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@Antor8188 She’s free to exercise her preferences, just as you’re free to add the narrative that it was not her preferences, but that you were rejected. If that thought (narrative) is discordant, you can inspect why it feels discordant. That would be to understand the emotion you’re feeling, and to receive the guidance of it, in regard to the thought (narrative). You are however so free, that you can focus instead on the thought that demotivated is an emotion, which you are feeling. But it isn’t, it’s a thought about you. But you are already, you. The thought about you is, exactly as experienced, a thought. What the thought has to do with you, is that you are aware of it. The thought therefore can not possibly be, about you. Because obviously, there are not two you’s. Rather than dwelling in a discordant thought loop - extract ‘the juice’. You now know more so what you do want, and are free to focus on that. And it will feel much, much better… because it is… what you want. It might be pleasantly humbling to remember, there are people you want to have sex with, and there are people you don’t want to have sex with - and you are free to exercise preference. Relativity is for you, not against you. But thought can of course, make it seem so. But you are a m’f’ing creator. Ego: What do I do to feel better!? Love: Let that shit go.

@Someone here Good. For. You. ??? Two cents… I am society, and I say fuck society. You are “society” too. There is no “society”. There’s the thought, “society”, and there (albeit apparent) is a mass epidemic of thought attachment, such that there is a chance it sounds odd to read ‘there is no society’. There is experientially ‘my thoughts’, and there are ‘your thoughts’. It’s inherently privatized. What’s consensual & preferred between you and her or him, isn’t anyone’s business, but you and her or him. If anybody’s got a problem with that, they have a problem with self respect and projection, and if they don’t like it, they can take their business up with The Creator (self inquire ☺️).

Thought is dualistic, or, twoness: this & that, up & down, left & right, north & south, other perspectives & no other perspectives, my own perspective & your own perspective, Leo is right & Leo is wrong, etc, etc, etc, etc. So the only ‘answer’ is, the other-than-believing-thoughts, or, meditation. “But that is a non-answer!” No, it’s just true. “But you are a %$*%!!!!!” Maybe, maybe not. Doesn’t change that it’s true. “I said don’t reply with “do the work and see it yourself you &%$@*!!!!” “I already know that!!!!!” Also true, you don’t know that. The evidence is the asking of the question. Which isn’t wrong, it’s just on the path. On the way to discovering all thought is dualistic. If interested, alternatively, expression. The emotional scale.

@RevoCulture All thoughts about “degrees of knowingness “, illusion, cloud highs, etc. are ‘answered’ by awakening. ?

@RevoCulture The comment was, all ‘answered’ by awakening.

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@RevoCulture Also ‘answered’ by awakening. ?

Indeed. ☺️

@RevoCulture All of that is ‘answered’ by awakening.

Indeed… it’s what’s written on the dreamboard! ☺️ The guidance is ‘baked in’ to the very manifestation of the dream. ? Yes. All judgement, such as ‘negative emotions’ is thought. The offered method is to use the emotional scale. In utilizing the scale, the discord of the judgmental thought(s) are let go as the guidance is respected & honored - emotions expressed, and thus contentment is instead felt. Then from there, express on, and notice (feel) the self-inherent-effervescence of the true nature, inspiration, which arises of it’s own intrinsically delightful nature, whenever, wherever, judgement (absolutely innocent) is not focused upon. If any ‘too caught up in thoughts to notice the discord felt’ is experienced… daily morning meditation allows a ‘slowing down’ and ‘some space’ in this regard. The suggestion or offering in regard to the meditation page, is top to bottom.

Again, what was said was “all answered by awakening”.

Implied to have been said, isn’t knowing anything was said at all. “You are implying here, projecting your sense of my offering.” Dog is a thought, which could be projected if you will, onto perception, and then it can be believed there is a dog, a separate me, a separate you, etc. Again… all ‘answered’ by awakening.

@RevoCulture What was said was… and not any of what was implied to have been said…. Dog is a thought. Projection can get so common place, in a group think manor, that it goes unnoticed. But it can never go unfelt.

@Preety_India ? ?

Maybe there just wasn’t self referential discordant thought activity. The absence of this, is unconditional, which ime woman can’t seem to get enough of, as if some ‘magic mystery’ were transpiring in regard to this unconditional happiness, which they simply ‘must know’ the ‘secret’ of… and I am laughing and confessing there is no ‘secret’. “Still, my confession draws you nearer” JP @Anon212 Try letting thinking go, meditation helps, and see her, vs attention on thoughts like ‘ruthlessness in getting results’. You might be younger, but you aren’t per se immature, the way of thinking, objectifying others to secondary to achieving your results is immature, and for maturity (her) this is discordant or off putting. If that seems confusing… Her: a little depth here, some emotional engagement…? You: Must get penis into hole. Must get penis into hole. Must complete mission. Must get result. If she said “I’ll teach you sex…”, as you stated…. stop talking and simply listen to her. I have a hunch she knows exactly what she’s talking about and is not playing games with you, like you are with her. Of course, I don’t actually mean “you” are, only that you are believing thoughts as such, and playing games so to speak, with yourself and what you want to create & experience. The “problem” with loa is unwillingness to recognize projection. If I tell you that women I don’t even know have walked into a room I was sleeping in, and woke me up and asked me to have sex, you might project limiting beliefs onto ‘me’ and believe I’m lying, bragging, or in some way being dishonest for whatever reason. And so, see for yourself, if you will. But again, there is an absence of the activity of thoughts in this experience, like “I suck”. There is no attention to anyone who suggests this, via ‘their own’ thought activity of lack & shortage, in any way. “Out of my head and into the room - Hello!” DMB Loa is a universal & immutable law btw, and is applicable to the entirety or whole of experience, to everything you could ever possibly want to experience (not just sex, relationships, etc).

@Preety_India Movie, The Book of Eli might be enlightening. Much love ?

? ‘who’? Even the separate self of thought doesn’t ‘get’ emotion. @Gregory1 ?

?? Not so. On the cusp of an even sweeter realization imo. ?

The discord of a self referential thought, as compared to the willing expression of the emotion of fear and so on. Jealousy is a gift. ?

@EmptyVase ? Gif of the year. ? Great question! From the instructions on The Emotional Scale webpage: “Expression of emotions experienced is not ‘about myself ’. Maybe some thought feels off, and not some thing. Other tools which might be helpful… Lovingkindness, Self Inquiry, Self Referential Thoughts. ? Also… from The Dreamboard: WHAT IS THE BACKSIDE FOR? Inspection. The vantage point of ‘what you’re thinkin’, written on the board, is a bird’s eye view which is far superior in terms of allowing clarity in regard to thoughts, vs trying to make sense of the activity of thought ‘swirling around in the ether’ (“in your head”). This can be most useful for inspecting the ‘tricky nature’ of Self Referential Thoughts and Subject Object Thoughts.

@Preety_India If it is noticed, that comparative hypocrisy & projection of belief(s) is discordant, then it is noticed anyone experiencing that activity of thought is experiencing that discord. It is in the seeing of this, that you no longer feel the discord. You might see fools and hear ignorance, but through understanding, compassion, and listening to how you feel, you feel Truth. ? Every time, without exception, and without fail.

Not two. ♥️

Suffering ends where humility begins. That thought is not your greatest fear. Fear describes how it feels when you focus on that thought. It discordant with the truth that you are creating, and can focus on what you do want… that’s why it feels that way. If self help isn’t working, try therapy etc, get some help. Take advantage of all resources available to you. That is also self help. Don’t just try one or two or three things, find what works. If there is trauma, go to a trauma specialist. Making false claims feels like making false claims. It isn’t right or wrong, it’s innocent ignorance, and yet it is also discordant. When you focus on these thoughts, you feel that way. That you are a junkie, that there are states, that ‘yours’ is naturally ‘negative and depressive’… imaging being homeless, thinking of yourself as a failure, that you can’t handle life… the discord of these thoughts does weigh on and take a toll on the body. All of these thoughts create discord because none of these thoughts are true about you. The body is the truth, listen to how the body feels, not thoughts. Listen to the emotions, not thoughts. There is nothing wrong with ‘where you’re at’. Nothing wrong with having 20k of debt. Nothing wrong with receiving help from your parents or anyone else. There isn’t really anything ‘wrong’ with judgement either, but there is how discordant judging is in terms of feeling. The end of suffering could also be said to be the choice of feeling better, vs believing discordant thoughts. No one can shift focus for you, but there is otherwise more than enough help available to help you to. There is only now. That this was let go is a false claim, evidenced by the focus upon it now. I agree, no amount of thinking adds up to letting it go. I don’t mean that flippantly, but for your well being. It is good to realize if the way I feel is related to that there is falsity and thus discord, in what I am believing and saying about myself. That tells me much about myself, if I listen to how I feel. There is no future to stop. It’s the thought, now, that is discordant. This is worrying, and it would feel better to acknowledge that sometimes doubtful thoughts do arise, and worrying and doubting results in disappointment, and so on. Fear isn’t a thought, fear is an emotion. Emotion is guidance for humble newbs. If feeling better is desired, willingly let the discordant claims making go. Let it go. That is the only way there can be the experience of a different perspective. Use the scale to express each emotion. ? Thought is not something to get rid of, ‘something to get rid of’ is a thought. There is no problem with thought. The change desired is in attitude. ‘Persistent thought’, is one thought, just like ‘a hundred thoughts’ is one thought. A golden attitude is within you already to be allowed to shine.

?? Meditation addresses the ego in a way, but is not for the ego. There is no effort involved. Like life, meditation is not a means to an end.

Meditatively, or expressively using the scale. Just pop ‘people’ in where ‘thoughts’ is, and it’s immediately clearer. If it resonates… inclusivity rather than exclusivity. What works well for the mind works well for the planet. “For me it is the thought of a separate self” When you see it, bricks will be shat. Much relief will ensue. Best be lighthearted and not all clench-like, as humor is sometimes sudden. “Get over them” Them implies not me. Therein is ‘the elusive separate self’. The ‘me’ which ‘they or them’ are not. The ‘separate’ self. Discordant thoughts aren’t powerful, but are thoughts. It’s you that is powerful. That is why there is discord, with the thought.