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That’s beautiful!

@Ross Labby The underlying problem is believing the illusion of time. Write out your days, in blocks of time, how you’ve spent it. The uneasy feeling will be faced, you will see there is ample time to pursue music primarily, and other arts as secondary, if you wish. One creative outlet behooves all others. Creating supersedes time, purpose, etc. The resistance to athletics is the deeper knowing the body being more fit would result in the energy to be creative in all your desired endeavors. The ego says “we” don’t need that fitness, we can just spin our wheels.

How do you really feel about that? Proud of it? Obviously, you’re attracting. Just look at your life.

@herghly When inclined to say a word or have a thought (ego), let it (ego) go. No word or thought will do, self inquire without words & without thoughts. Surrender the surrender. Empty the empty. Nothing the nothing. See the seeing. Love the love. Non-sense the nonsense. Laugh the laugh. If there is struggle (thoughts), immediately give equal attention to the opposite of the arising thought, “cancel out” the dualistic view with itself, aware of all views by aware of no views, aware of no views by aware of all views. The wholistic insight; any thought’s the no thought, no thought’s the all thought. Presence is one, aware of two’s (thoughts / perspectives = dual), all two’s are one - I am that. I am the I am _______. Inclusion; all thoughts, all things, all inquires, all questions, all answers - rather.....I am that, I am; inclusion...isness, amness. This won’t “make sense”. That is it’s “effectiveness”; it is ineffective.

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@AlphaAbundance What is the source of well being? Why is it that you can choose to align with it, or not? What is the nature of consciousness? Stop and look at your breadcrumbs.

Awareness & understanding the mechanisms would be enough to lose the loops. Freud’s 12 Mechanisms

@phoenix666 Awesome. ♥️

@Mulky I triple dog dare you to write that entire post again, but in the exact opposite. “At no point do we ever find out...” (double stamped)

@ivankiss Delicious.

@Wisebaxter Thanks!

@Wisebaxter Yes. From the finite mind perspective, you’ve got a question / situation in life, and an answer or two, or three - to what to do, or how to handle habits, etc. With meditation / inquiry, you are “going” from the finite mind perspective, deeper, “towards” the infinite perspective, which is not really a perspective, but all things / no specific thing, all questions & answers, no questions & answers... from which the finite perspective comes. The finite mind has only one, two, or three ‘answers’ because it’s perspective and answers are limited to the one-at-a-time thoughts / pieces of information - the finite lens, if you will. This is a good situation, it is what allows for the experience of a lifetime. Einstein said you can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it, you must let it go. Spira says you must release the consciousness which is of the question, to experience the consciousness which is of the solution, you must let it go. Ester Hicks says ask Source the question, trust the universe has heard you perfectly clear the first time, and to then let it go. Jesus said trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding, let it go. The Buddha said do not believe in God, believe in humanity - believe in yourself, let it go. Echkart recognizes the question arises via thought of past or future, and says to be here now, let it go. From the infinite perspective, all of those people are appearances which are all actually happening within you. They are you, telling you, let it go.

@Wisebaxter Only one way to find out. You could certainly meditate to slow the thought parade down a little / detach for a bit, and then do some self inquiry....’what do I feel like?’...’who is this me?’. Inquire enjoyabley & confidently. After all, it’s you you’re inquiring into. It’s not like you’re asking anything of anyone else. Perhaps the you & the You would love nothing more than to unify.

@Mulky What’s the only thing nobody could honestly tell you?

One school of thought is that unexpressed emotion just ‘sits’ in the body, so expressing yourself can = getting it out, and ‘it’ being gone. I know what you mean about some trepidation of ‘going there’, but man when you do, and you just let it all out once and for all, however it comes out ?????- then it does seem like ‘why the heck didn’t I do this expression thing years ago’? ?

@mandyjw @Serotoninluv Yes! And....both! ?? 5 mile run first thing in the morning followed by meditation...?

Yes. If you are everything, there’s no other thing to fear. The ego is the idea you are a separate thing, which creates fear.

@TheAvatarState First see what you are, where you came from, where you’ll go ultimately. Then “reality”.

@Etherial Cat In communication, we are only capable of being 100% full of shit. There is no exception. He can’t drop your shell, you can’t drop his. But when you drop yours, and he drops his, that is “without armor”, or “actual nakedness” (vulnerability), thus allowing actual sex (intimacy). Pretty sure that’s the satisfaction you desire. Your shell is ‘what he needs to do’, his shell is ‘what she needs to do’ ( “to accommodate me” ). The shells are based on, and were put on , in the past, sometimes unknowingly and therefore, not by choice. But make no mistake, the shells are kept on by choice. They are dropped by choice too. You and he are in the car. That is what is. Where you are going is what sets the mood.

@Etherial Cat What if the sex was the product of the communication? What if the point was the communication, and you guys were self discovering together? Venturing into awareness and consciousness individually of course, together? I’m just suggesting that leads to the greatest sex ever. This is why it’s so important to shine the awareness on what he would say about you. Not important to say here or to me, just very important for you.

When you say “this point”, is that point the sex, or the “more aware and conscious”? What would he say about you, about this? “Implementing a change which is rooted in how someone built himself over decades is not going away in a heartbeat.” Well...that sort of implies that the relationship won’t be “better” until decades are undone. But really, happiness is what is wanted, and the thinking is that it will be here after the change is complete. But I find that’s not really the case. An analogy that comes to mind.... Imagine you’re you and him are in the car on your way to pick up groceries. Then imagine you guys are on your way to Disneyworld. Same people in the same car, same car ride, yet, where you’re headed makes all the difference in terms of how you feel. I find a relationship to be like this, as far as happiness. So, if you guys can talk about awareness / consciousness, without anger or even if you can continue to communicate in spite of / after the anger subsides, then maybe there is a place reached where big changes haven’t transpired yet, but you’re both happy because of where you’re going together now, which in this analogy I’m realizing is the Disneyworld of sex.

@Aakash Those changes are awesome. Fear knocks, but only continues knocking if you don’t answer the door. You are hearing the knocking, this is wisdom in and of itself. Now let’s see who’s there!

@cetus56 @Aakash Absolutely. It’s a both & neither scenario in a sense. There is a path, and you must take it, and to want “it” is to reinforce there is a you which is separate from this “it” which is wanted. Aakash, I have a specific process / convo I’ve had with quite a few people at this point which has been very helpful. It can be done through pm - if you don’t have distractions around you. Pm me if interested.

@Aakash Yes, great! The resistant thinking is not wrong - that is resistant thinking! You are exactly, perfectly, precisely “where” you should be! This seeking and knowing is a wonderful experience, the best! Can you acknowledge it is not easy, it wil take time, it will likely entail practices which are new to you and initially difficult - BUT - what else ya got to do? ........ do that too! All is well!