Shin

Read: Mastery from George Leonard.

A debate: Two egoistitical minds fighting about relative truths.

It's not complicated, it's just challenging as fuck. Right Intent: The second step on the Eightfold Path is Right Intent. This is the step where we become committed to the path. Right Understanding shows us what life really is and what life’s problems are composed of, Right Intent urges us to decide what our heart wants. Right Intent must come from the heart and involves recognising the equality of all life and compassion for all that life, beginning with yourself. Right Intent means persistence and a passion for the journey. Setting out to climb a high mountain means you must understand the lay of the land and the pitfalls, the other team members, and the equipment you need. This is similar to Right Understanding. But you will only climb the mountain if you really want to and have a passion for the climb. This is Right Intent. The mountain we climb here is our journey though life. To summarise, Right Understanding will eliminate ignorance. With Right Intent and correct understanding, we then remove desire, which in turn causes the suffering defined in the Four Noble Truths. Right Speech: Right Speech is the next step of the Path. We tend to underestimate the power of the spoken word, and often regret words said in haste. Each of us has experienced the disappointment associated with harsh criticism, whether justified or not, and we also are likely to have felt good when kind words encouraged us. Right speech involves recognition of the truth, and also an awareness of the impact of idle gossip and of repeating rumours. Communicating thoughtfully helps to unite others, and can heal dissention. By resolving never to speak unkindly, or in anger, a spirit of consideration evolves which moves us closer to everyday compassionate living. Right Action: Right Action recognises the need to take the ethical approach in life, to consider others and the world we live in. This includes not taking what is not given to us, and having respect for the agreements we make both in our private and business lives. Right Action also encompasses the five precepts which were given by the Buddha, not to kill, steal, lie, to avoid sexual misconduct, and not to take drugs or other intoxicants. This step on the path also includes a whole approach to the environment, with Right Action being taken whenever possible to safeguard the world for future generations. Right Livelihood: The next on the Eightfold Path follows on from Right Action, and this is Right Livelihood. If your work has a lack of respect for life, then it will be a barrier to progress on the spiritual path. Buddhism promotes the principle of equality of all living beings and respect for all life. Certain types of work were discouraged by the Buddha, in particular those where you deal in harmful drugs and intoxicants, those dealing in weapons, and those harmful to animal or human life. So a dedicated Buddhist would not be recommended to have a liquor store, own a gun shop, or be a butcher. In his time, he also discouraged the slave trade, which dealt in human workers. And he was also against the practice of fortune telling as this made assumptions about a fixed future, where his teaching stresses that the future is created by what we do today. Right Livelihood also implies that a Buddhist who is able, will undertake some work, either as part of a Buddhist community, or in the workplace, or, alternatively, do home based or community service. Many communities of monks ensure that each member has daily chores, which remind him of this step on the Eightfold Path. Right Effort: Right Effort means cultivating an enthusiasm, a positive attitude in a balanced way. Like the strings of a musical instrument, the amount of effort should not be too tense or too impatient, as well as not too slack or too laid back. Right Effort should produce an attitude of steady and cheerful determination. In order to produce Right Effort, clear and honest thoughts should be welcomed, and feelings of jealousy and anger left behind. Right Effort equates to positive thinking, followed by focused action. The Buddha was well ahead of his time on this one, and many books have been written about the power of the right attitude. Right Mindfulness: While Right Effort is a very easy concept for most of us, Right Mindfulness is somewhat trickier to grasp, and may involve quite a change of thinking. I suggest that you take a short break, stand up and walk (or cruise if you are mobile) around the room or house, and then come back here before reading on. Right Mindfulness means being aware of the moment, and being focused in that moment. When we travel somewhere, we are hearing noises, seeing buildings, trees, advertising, feeling the movement, thinking of those we left behind, thinking of our destination. So it is with most moments of our lives. Right Mindfulness asks us to be aware of the journey at that moment, and to be clear and undistracted at that moment. Right Mindfulness is closely linked with meditation and forms the basis of meditation. Right Mindfulness is not an attempt to exclude the world, in fact, the opposite. Right Mindfulness asks us to be aware of the moment, and of our actions at that moment. By being aware, we are able to see how old patterns and habits control us. In this awareness, we may see how fears of possible futures limit our present actions. Now, having read this, try the same walk as before but with a focused mind, which now concentrates only on the action of the walking. Observe your thoughts before reading on. Sometimes you may be absorbed in what you are doing. Music, art, sport can trigger these moments. Have you ever done anything where your mind is only with that activity? At that moment, you are mindful, and the Buddha showed how to integrate that awareness into our everyday lives. Right Concentration: Once the mind is uncluttered, it may then be concentrated to achieve whatever is desired. Right Concentration is turning the mind to focus on an object, such as a flower, or a lit candle, or a concept such as loving compassion. This forms the next part of the meditation process. Right concentration implies that we select worthy directions for the concentration of the mind, although everything in nature, beautiful and ugly, may be useful for concentration. At deeper levels, no object or concept may be necessary for further development. The benefits of Right Mindfulness and Right Concentration are significant as they teach the mind to see things, not as we are conditioned to seeing them, but as they really are. At the same time, they also lead to a feeling of calm and peace with the world. By being in the moment and being able to concentrate effectively, a sense of joy in the moment is felt. Release from the control of past pains and future mind games takes us closer to freedom from suffering.

As long as you think you can't do something, you'll never be able to do it. Right now you think you don't deserve a girlfriend or sex as much as being whatever you want in life career wise. These are all blocks in your mind, and studying more pick up or other techniques won't do shit. And I'm not saying you should have a higher self esteem, you obviously think you've great "great body, karate kid", but those are just superficial traits. A healthy and non needy girl would never stay with a guy who has just that, she may be attracted at first, but she will leave you pretty fast afterwards. Don't think that those things make you a man, they don't, at best they learned you to be healthy and know how to defend yourself, that's all they can do. So now quite being a pussy, sit in a room alone and inquire on your incapacity to do the things you think you want, and let all the emotions come up, NO CONTROL, NO BLOCKAGE. You do that everyday for at least 30 minutes, EVERYDAY.

That I can't read without having a voice in my head reading. Why do I even need a voice reading, why can't I just see the word and understanding what it means ? That's actually very interesting, the simple fact that I didn't notice untill now is the proof. It seems impossible to stop, but the impossible will be possible, JOIN ME !!!

Looks like super neediness, like hardcore. There is no way you can sustain a relationship like this, it would never work. You have to take care of this one way or another, it's way too much of a handicap (I'm talking from experience).

No, but I look like 18 while I'm actually 28.

Find your life purpose Work on your funnyness Practice self-love Do a lot of meditation Practice awareness of your thoughts all the time At some point you won't give a shit about girls or sex.

The reasons why you have these fetishes is because you watch porn. At first basic porn was satisfying, then you acclimated, then you watch hardcore, then anal, then gangbang, then bdsm etc ... @egoless I doubt you can stop porn if you don't stop masturbation at the same time. You can try, but what's gonna happen is that everytime you fap you will think of watching porn, or you will fantasize about fucking a woman, which is the same, because you think you are doing it when you actually don't. This is what fucks your mind, because it thinks it got what it wants, hence the loss of motivation and determination. Masturbation is useless anyway, you have like what, 5 minutes of pleasure max, it's not worth it considering how much energy it sucks out of you.

Many people think after finding out about enlightenment that they to be some kind of yogi or things like that. That's just the ego at play, tricking you to actually not following you real dream (may be genuine, but that's not that common). Nothing has to changes if you really enjoy the game for its own sake, just purify your mind and your body. You'll know if it's genuine or not with time, you'll be so close to your intuition that you won't be able to bullshit yourself anymore. If you do spiritual work properly, which means turning inside to dissociate with your thoughts (what people call ego), there is no way you could get offtrack for long.

What makes you think it's our natural state ? Do you remember when you were a child ? That was your natural state, before the conditioned society conceptualized your brain like a band of giant black rape a tiny european.

I thought when you totally dissociate with the ego it should be easy. THAT'S EVEN MORE INTERESTING !!!

Peter Ralston

The joy of sex isn't about ejaculation, if it were, you would go straight for it (well, that's what some guys do ). It is even more pleasurable, because if you learn how to do it properly, you can feel pleasure in your all body instead of just the dick area. You can even have orgasms withouth ejaculating and repeating the process, but that's quite advanced, I can't do it for now.

What is your job ? What do you mean it interferes with your everyday life ?

You can take care of your girl without ejaculation, it's not like they want your sperm in their vagina/mouth anyway.

Go deeper into the pain, feel it in its entirety. Don't escape it, look at it directly, confront it. With time, it will dissolve by itself.

The feeling you can have when you've gone deep into this work is so intense. It is by far the most thrilling emotion you will ever experience in this egotic life. The hero's journey is like Leo's says, in your own mind. Pushing and shifting your sense of self, which ultimately change how you see and interact with other beings. It is really what life is all about. Nothing is more epic and worth living. You know this very well, which is the very reason why you're so scared. You're going to die, you'll have to give up everything you're attached to, maybe friends, gf/bf wife/husband, even family. Everything. It will take you everything you have, so of course you're scared ... But know that in the end, you'll discover something infinitly more valuable than everything you('ll) ever had(have) in this physical reality. Everything you do in your life points to this, everything in life points to you, the real you. You know what you have to do. Just don't listen to your mind, and follow what your heart tells you. You won't know why you're doing it, nor where it's gonna lead you. But you have to go this way if you want to be free, if you want authentic happiness. Yes sometimes it will be painful, so painful that you will barely stay out of insanity. Some other time there will be moments where there will be so much joy in you that you won't even be able to cry. This is a choice you will have to make in the end Either escape yourself and live life as a slave of your emotions and "random" events Or you go deeper into the rabbit hole and find out there is no such thing as randomness ...

More meditation/constant awareness

Don't know if it's a common practice of it, but today I just rapidly scanned my body sensations (no questions). I did that until there was no way to tell where I'm located anymore, felt like I was in a simulation. Try it

Continue without asking advices. The more advices and books you read, the more expectations you'll have. The goal is to release all expectations, and then it comes.