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@Raphael so it didn't go like shit. newbies think that life is like a bifurcation: success vs failure. masters know that life is a sequence of straight failures until you reach success. of course you'd find it in the last placed you looked!

@fortifyacacia3 where do you feel resistance in the body? watch, breathe and relax or is it just imaginary? don't get too lost in thoughts and language. spirituality is very different from philosophy. cut the fat, make it clean, short and simple. true contemplation is finding your way through language to reach beyond language.

who are you?

yes! there you go

relapsed != relaxed lazy and undisciplined people have a hard time relaxing and often suffer from anxiety and chronic pain.

i wouldn't make suggestions such as meditation, diet, life purpose course etc. instead, i'd try to help her find motivation to go through a transformative process. if she succeeds, she will deliberately choose her own path.

@LoveandPurpose you become shameless and unstoppable

@LaucherJunge try it and let us know this path requires high levels of self-responsibility

@Shadowraix is right. good teachers do not want their students to be dependent. good teachers want them to become free. dependence and attachment already happens within religions. don't be religious. strive for your mystical states, instead. what is leo, anyways?

love towards Life increases, which is basically Self-Love no. every tiny fraction of Existence, which can be as tiny as you wish, is made out of Spirit. yes. all experiences are spiritual experiences. the question is: how aware are you that you're living in a mystical realm throughout the day?

@Benoit Jazy this is how mysterious and powerful existence is. are you aware of how much power it takes to truly deceive oneself? both of your possibilities are correct. they are both valid perspectives. how would it be to drop both of them, though? would you allow yourself to do that for 10~20 seconds?

relapse = lazy and undisciplined neurotic = dogmatic and prohibitive

there's nothing but the theater. and you're not trapped... that's just a story within the mind. the theater is the beauty of existence itself.

@TheAvatarState the teachings are not the main guidance. it's about developing enough wisdom so that you know if you're being relapse or neurotic. this is why teachers can be helpful. good teachers can spot unbalance very easily.

no you didn't understand. there are some sticky/gross beliefs and there are beliefs used to cleanse those sticky/gross ones. after the remotion of the first layer of beliefs, you can ditch the others. ramana maharshi used to say "thorns to remove thorns".

@OmniYoga it can be a waste of time and mental energy or it can be a motivation for you to go and actually do the practices. concepts are also great to shatter crystalized beliefs and the sense of moral obligation to believe in some set of beliefs, specially for people coming from limiting religious or scientific backgrounds. you're much better off with a belief that you can let go easily than with a belief that you hold as true for sentimental reasons.

@Yannik practice: zazen book: the power of now

maybe on the meditation/enlightenment and partially on the self-actualization sections. but this forum is also filled with serious practical stuff.

@Yoshy why do you go through anesthesia before surgeries? why do you drink water when you're thirsty or eat food when you're hungry? why do sages meditate to find Truth? meditation alters blood/brain chemistry... does it make meditation an invalid method? breathing also alters blood/brain chemistry. if you breathe properly, it elevates the pH of the blood. shouldn't i be allowed to breathe to experience god?

no, i'm just addressing (and maybe successfully triggering) your pride . it's useless, you can let it go.

@DocHoliday you can write a computer program to write those. it's not that smart. do you think ∞! is huge? what about ∞! to the power of ∞!, ∞! times, in a way that it would take as much time as it's own magnitude just to print the formula out? just pointless mental babbling. math can only reach the limits of the human mind. it can't take you very far on this journey.

the humiliation is in your head. let go of the big ego and embrace failure. why are you meditating?

alright, drop the "almighty leo" mentality because it just hinders your progress. leo is a guy like us, in the sense that he's also facing his own struggles to learn and grow. the thing is that everyone can only go as far as their own progress and as far as i'm concerned, leo is not the best authority to talk about stable/longevous deep intimate relationships. we're all trying our best. i'm not saying that leo or other coaches are deliberately lying to harm you. i'm saying that they're talking about their own experiences, which may or may not suit your current needs. and here i am, talking about my own experience and insights when i was going through similar emotions. from my perspective, you're living a life that you don't want for you. i don't think you know what you want, but you seem to be uncomfortable in two big aspects: your job and your intimate relationship. what kind of job is this that you can just do whatever? you don't seem to feel like you're necessary and that's a sign of a bad job. if you can manage your obligations even with so much procrastination, then plan your "procrastination" and use the spare time to build something truly amazing. why don't you work on perfecting your skills to do what you actually want to do? you can even use the spare time to build your own business, if that's the case. and about your girlfriend, both of you seem to be scared of future possibilities. that's how i and my ex felt. we indulged in small talks, series, videogames, meals, drinks, parties and sex as an attempt to fulfill the lack of happiness and meaning with activities that provided instant gratification. serious commitment? building a family? hell, those subjects always scared the s#!7 out of us. my insight about intimate relationships is that they should aim for something higher than each individuality. it can be a family or even straightforward Truth. there are couples who dedicate their lives just to practice and spread the message of love, remaining childless. as long as your relationship is built upon the fear of loneliness and hurt, it will just get worse and worse with some small waves of illusory improvements due to superficial tweaks. i'm sorry if i sounded too negative about your current relationship, but the fact that you worry when you're not with her is a big red flag.

they probably don't know what they're talking about and are selling something they don't have. if you want good advice on relationships, listen to people living great relationships. go for those who are living happy marriages. talk to men who are living happy 30 years long marriages and you will know better. they will tell you how dominance and aggressiveness just f***s you in the a**. if you want interesting relationships, this is my advice to you: practice tenderness, compassion, patience, listening and will power to always improve the quality of your life. eat better, exercise, quit trash culture and internet junk (porn included). the true beauty of a man lies on his fluency in the practice of virtues. you certainly didn't go deep enough. you gotta go beyond mental masturbation. you need to come out on top and drop your old vices. thanks for sharing your daily schedule. but you still forgot to mention how you feel during those moments. how do you feel when you go walk the dog? how do you feel when you are with your girlfriend? how do you feel about her when you're not with your girlfriend? how do you feel during your work times?

what the fudge is going on here? so much trash has been said.