Nahm

Personal growth is of the person / illusion (body & brain). Get in shape, clean up your diet, change habits, find a life coach, and or mentor, read books, practice physical skills, exercise focus, etc. There’s virtually no end to how a human can develop. To know yourself more deeply is another matter, simply investigate. Start by googling what your finger is made of. Then google what cells are made of, etc. Keep going as deep as you want. Meditate every day, to empty the mind. Twice a day is better. Be aware of what you’re doing from pattern repetition, and what you actually want. Self Inquire. Ask, who am I, and don’t settle. Question and scrutinize what you’ve come to believe a priori, and what you yourself actually experience. They’re dramatically different. If you would like someone to ask about your direct experience, to assist with the inquiry, let me know. Only if you intend to complete it though. Fear, self doubt, worry, tension, stress = not living the life you want to, and could - is the answer to your why question. All experienced is illusory. Ultimately, that is why the unresting emotions arise. They are messages. What do they tell you? When will you listen?

@Andreas Care what you think.

Go experience. That’s how you learn about both.

@Andreas If you stop caring what people think of you = sad? Can you explain your feelings on this a little?

@Aaron p Doesn’t get much better than Winterknight’s advice, follow that. Getting some help does not imply anything’s wrong with you. Also, at the same time, in hindsight you’ll see, this is a hangover, and overthinking it is anything more, and beating up on yourself about it. And it’s a stage. We can enjoy the relief from doing the work so much, that a low seems like a whole new low. Words don’t teach and all states and stages pass, you remain. Hang in there bud.

@Dumb Enlightened Awesome. Have you noticed you can ‘ask yourself questions’ and get ‘responses’ via that ‘tingly feeling’ yet?

@Nahm Even breathing is too far ahead.

@LoveandPurpose Start by reading your post and asking....am I two?....or one? Is the “I” the same as “myself”, or are there distinctions found between the two? Is the “I” other than “my head”, or am I one? Can you find distinctions? Is the “I” which is “asking myself” separate, are you two, or one? Is the “I” which asks if “I” and deluding “myself” three beings?...or are they One? Is your experience being two, or three....or one? Are you these thoughts which come and go? Are you consistent, unchanging, awareness of these thoughts? Are the thoughts happening outside of awareness?

@andyjohnsonman Nice. Godspeed man. You’re worth every bit of what you’re undertaking. What’s your understanding, vision, of what you’re doing when doing the ‘shadow work’?

@Shakazulu Bringing seconds ago into now is too much, let alone ‘life times’.

Try to make the distinction between sexually relating to woman, and non-sexually relating to woman. And trust me on this, the woman you start seeing because she was attracted to being treated as “beneath you” - that’s gonna be a big big headache for you. She’s better off addressing her self esteem solo first. Codependency always sneaks in, never announces itself.

@Alex14 Just ask questions, ideally about something they might be interested in answering. Everyone seems to like to talk about themself, so ask about them. Try not to be thinking when you could be listening.

They didn’t meet your expectations. Let go of those, accept them, and you, exactly how you are. This is the cornerstone of separatism, the belief that happiness will ever come from another person, or an object. The sooner you realize it won’t, the better.

@Arcangelo Really enjoying this thread, and your sentiments and experiences in the dating world. More power to ya man. Look at the potential dates you approach like fishing, drop the line out there, and then shut up and wait. Don’t double up, it’s desperate. Girl at local supermarket says “I got a concert Friday night” - don’t double up, be glad it wasn’t a “no”. Just say “cool, have a good time” and mosey out. Confidence, not neediness. Next time you see her, casually ask how the concert was, etc. You can take them or leave them, cause you’re having fun, and really just seeing if they want to have fun together. Not sure how kosher this is but, maybe try rubbin one out before you go cold approaching, so your brain isn’t in ‘get laid right now / must secure date right now’ mode, you know what I mean? Keep cool. They’d be lucky to spend some time with you.

@Hellspeed “Love you Hellspeed!” -THE MIND

@28 cm unbuffed Getting in touch with your emotions is really the point. Do that, and by default, you discover the ‘masculine & feminine’. Especially the ones that don’t feel good. It’s very important to ‘listen to those messages’, they’re always saying the exact same thing... You: thinks negatively about someone, yourself, or a situation. The message of the ‘not good feeling’: “You’re separating! That is You too!” The message does not change. The thinking, and therefore perspective must change to align with the feelings. Do that, and you have no need to ‘work on becoming a better person’. Trust the infinite intelligence that you are, that feelings are. “Everything is Love” callback....the heart is never wrong, because it does not think. Follow it endearingly. Do that, and there is no need to ‘become better with woman’. They’re subconsciously attracted to you being in touch with your emotions. You only think you’re ‘not good with woman’, because you’ve been ignoring your emotions, which feels like ‘self doubt’. The emotions & self are one and the same. Do not continue doubting, just listen, be the student to your body and emotion. Do that, and you have ‘figured out’ yourself. Then, you will see you have also ‘figured out’ everyone else. Want to know what a woman truly truly wants - just start listening to your emotions - listen to what you truly truly want. Woman are not as different from you as you think. Also... Stop measuring yourself so to speak. Let go of the need to impress anyone. It actually comes accross as insecurity. Be willing to be vulnerable instead. ♥️

Yes it is. So why persist? Consider letting it all go, it’s just overthinking. There is no need to be received, and no resistence.

I bet. It’s never going to really make sense, because it’s all thinking, because you are already you. You have a ton of knowledge, and I wish you the best with your karma. ??

@Salvijus Have you had Kensho yet?

@improvementedward Yes! Love it!

@Salvijus Well help me out then, what do you know about karma?

@Andreas Where are they when they’re not in school? Pick one you like. Go there.

@Alex14 Don’t “ask her out”. Just ask her, “hey, have you seen ________ yet? (Fill in the blank with a movie you think she’d like to see). If she says no, just casually mention you wondered if it was any good, cause you’re thinkin about seeing it. Then casually say... “Would you wanna go see it?” And you’ve just asked her out, without having to “Ask Her Out”. If she says yes (she has already seen it), then ask her - “how was it?” “Did it have a good ending?” “Would you recommend it?” “What movie do you think you’ll go see next?” When she mentions one, say “Oh ya! I was thinkin about seeing that one too! I might go see it this weekend” Then just wait a minute or two.... Then say “Do you think you’d like to go see it?” She already stated she wanted to go see it, so if she says yes to it - she likes you at least enough to go see it with you. If she says “no, I got this and that to do”, and doesn’t say something like “what about next weekend, or Thursday?” Then at least you took a shot, and the ball is now in her court. When it’s tactful and genuine, girls are flattered by this. So you’re good either way. You’re ok with either outcome. Ask 3, maybe 5 girls, and 1 or 2 will be interested. Maybe all 5. Idk. Some will, some won’t, so what. It’s important to assure yourself that you are totally fine with either outcome. This comes off as confident, but not over confident. Her subconscious is responding far more to your apparent confidence than your words.

@Highest Loving your perfection via imperfections and your imperfections shared with us via your perfection! Loving your unique expression of the most ordinary all that is! Absolutely loving being so privileged as to witness your expansion, your humility, and your never ending incomprehensible majestic mystery! Thank you! ♥️