Spiral

My country is a bit extreme in many ways. But I’ll recognize that most women globally want marriage. So yes, giving them it is certainly an advantage of marriage and only reason I would ever do it. The rest of the points I don’t really see. If a woman doesn’t care, you can still build a family. Have kids, stability and on. If you get married someone might stay just because it inconvenient to leave, legally, in terms of effort and financially. Is that great? I don’t think so. I want to be certain someone stays because they want to, not because they “have” to. I think this is just a cultural thing, I know a bunch of people who have been together for over a decade. Living together and got kids(of the intensional variety)

What’s the advantage of marriage as oppose to just being together? Let’s imagine your partner is neutral A fun event? Good sign in business? Religious reasons? Tax benefits?

This situation seems unhealthy to me

I thought being a monk meant disowning worldly possessions. Aka not having any money

If I ever go the US again, I would be worried about the food there.

@Hardkill Too old, yes, yet not socialist enough. But he is getting there

Would be nice if you got a new fresh party. I like Bernie, for instance, he seems good. Probably other good options

Is American tourism truly dead? As in tourism inside the US. I seen quite a few indications of this. How do you Americans notice this? Is actually the case?

This is accurate.

Stockholm, Sweden. 6/10 socialist utopian, egalitarian, crime, underfunded welfare, unfriendly shallow people, high taxes yet wealthy. Pretty city, nature and people

I’m Swedish, we’ve had a rough decade. We have taken in a lot of immigrants, without the capacity to integrate them. However I’m optimistic about the future, medium to long term. Banging aliens is not in my calendar this weekend. But I’m open to new things, do not wanna be neophobic.

I don’t know where you guys find these crazy women. Most I encounter are quite reasonable emotionally.

Well surly if either work, both win. And if neither work both lose. If you only have say 5 guys in your social circle and none are not a fit for whatever reason. You’re stuck, you need to make new friends?

@theleelajoker I get stun-locked, if a girl is nervous like that. I’m halfway through writing my phone number into her phone by the time I realize she likes me ”like that”. I think just I’m terribly sensitive in this regard.

@theleelajoker I not oppose to it. In theory I like it. It has just in my experience been dominated by her nervousness. Which in the end, didn’t lead anywhere.

It is a bit entertaining that if a girls like me, she will be certain I have lots of other women in my life. That I have abundance, that might not be true and they are almost impossible to convince of this. It not a meaningful endeavor.

@Emerald That makes sense, I also appreciate a slow burn. You get a more complete perspective. In my culture we don’t have this. I suspect you’re from a peach culture, where people talk to strangers and colleagues. We aren’t open to strangers in a platonic manner. You don’t even talk to strangers unless absolutely necessary. Maybe a friend’s friend at most.

I agree with @Emerald here. Although personally I would find it terribly frustrating being a woman. Especially in a time where guys often do not take the first step. Women approach me here every once in a while. It doesn’t create the right dynamic, both just get nervous and there is no play to be had.

@Xonas Pitfall I’m not sure, it nice that a girl has the same type of humor I have. That I can change how she feels. However I not sure guys care more an a girl who told an actually funny joke to someone they like. I rather she laughs because she likes me than because the joke itself was good.

When a woman likes a man, she’ll laugh at his jokes. Or laugh in general when with him as a way to relive tension. Women like men whom they are attracted to and men like women who are attracted to them. Sure being a good joke teller is useful but this is more of the story in my experience.

@Leo Gura haha because it’s my name? I don’t know if I’d blame feminism or even say it a bad thing long term. It’s different and a lot of guys struggle. That’s all.

I disagree and it’s not just about it being scary or not. It’s about getting into the flow. You’ll perform better socially also

Aragorn from lord of the rings. P.S your vid is broken for me(image?)

@Xonas Pitfall A man who’s not good with women will bring out the “wrong” emotions in her. It is of course foolish to blame her, and call her too emotional for this. But if a guy do not know any better a he might do so. Generally I would say cute is better than sexy. If we are talking about getting romantic interest. Shy can be apart of that, but it doesn’t have to be. Guys really appreciate being respected, or rather hate being disrespected. However this often comes from not showing the woman enough love and affection. From a guys perspective this is often irrational because they not directly correlated. This doesn’t mean you should treat them any differently when a close friend in regards to respect. It’s so often I see girl trashtalk their boyfriend, guys hate this. Otherwise, being kind, open minded in general, not being so quick to judgement. Being kind, isn’t just to us, it’s to everyone. We notice that. Any trait, any good mother would have. Although I don’t mean to say you should treat him like your child. It is about you being able to be a good to our child if we have them. Humility, modesty, confidence can be appealing if done right, have boundaries. Being physical is something I like, hugs and stuff like that. We might pretend or appear that like we don’t care about I but we do. Otherwise I do not know. Guys do not like to compete with either other guys for a particular girl. That is a common misconception.

I don’t know if this has any practical application. Beyond stressing the importance of authenticity, emotional openness and so on. I do not think faking it is a good idea.