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@Jedd Not sure what exactly you mean? I mean I've opened tension from my body so far and that's really nice.

Honestly that ether guy is being dumb lol. Anyway once you're high enough consciousness you will be able to rest quite well without actually entering sleeping mode. So they might be really good at not using excess energy and resting parts that they can while doing whatever they do. So it is unrealistic for a normal person to be able to do the same.

True self is what's left behind the idea of self. Not identifying with your thoughts could mean seeing them as random occurances. Or if you are the whole universe, or just even this planet, then you can see how your thoughts don't have to be taken personally. When it comes to fighting thoughts they're negative only if you see them as negative. Right now, or never actually, it's no good trying to create a different sense of self. It will come to you when it is time.

Usually people who are actually open to these ideas feel like their life is or has been actually just shit and they don't have much to lose. Me included.

Look at the root causes of why you acted the way you acted. I wouldn't recommend just finding quick fixes for getting good with girls, but improving yourself overall. I found how to get girls doing that anyway. If you're new to actualized.org you might have plenty of learning to do before you'll be able to clearly look at what caused you to behave like you did or what you can improve. Remember a silence is only awkward if you think it is. My style of social situations often has to do with being comfortable with silence, but of course I'll speak if I feel like it.

I really don't know if I have a life purpose meaning "do x thing". I just want to do what I want to do, whatever that ends up being, although I do have some career preferences around psychology because it seemed the most relevant subject to study with self-actualization. When I was a teen I would always look at things and think "this won't make me happy, this isn't the end result". Then I found actualized.org and enlightenment and personal development overall is by far the most interesting thing for me.

Personally although I'm at quite start with self-inquiry stuff although I feel like I have a pretty good handle on the "enlightenment exercises" list. Even though I see myself to be connected to everything I see and feel, I still avoid making a belief of "I'm everyone" or anything really. It seems limiting and I rather experience and understand it through the real deal since it can't be narrowed down to a concept. Of course you can contemplate what it means if you're the whole world though, but remember it's an idea of it. One thing you could try to realize has to do with materialism and that you and other people are ideas. It might be a good state, but just be careful with attachments around it. Also your body will definitely be able to see things as beautiful and be happy enough all the time once enlightened, so I wouldn't worry about that. You can feel quite good while wanting to help others. Although helping others is a good way to learn that being selfless is a nice idea, you also want to avoid doing "selfless" things in order to selfishly avoid your fears, responsibility or dangers. Just saying. I personally have it as something that comes naturally and if I feel self-centered I aim to question that.

If you're going to keep up the relationship you seem to need her to improve her perspective on money. This is done by bigger picture understanding and fixing deeper issues. She probably won't do this if you just tell her to get over it, explain to her compassionately how she could think about it. Maybe encourage her to think about this herself or do research. Maybe watch Leo's video on masculine and feminine compassion? She is calling you selfish because she's trying to manipulate reality in some way. Is she a bad person for it? No. This video's first half could give you one perspective to this, why or how she might be doing this. If you watch Leo's newest video, selflessness is explained there briefly as doing the thing that's good for most people, not just your partner, although you might help your partner over others if the standings are equal. Honestly it sounds pretty bad and she has a lot of work to do which she most likely won't be willing to do. Or then she will claim that she will do it to keep you around, but won't actually commit to it due to her issues and lack of understanding. If this is the case you can help her of course if you choose to.

Even if someone would find hobbys to be silly and useless, there are plenty of things to be learned from any journey taken seriously. The obstacles are most often the same and that goes for the learning process as well. So I recommend really trying your best with singing and maybe something will come out of it. First you can find the great joy and beauty in hobbies, relationships or whatever and that really is amazing. And then transfer that into your life purpose and everything, but singing can be your life purpose now.

Watch Leo's newest video. Then see that you can go full circle on this and realize that nobody deserves anything, so you're free to receive anything from life.

I have the book from Leo's list ordered. Right now especially when I meditate I can feel energy going towards my crown chakra. It's all scary yet something that feels like the right direction.

I had been watching Leo's for a long time without doing too many exercises. Still when I looked at a mirror my first question was "Who is that?"

I realized that you can't hold on to anything. The whole idea of holding onto things is a concept. I had realized that so many things are just concepts. But this came to me now as well. It feels so beautiful and freeing seeing that it's impossible to even hold onto things. So I'm interested to see if letting go will be easier now. There's nothing to let go of either.

Leo has a video or two on the higher self and the characteristics of it. You could check those out, make some notes and then see how to act more accurately.

Yeah it's beautiful seeing how I have heard some theories even years ago and now I'm starting to see them or their power for myself now.

I think a lot of the time the preference for which sex to be with comes down to which sex finds your way of attachment socially acceptable. Is it for example the arrogance of men or oversensitivity of women. I'm just generalazing.

You don't have to destroy your ego, just become ok with it. Accept it, start learning about it traps by learning from outside sources and watching it. Then it will stop bothering you. If it's words won't affect you, it will stop bothering you with that. Some things are easier to work out than others, but if you keep at it you will be rewarded

Mind always likes the extremes. Try to settle in the middle, remember that it's good for you. You might feel more afraid, but also more clear and there's peace to it as well.

I'd think hypersensitivity can have to do with too open chakras. Not sure at all, but it might be something to look into.

Maybe study more stuff on personal development. Knowing what to do and how to can get you more inspired. And it can be a bit fun to learn as well. It's hard to figure that stuff out against only your mind. You might get some relatively quick results by just trying to surrender for a bit. Like take time to sit/lay down and just try and give up. See what you're holding onto, and let it go. This may or may not work, but in your situation it helped me to give up some ideas of the old me and give compassion for the old me as well. It's hard but I'd definitely say it's worth it. After years of depression I'm no longer that thanks to personal development. I think when thinking about why to do this, you can see how obviously your perspective and suffering is very subjective. Although you're not to blame, your mind has the potential to see things in a much better light. So what I sometimes thought was that my view that says everything sucks is not really the optimal and I'll just try to follow teachings of the wise gurus. Knowing that's it's all alright in the end. You won't do perfect, but if you keep at it you will be rewarded. With personal development being rewarded is no possibility, it's real. Enjoy the moment and not just wait for future of course.

Well of course it's fine to delete a thread that is 100% based on a misunderstanding. Like lol

There is no objective reality, only hallucination.

I mean joy and happiness. You can read books about it and learn from the best, contemplate it and of course do personal development. If you want to make others happy, take notes of what you're learning on the way. This is sort of the same for most things.

Ego acts by hanging onto things or pushing things away. Try to find a balance

When you have judging thoughts, realize that they are judging thoughts. They are not a reflection of an objective reality. You don't have to not think, just let go of thinking that those thoughts are absolutely true or untrue. They are happening, but they don't reflect reality.