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@Serotoninluv “Whack-em-whole”? Meh. Too monomolecular.

@Manjushri What have you done, what are you doing for yourself? Your threads are a long list of self loathing without doing anything. This is not what the forum is for. Without taking some action, no matter how small, the forum is really just enabling you. Take this as a wake up call: you want to be a part of this, then BE a part of it. What is one thing you can do, today, for yourself?

@Manjushri How many times do you need to be told to go to the dr’s and do what they say? 4 more? 17? Give us a number. We’ll do it. Cause we love you. Just to love.

@OrpheusNovum Honesty. Focus in the direction you actually want, instead of using a past to limit your vision. Make a list of what you’ve done to heal yourself, to discipline yourself, to love yourself. Then make it longer.

What your missing is nothing. Life is quite boring without it. It’s right there, beneath the judgements, and the thinking that something is needed, wanting to be understood, communication, suspicion of sabotage, “missing something”, and even falsities like “it is just what I believe”. Journal?

That “me” slipped in there is the reaction. That there is a you separate from ‘getting cancer or losing a loved one”, is an idea. Hanging on to that idea is what suffering is. Cause what happens if one thing at a time, one faculty at a time, every thing is lost? If that keeps up, there’ll be nothing! So, a) Lifetime of avoidance & suffering. b) Experience nothing, so you know nothing, rather than knowing an idea of “me”, and an idea of nothing. @Paul92

@Cepzeu Looking for the Truth in relativity, is like playing the three cups and a peanut game, until you start to realize there’s no peanut.

@Anton Rogachevski A solid foundation from meditation is helpful there. Still rough, but it helps.

No, did for decades though. You’re having dreams in your sleep, and referring to them as dreams, because you haven’t realized all there is is dream. Your dream brain is trying to reconcile this, in a dream within a dream.

...yet.

@Etherial Cat Do you guys take time to communicate, and if so what prevents the continuation of it through to some resolution (which could then naturally result in great sex). Also, what would he say about you, about this?

That’s hilarious! Awesome report man. I’m a fan of the solo rental retreats too.

@Etherial Cat What is that something?

@Etherial Cat Is his watching porn why you don’t express / let go of the past influencing on the present? Or maybe am I missing that he was part of the trauma....? Or is he not trust worthy / doesn’t care about your well being / makes you feel uncomfortable?

@Emerald Anybody else in these scenario’s & fantasy’s?

That’s priceless clarity. Great report, thank you for sharing!

What have you tried? What’s worked what hasn’t? Have you explained this need to him?

@Emerald I really feel for you, but at the same time I can’t get a feel for if you want this to be “better”, or if you don’t. If you do... Have you considered a less sexually pragmatic scientific approach, maybe you’re overthinking it? Have you had a thorough physical done with screenings? Have you had periods of months where you did an hour of meditation every morning - did that change anything with the projecting sex and or the physical sex?

@andyjohnsonman Legit inquiry, but I’d suggest meditating first thing in the morning, and not believing any thinking about awareness.

Just one testimony here, but the sex in a relationship going down hill is not the experience I’ve had. Generally speaking, I’d consider communication / couples therapy if this is what is experienced. As soon as possible.

Can you put your finger on the exact catalyst behind this? What kept you from reading it without it having any influence on your happiness?

@CreamCat @Sahil Pandit Just a thought for ya’s, also illusory, but, thought is dualistic seeing one side or the other, which always reveals you are the one, aware of the two-ness. Also, odd reminder perhaps but, pupils are nothingness, you. Notice the eyes you see are twos, but as you see, it is one, and all are emptiness.

Ignore-ance.

Write down, in terms of chunks of time, what you’re doing with 24 hours. You’ll see it’s of course possible.

Explain this mysterious line in science, the “hard problem”...how the quantum realm and the atomic realm work together. In detail.