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@LRyan More variety is always better. Your resolution is in awareness of what you're choosing, not what is avaible to choose from.

Stare into your own eyes in a mirror for just ten minutes. You'll have seperated to the extent you call uncle.

@MissMiki That's a beautiful story. You explained it well. I get that what it means to you is that you have metaphysical powers. Can you see that another version of the story is that a butterfly landed on a finger? It's not the being born, breathing, etc. It's a butterfly landed on a finger. I find that both beautiful and easily explainable. We have a lilac bush in our yard, my kids and I hold our fingers out and butterfly's land on them, It's beautiful. Implying that I've 'forgot' those things are incredible is an ego protection reaction. I completely find those things to be incredible. what limiting belief are you referring to? The frustration / ego protection, usually starts where one's ability to articulate one's accusations ends. Also, I'm interested, are you stating that you have personally observed fairies? Or do you mean that you are experiencing that magic of the world?

@Paradigm So you know what you want to do, but are confused because you are taking someone els's word for something? If you read your statement above, you'll probably see the continuation of your self imposed conflict. You're equating taking someone's word for something that is contrary to your own desire, then reshaping that into duality of earning a living doing something you're passionate about. Of course you should do something you're passionate about, and you probably would be doing it, if you never made the choice to let someone else throw you off course so easily. Just follow what you knew in the first place. It is in pursuing your passion and dreams that you shows others they can do that also. Isn't that the world you want? Someone else's passion might be to make a living convincing you of something other that what you already know you want to do. At the moment, they are doing a better job. There's going to be lots of those people. Let their words merely increase your commitment to your own dream.

I would love to have the breakthrough of a lifetime here. I'm wide open to it. I've pursued and allowed for a long time. Seen quite a few renowned psychics. I was sold by statements that they could contact the dead and tell me anything. But none of them could tell me my middle name, or a single detail. Not one. They all stear the conversation to trying to tell me the generic feel good things. There's a psychic who I talked to on this forum, Saramarielifecoach, who stated exactly that she could share any info without limitation. Couldn't tell me even one specific minor detail. If she could have, I would gladly pay her $125 an hour fee to have more questions answered. Hell, I would gladly pay her $10,000. I offered. She couldn't do it. Am I stuck in a logic and common sense paradigm? There are organizations who literally offer a million dollars for her to simply show up and do what she claims she does every day. But no one has ever done that. Why not? Seems like common sense to me. I don't see how the pertinent factor is my paradigm. It seems that she claims I'm in a paradigm that she's not in, but then when a simple offer is made for her, she comes up with nothing and moves on to the portion of the population who is easily fooled by the generic feel good messages. If I lived in a rainforest and did psychaldelics I bet I'd have some tripped out experiences too. But I'd have the sense to decipher what I saw on drugs, vs what I see sober. Similarly, I had learned enough psychology to have made the call that Ted Haggard was obviously homosexual, before he finally confessed that he was. For all his angels & demons speaking, it was very obvious to me what he was dealing with and why he was projecting his issues onto others. There are many examples of Ted Haggards, and not one example to the contrary. A smart phone would have been unexplainable by ancient Greeks. But that would be because there were no smart phones in that time. It's not paranormal or unexplainable, it literally didn't happen. For a scenario to have the opportunity to be unexplainable, it must happen first, that gives us the opportunity to then discuss if it is explainable or not. What am I missing here? This seems like common sense. At the end of the day, isn't telling someone that I've seen angels & demons, but that they can't see them because of their paradigm, really just my ego fooling me into a superiority perspective? Wouldn't I obviously be the one who stands to gain by letting go of my paradigm?

@ChimpBrain I understand what you mean now. Thanks. I've just never seen any of that so to me it's fictional, vs unexplainable. I would love to observe any of that, and I've been open minded about all of it since I was a kid. Just never saw anything but fiction. Heard a lot of stories from adults who remember a story they made up when they were a kid. Have you by any chance experienced any of those?

@bazera i actually did

@bazera I also would suggest meditation and to try out a variety of PD, spiritual and science sources, read books consistently. Expand his frame of reference so he doesn't wrestle with not knowing what he wants to do. 20-23, in my opinion, are the toughest ages. The brain isn't fully developed until 24, but the world implies you're on the level with adults by and large by age 21. Not to mention, you're dealing with your potential. That's a lot to be dealing with. Life gets easier in my experience. Also, the ups & downs you mentioned are somewhat simply from your age but consider that carbs and sugar cause addiction highs and then 2-3 day withdrawal symptoms. Took me many years to accept that. I'd tell him that too.

I'm calling bullshit on this post.

@Robert66 ya. I think if a man insults a woman, and she is attracted to that, he should know she's trouble.

@jse Any church. Crafting shows. At the mall, right when it opens. At the hospital (visitors). Any movie theater showing any movie with Diane Keaton in it. And of course, he should consider inventing Tinder for seniors and call it Elder.

@aurum That's awesome dude. You nailed it.

From what I see going in the world, the number one relationship killer, is people staying in the relationship that they should most obviously get out of. It really kills the relationship.

@jse You're hilarious. @clytaemnestra I just received my male translator from amazon and am happy to use it.... "I don't want a relationship with you" means "I don't want a relationship with you" Hope it helps. This thing cost me twenty five bucks.

@Joshuar I'm curious. Can you describe what it is you intend to do once you are 'life coaching' someone? This might help with folks adding practices to your list.

@Paradigm You know what you want to do - what is fun to you. The conflict arises because you feel inclined to change the world. May I ask, why do you want to change the world?

@a e l i Assuming you're Caucasian...uh....haven't you noticed how all white people are not the same? Can you see this is true with all humans? Just for effect: You are just like all white people. You're all the same. See how silly that is? One love Offer random acts of kindness to them. Ask them how they're doing. Ask them how hard it's been. Ask more than a few. You will see how different they are. Something else that might help....whoever you are, wherever you are, you are you and you are there because your ancestors migrated there. You are the same as them.

Anyone of sound mind and body can self actualize. There's no finish line. It's not a degree. It's subjective self assessment. If you feel progress, there is progress. High consciousness is a relative term. Compare you to an ant, and then to the Dali Lama. It's all relative. The only reference point that matters is your own. Where you are, were, and want to be. An unconscious indivdual can not do anything, because they are unconscious.

@LRyan If you had intuition, you would already know the outcome and there would be no need for a choice. Meditate and contemplate on what you want, then there also will be no need to make a choice.

@ChimpBrain I probably am. Thanks. Could you give me an example what you mean by something that is unexplainable?

Thought happens first, emotions follow. If your emotions are not feeling good, it is because you are looking at something (thinking) from a lessor perspective than you could be. If you didn't know better, it would be impossible to feel bad. Put your focus on just what it is that you know better. From your examples: A break up: If you get dumped and fall into despair, realize you are the chooser of how your life unfolds. Stop thinking you need someone else to make you happy. Ironically, if you do this, you probably wouldn't get dumped. A relative dies: What are your thoughts on what they are experiencing now? What are your thoughts on how your life will be terrible now that they are not here? Choose better thoughts. Cry about it, pray if you are religion or if it helps, but pick better thoughts. To get rid of an emotional crisis, realize there is no crisis. You were not looking at the situation to the best of your abilities to begin with. Pick better thoughts. Self reliance, if at all possible, is most helpful preventitivly speaking. If someone is paying you money to tell them that ultimately it is their thinking causing their suffering, then I suppose you should not be so forthright as this, as it would offend them in that setting. If someone thinks it's a good idea to pay someone for this, they inherently don't accept that their own thinking is the root of the suffering. At the very least, the person getting paid, IMO, should suggest they look into Buddhism. Looking to the emotions brings more of those emotions. Realizing your thinking has been bringing your emotions, brings new thinking, and new emotions. A belief is nothing more than repeated thinking.

@Leo Gura ....if paranormal phenomena is true, then isn't it the same as natural phenomena? Wouldn't calling it paranormal be the same as saying it's not actually real? As in, again, if it were real, and not produced by technology, then it is natural. I must be missing something.

@Loreena No one is inherently anything but what they've been repeating (including environment and influences). The "wake up" is when one realizes this and makes changes to what they've been repeating both in their self talk and what is around them. No one is anything more than the experience of these repeated things. We are limited by the knowledge of what has been repeated in this life, vs knowing what may have been repeated before this life. It is a probabilistic universe. Not deterministic. We will likely do the most probable thing, but we always have the choice.

@BeginnerActualizer It's similar to the loa i think. Excercise, feel better. Feel better, attitude is better. Attitude is better, socialization is better. Socialization is better, opportunities are great. When opportunities are great, well, sky's the limit. That "low" motivator is a part of the "high" actualization. Or one could simply be tryin to get some. Always uncertainty in the end. Eye of the beholder.