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@Erlend please, you and your mother, read this and this. i strongly recommend yogic pranayamas with consistency and patience. try to find the nearest genuine yoga teacher.

@PetarKa have you noticed the beauty of people around you? even the closest ones? have you attained enough concentration to walk gracefully and smile lightly? strengthen ALL virtues you can. don't worry about enumerating too many. the true value of a man is in his fluency with human virtues.

if you're smoking pot, drinking alcohol, eating sugar or inhaling/ingesting any other substance (or masturbating) to do the job of letting go for you, then you gotta be extra careful because that's not liberating. that's just an attempt to transfer responsibility. you know you're stuck when the easy escape method comes to your mind everytime you find yourself in trouble. the real work is a lot more harder, dirtier and ENORMOUSLY MORE REWARDING.

@Dharam this pain you feel is noble and rare. to grow out of it you need to implement a meditation habit. speaking about myself: i wouldn't have done it without zazen and hatha yoga. live fully now. transform yourself consciously now. the pain has done its job, which was to take you to this purifying state. now you can leave the pain behind and do your job. it's your turn.

you're already breathing right now. coming back to breath is just noticing the fact that you're breathing. you don't really do something that you weren't doing before. bringing your attention back to breathing is an spontaneous detachment from thoughts.

@Mert stop trying to do this or that technique. when you notice yourself doing something, just comeback to your breath. don't judge yourself. don't judge your experience. judging is also doing.

@SFRL

@Durka_Durka when you meditate you're not opening up for self harassment. you're actually becoming conscious of how harassing you are to yourself all the time. ego is another word for I. stop saying that your ego hates you. you hate yourself. accept it first and feel the pain. be aware of the fact that you lack self love. once you have accepted it, then change can happen. never stop meditating and lean towards true human virtues, like humility, simplicity and compassion. let go of toxic patterns like pride, vanity and envy. these are lifetime tasks. your suffering is your fuel.

this is true. alcohol was my liberating tool in the very very beginning. i didn't even know what i was doing but i was able to experience a much less self-sabotaging ego when i was drunk. i would repeat to myself: i'm going to stop drinking when my sober self reach my drunk self. and it happened. "luckily" that phase only lasted for 3 years. then i started to practice mindfulness.

@Shin in brazilian portuguese we have a special word for it. we call it solitude. i'm not sure about its meaning in english, but in portuguese it's different from loneliness.

spiritual research is different from usual intellectual research because, in the former, knowing "things" from others won't get you anywhere. you can ask as many questions you want to whoever you want. even to enlightened beings. no matter what is said, it won't help. for this kind of research you have to realize that there's no ultimate authority except for your own direct experience. so sit down and do the work. trust nothing else. attach to no story. give up on science. give up on religion. give up on buddhas. and be patient. this process takes years. maybe decades.

@Alicja_ give up completely and just stay still. this is the most profound teaching. stop trying. just give up. watch your ego dissolve a little more. you do not owe anything to anyone, so let yourself be free.

@Dharam you can watch as many videos you want, but it won't do any good unless you get your hands dirty and sit down for good. watch your breath and let thoughts come and go. thoughts of jealously are just thoughts. as you can already see, becoming free of identification with thoughts is extremely liberating. so look for instructions for meditation. i'm sharing these ones with you.

there you go. it has been said. PS: be careful not to practice yoga just for the girls. you'd play a ridiculous role. instead, practice yoga with your heart.

some women may not suffer from being reduced to a sexual object. in fact, it may even be a fetish. but it's a particular case. even for those women it doesn't work in the long run. everyone (man or woman) likes true affection. the vast majority of the women i met appreciated the fact that i would listen to them and look at them without malice, trying to know their deepest sufferings. they felt great because it always had been extremely rare for them to talk with a friendly man in this machist society. as a result of compassionate listening, they release a lot of suffering and cry their pains out, which contain horrifying childhood traumas very often. another result is the fact that i was able to master my sexuality, of course. that's why i said what i said when the guy asked about celibacy.

poor john. by acknowledging the fact that he is special, he didn't notice the fact that everyone is equally special

@Butterflystory yes, i've done it. it's extremely liberating. body: practice yoga. one of the purposes of yogasanas is to channel sexual energy to other areas of your being. mind: practice compassion. when thinking of a woman, be aware of the fact that she suffers greatly and needs to be acknowledged as a true human being instead of simply a means for your own sexual satisfaction. try to attain this kind of look when looking at people:

these experiences are awesome but my advice is not to look for them unless you're already completely healed because the initial effort should be driven towards purification (complete shift of lifestyle to a healthier way to live) anyway, we can try to explain reality with words... we can try to judge these experiences as real or not but that's all nonsense. everything is within reality. i've been taking ayahuasca periodically twice per month (sometimes three times) and i can see clearly how much of a huge shelf of experiences reality is. open up and have fun. the human domain of conscious existence is quite vast.

awesome topic! congratulations for your healing. i wish you true happiness!!!

the first step usually requires some planning and courage. i had to leave my parents and start a life based on minimalism so i could focus completely on the path. a sudden leap of faith... the old self murder.

try everything else. for real. sooner or later you'll see that true happiness comes from not needing external things. self-development is finding that freedom.

sit quietly and try to reach the core of this pain you're feeling. go for it and stop running away. this pain comes from the fallen pieces of your egoic armor. let go of your pride completely and come back to humility. it's the most mature way to live on.

how's it like to live leo's life one day?

coming down to the conclusion that there's nothing to do, which is a proper pointer to people who have been meditating for quite a while. but the guy himself recognized that he still has work to do in order to discipline his monkey mind, so the "do nothing" teaching is useless at this point. instead, i recommend this.

@Ether then disbelief this very one: