ajasatya

enlightenment is living up your true nature day after day. enlightenment is embracing every aspect of Reality while being unable to be fooled again by illusory identities. it's the full understanding of what you are and what Reality is made of. it's being able to contemplate the mystery of existence and enjoy the silent unknowing that arises. enlightenment is seeing through the bs of egoic desires and self-image issues. it's being able to feel compassion and humility very deep in the heart. enlightenment is being aware of the marvelous miracle of THIS MOMENT.

the ego's thirst is endless. nothing will ever satisfy you.

@Sven pick something you want to do and work really really really really hard to be extremely good at it.

@eskwire make sure you're learning how to think for yourself. there should be a point where your own wisdom should be enough. kill the budas for your own good.

@Tony 845 having advice from wise people on how to deal with practical life stuff is great. but when it comes down to spiritual investigation, there is no authority other than your own direct experience. we can talk about what spiritual liberation is about, but that's as far as it can go. nobody else can help you on this. use your frustration as your fuel.

what would you want from such person?

@Uchira hi there. the following video may help

okay, i don't know if you're too young for this but i've seen highly mature men at your age, even though they are very very rare. the "auto honeymoon phase", let's put it that way, has certainly come to an end. you've experienced passion, which is like a burning fire. but from now on, if you want to experience an even deeper Love, you'll have to build it from there. you can try dreaming together and see if your visions for the future match. if they do, both of you can start working for it. and the hardwork will make both of you stronger. it will free you from seeking happiness on each other and will alow you to seek happiness on what you build together. if you want more info on that subject, feel free to send me a PM. or just tag me here. i wish you the best.

@Antonius what do you have to lose?

no idea...

i am 29. but i think you should create a poll...

laziness is lack of excitement due to excess of comfort. having just enough money to survive is a gift.

@martin_malin if you're still immersed in hatred, then why are you alive?

he does talk like someone who still depends on the excitement of relationships. of course he does... he's young and it's a normal behavior, but not being aware of the pattern of looking for external sources of happiness (girlfriends, money, power etc) leads to endless emotional roller coasters. the fact that he's suffering from lack of excitement is because he's needing something else. of course these are all projections. the best i can do is speak from my own experience...

@5thPablo no relationship will ever work until you learn to love yourself first. nobody else can make your life better. that's your job.

@tashawoodfall you didn't even touch my questions... those are important ones if you want to stay healthy in a relationship instead of wasting your time.

@tashawoodfall what do you want from a relationship? what do you have to offer in a relationship?

cannot

i can't guarantee that, but it's certainly true for me. i am an expert ex-victim. i recognize the victim mindset a thousands miles away. what worked for me? raw, harsh, direct, hard and clear truth!

@Mikael89 it hurts, doesn't it?

@TheBeachBionic yes, that's true. finding a healthy intimate relationship takes lots and lots of hard work. nobody just gets it for free. there will be no interesting partners interested in someone with the victim mindset. it took me 3 years to become someone interesting and now i'm married. you can start today and maybe you'll become a healthy person in 2~3 years? healthy people don't get along with unhealthy people. it's a natural mechanism of life and it's present on the entire animal kingdom actually. healthy wants healthy so the kids have a chance to grow even healthier. so yes, you're right. it's safe to assume that the prior likelihood is that nobody will want to be with you unless you become a healthy person. unless you want to be part of a toxic, fucked up and abusive relationship. those are easy to find.

you're completely right on this one. responsibility is necessary. thank you

yes. so people can see through the victim bullshit. if you don't call them to wake up, they will look at those texts and think "omg i'm so fucked up. why am i so nice in such a cruel world? no women will want me this way" it's pathetic. and straightforward realistic perceptions are highly curative. and i'll say it again. look around. most people are ignorant. when i was even more ignorant, a few years ago, i got into a fucked up relationship. one of those related in the texts. hell, i was miserable

most men are stupid. most women are stupid. they go well together. let them be.

@Rilles human beings are not like other animals. we don't have tough skins, sharp claws... we're not poisonous, we don't swim very well, we don't run very well and our feet are very fragile. we don't climb trees with dexterity and we can't fly. there's nothing wrong with being a social animal. villages and towns are our natural habitat. learning how to live in the woods is not how human beings will thrive. we will thrive when we learn how to live in groups peacefully and in harmony with natural resources. if i were put on the wild i would probably die. and there's nothing wrong about that. it's like a whale that's been transferred to an artificial aquarium... it will die extremely early.