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hm, my involvement with zen and yoga was already quite strong. accepting it all was not so hard. the hard part was actually doing it, learning how to attain domain over the monkey mind...

i see, but it's not about charging/not charging. it's about being capable of actually providing proper help. the best way to help is being an inspiration. for instance, living an awesome life and marrying an independent woman would make your cousin look up on you as a couple. if you want to enhance her vision, then be that enhancement yourself.

be aware of the fact that they are envious themselves and have compassion for them. they are always comparing themselves with others and they suffer from it. they wouldn't project it on you if they weren't envious people.

have you mastered any field of your life yet? don't be like those hypocrite life coaches who live unfulfilling lives.

@Paradoxisabichoflive there's nothing to be understood about Truth. go out and breathe!

@zoey101 you need a period (maybe 1~2 years) of dealing with your own lack of spiritual health. live with your daughter and work on yourself. then MAYBE, you will find a partner who's into self-actualization as well. but don't aim for it. seek your own Life first. it's the best way to channel anguish/sadness/sorrow/suffering.

sit down and realize that there's nothing to do. there's nothing to improve and nobody to be healed. contentment is the key.

@B_Naz if "me" is what comes to the mind during meditation, it just means that there's still illusion.

the one that makes sense to you

exactly. after the surgery i had to spend 2 months without even having an erection otherwise it would screw up the stitches. that's where the 2 months come from. i had no choice.

~2 months i wouldn't have done it without a solid practice of hatha yoga/kundalini yoga/zazen

nope

Life feels wonderful and people are beautiful. ALL of my relationships are special

there is NO such thing as "ego" to be killed. we are Life Itself.

i am on day 1000+ it's been almost 3 year i think

hm, the girl is doing great! keep it up, @Artimus. you haven't done anything wrong.

if "forcing" is the word you pick, it's up to you.

if you don't want to see, pluck out the eyes if you don't want to hear, destroy your tympanum if you don't want to smell, take your nose away if you don't want to feel, rip off your skin if you don't want to taste, cut your tongue off if you don't want to think, crush your brain

if you have kids and build a family that's based on the human virtues, you're actually doing good to the planet, because your children will repeat what you practice (children see, children do).

what is "growth"?

in other words, you're just a lazy bum and you don't want to overcome your own limitations. do you also want a baby bottle?

what is it that you enjoy? it won't work if your answer is something like "watching porn/jerking off" or "eating a lot" or "consuming stuff". what is it that you can offer to the world?

do something you love. then figure out a way of making money out of it. this way you'll never need to work. this is what i do with data science and agroforestry/syntropic farming. these are not things that i chose for the rest of my life. as soon as i decide that i want to do something else i'll do it and still figure out a way to make money out of it. be creative. most people make money doing things they don't want to do. doing what you like should be easier, right? my inspirational example: hayao miyazaki. the dude spent SEVERAL HOURS PER DAY doing what he enjoyed doing. did it make him millionaire? no! it made him an excellent animator and inspiration.

"Love thy neighbor as thyself" is not even an option. it's an inevitable fact.

yeah, exactly. you get it. and there's even a broader perspective. is there anything under control at all? Existence is infinitely mysterious. we just ARE right now and we don't even know why. we can't know why. who are you?