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Well I won't say female advice is wrong it's just, communicated in a way guys don't really understand to a guys who won't understand it anyway. Here is a common one: Girl: "I want a guy who can make me laugh" So the guy thinks he should be funny and makes jokes, but that not it at all. I mean it doesn't hurt but that not what she really means. If I would ask her if she meant that she would say yes, because we are confusing to them. How men work is also incredibly complicated. It's a mess basely and people don't really know what attracts them, they just know what they like.

@Shir Tell him how you feel or ask him to get you someone else. @Psyche_92 "Life becomes awesome when YOU are absent. " haha, don't say that to normal people it sounds insulting.

@billiesimon I am really cuddly and affectionate and I'm the most successful person with girls I know. I thinks it's more about how and why you are cuddly etc. Lonely? If so that's bad. It's fine to be open and honest, although being a nice guy can be problematic. You need to have your own stuff going on. Don't start hugs, avoid giving random massages. If you sitting and talk with a girl and you feel like giving her a foot massage go for it. But don't just go and give a girl (you know) random pleasure. P.S you would love Sweden, it's customary to hug as a greeting here, if at least one of the two is female.

She can also just be messing with you, either way I would stay very long in the evening if I can't use a bed. No sex is fine but if I'm gonna spend the night I have want a bed to sleep in. I have a tendency to abuse power not to this extent or really intentionally but still. Like purposely making taken girls horny but not sleeping with them.

Cold showers. Take a deep breath and breath out all the air in your lungs while going in to the icey cold. While breathing out you don't feel it, although you can't breathe out forever. As someone that lives in -15C, cold showers is a great morning habit because it puts you in heat mode. You don't freeze at all if you go outside.

Oh you don't say

Maybe you should take a break say a week (preferably without seeing him)

I have many of the same problems, I'm not close at with my family. I speak to them once every 2 months, meet them a few times a year. Surely being close to your family has it's benefits but for me it feels like it's too late now. I'm completely independent and don't need them anymore. I wouldn't say you need to be close to your family especially if they're not nice towards you.

@Shir I find you view of sex admirable, but you'll find that once you get feelings it will be difficult to resist. I mean are going to be girlfriend/boyfriend for at least 3 years without sex etc. If so you'll probably need to find a very religious guy. Another bonus is that you'll have stronger connection, due to neither of you have orgasms.

I would skip talking about exes in general, unless the girl asks. If she does try to be possitive. Saying that girl was crazy is not going to help you at all. Talking about serious problems and opening up is good but not before kissing the girl. Yeah absolutely, try to avoid being somewhere where she knows people, like work/school etc. Bonus points for being completely alone with her. I have a nice garden near where I live, it's good if it's a serious date. Although normally most of my first kisses happens at her/my place.

@F A B 19 is a great age, most of my growth happened when I was 19. Also when it comes to girls. Try to be more on top of the girl when you kiss her, rather beside her. The more you do it the more natural it feels. Not sure what you mean by emotional stuff but talking about super serious topics might not be the best. Try to keep the conversation light hearted and flirtatious. If you talk about how your father has cancer and then go for a kiss, you'll kinda ruin the vibe. Not saying you shouldn't open up but it's not a good time for kissing. Another thing that became very clear to me is that girls like to feel special even if you just meet to hook up. So talking about how you would be fine sleeping with another girl instead is generally not a good idea. Things I've learned: Be restrictive when it comes to tongue use. Less is better. Kissing into light neck kissing is a great way to escalate into more fun things. Light and slow is key here.

Well I generally try to avoid talking about PD with friends unless I know they are into it as well. Now would I from personal experience recommend cutting him out? no, because someone is better than no one. It's really tricky to meet new people you don't have any other actual friends, especially if your maybe not the best at it. I would try to meet new people that you could transition into, to make new friends so to speak.

No specific topic, generally you get closer and more physical, after that you go for it. For instance last night I hand my hand on her inner thighs before I kissed her, we were talking about "street music". Sitting like an "X" with her legs over mine. So I was not able to reach her mouth but I was close to her legs. There is no one way to do that. In a Netflix and chill situation I generally put my arm around her first and then go for the kiss when it feels reasonable. Gently touch her arm in the other side, after ten minutes (ish)when he movie is kinda chill go it. If it's in a bar or club I generally go for it when they seem like they want to. Generally they first look at your eyes then your mouth. On a date I do it when it ends if I felt like it went well. I would avoid having the kiss be the first physical contact I have. You can get closer to her face and look at her mouth to show her you want to before you go for it.

Nothing is true, therefor everything you believe is untrue. What matters is what the things you believe, make you do and feel.

You have already approached quite a few girls, so I would advice analysing what is stopping from being more successful in the practically. I mean it can be as simple as what you wear or your hygiene. We can provide feedback if you upload a video of yourself taking about something and wearing and looking like you do when you game. I would make it unlisted and simply send the link.

What @Psyche_92 said is great, I would give rep but that's not possible anymore.

I wouldn't say I ever really got into to pickup, but I did approach one girl when I was 19. Had some success, we made out. At the time I had wasn't aware of the concept of pickup, but I got lucky because she was in the mood. When I talk to girls these days I don't consider it pickup either. I mostly do so because I've gotten bored of the party I'm at. For me the most important insight when it comes to attraction is: The type of attraction you get is equal the what you showcase, what you showcase is equal to that you think you value comes from. If you think your value comes from money, you'll get gold diggers. If you think your value comes from how nice and respectful you are, you'll make friends or become a doormat. If you think your value comes from who you are, people will want to know more about you and be interested in you. The latter is the best for sex, relationship and friendship.

@Hardkill Out of curiosity, what does the average girl look like in your country? Super easy way to lower your standards, go on NoFap, two weeks you'll be happy to get anything.

@Hardkill Go for it, although pick hobbies you actually enjoy. If your social circle is very (in lack of better word) "nerdy" then you'll surely struggle. So in other words: don't hang out in order to get girls or pick a hobby for the sake of girls. It can be a bonus especially if all the people in your social circle is doing the same. So don't just use people for it.That would come off as desperate among other things.

You have more growth and see the benefit, doesn't help I know.

You need to do something else, I still struggle. Maybe a friend you can hang out with or a new positive hobby. Something along these lines.

@Nahm Haha

I applied for a job yesterday and they called earlier today, inviting me to an interview on Friday. In the past I've worked at my fathers company, he is the CEO and another family member was responsible for personal. I can't use these references legally without informing the employer about my relationship to these people. It is also considered unserious to use family as references. I don't know what to do. I'm not close to any of my professor/lecturers. Same goes for my high school teachers. Never really spoken to them, just handed in my assignments and so on. I assume using classmates is a bad idea. Things I've done in the past: Had a internship at a café (It's obligatory in 8th grade) but this only two weeks and a long time ago. Most likely they don't remember me. I've ran an proper company as part of a high school project, selling homemade solar changers for phones and tablets. It's just a part time employment, but I would really like to have this opportunity. P.S Yes, I know I should have thought of this waaay earlier. But I didn't.

@h inandout We have had plenty of time for that. I'm her closest friends. Girl were awesome, a long time ago. Just like men was able to be.

Backstory My best friend seriously told me that, she feels like I'm only friends with her because she offers me food and occasional cuddles. While this is untrue and I take that as an insult. Now it's fine, I'm not angry at her or something but it's an unfair statement, imagine if your girlfriend just thought you liked her because she "cooked really well". Now you might just think ohh well she is just insecure and that's why she thinks that, nope. Regarding food, she has been the one to pay and to a great degree cooked the food. Yeah, sure but I've payed for her food as well and most of the time we cook together. I've even told her that she pays to much. As for cuddles sure I enjoy them and it adds to our friendship, but once again it's not why I'm friends with her. Now she wants to have a serious chat about the future of our friendship. I do get why she came to this conclusion though, but that's her misinterpreted something, which I can't prove. The story, another girl whom I don't know very well put on her snapchat story pictures of some type of food that really stood out to me. I asked her what it was and she told me, we had a little chat about it and she invited me to try it. Now I've never hung with this person before one on one, but she is kind and offered me to try. So I went to her, to try this food and hoping to have some pleasant company. I'm pretty sure she wasn't expecting anything else either. I never gave the impression I wanted anything else, nor that I was really interested in getting her to know very deeply. Now we had a fun and I would really enjoy spending more time with her again even if this excludes food. (Although she invited me to have a similar dinner again) I told my best friend this in less detail, because she asked. Then she got upset and made these types of assumptions about our friendship. Now you might say "girl are very emotional, you should know this by now" but she has not been this way before. Problem The problem is: how can I possibly prove my motivations? Now it's not the first time people have questioned my motives. So assume I there most be a problem with me, maybe they have a point or perhaps I don't make my motivations clear enough. Because why would I unless they ask? A lot of the time people don't understand me, which is fine. Surely some of you have the same problem(self-help and all that). As long as this lack of understanding doesn't create problems, I don't mind.