, you'll see it isn't worth it. Ask yourself how do you want to feel and what will happen with your life if you continue on with this behaviour. Good luck!

Suffering. To me it was the best spiritual teacher, even better than the most advanced masters and yogis.