Spiral

Don’t tell her that, have fun, abstinence is not the way.

Don’t sext, in person sex is better. Sexing is just frustrating in my opinion.

The Syntheist community "Noden"(The Node) in Stockholm is a permanent burning man and techno temple. Sorry about it being partly in Swedish. For more info: https://www.noden.community/

Wasting time on the forum when you don't need to.

Based on this video i'm not impressed. Talking about the cossacks (or the tatar people) hasn't been my approach to pick up I would go for a more positive approach, as in being more excited to talking to them, spreading good vibes and all that. He seems kinda bored which implies status but is strange since he approached. Less compliments and less pushy in conversation. On the upside he good at get their attention, he is captivating, different, unique and mysterious so that's useful.

I don't care much for establishing long distance friendships, I do sometimes get PMs(or Pm myself) but I recommend you look through their content. Do their beliefs and ideas appeal to you? then maybe you should hit them up.

You mean this? Generally recording girl sleeping with you and so on and uploading it is not what I at least would consider pickup.

@Eric Tarpall What who is being arrested? Do you have any examples?

Everything in moderation, including sex. A inherent problem with pickup is that you activity pursue sex. It’s better to go out in order to have fun. I’ve found that if you honestly do you’ll end up talking to some girl somehow.

While in conversations, try to be calm and aware of your breathing. Talk slower and focus on the words you speak to more impactful/clear in the way you pronounce them. Don’t over use compliments and I try to avoid complimenting the girls actually body for two reasons firstly it can come off as inappropriate and secondly you don’t want her to fell too validated. Touch is important as it builds trust, shoulders are a great place to touch early in the conversation. Also touch everyone you talk to I.e be a universal toucher.

As for the racism, it’s kinda specific a lot of people are anti “muslim looking people” due to the influx of refugees and immigrants. So people of colour that aren’t for instance Somalis are look upon better. Racist people tend to view people from Kongo and ex-colonies better in other words. It’s not so much about race so much as it is islamphobia.

Everything isn’t related to spiral dynamics.

I would try to reframe as something positive. Both the girls and the guys spread good vibes through their interaction. Making other people happier around them, excluding jealousy etc. Girls/women are not rare, there are billions of them. So your not really missing out either. Tried scream therapy?

@Eric Tarpall Why not approach? takes two minutes.

@Alexop That's just the beginning. You should check out the documentary: "The Swedish theory of love"

It's the basically the same.

Slightly different topic, but if a girl has had plenty of boyfriends, and those relationships didn’t last very long I get discouraged.

Get rejected and try again.

Lots of mind games? That stuff only works short term. Unless you want a crazy broken gf that is. The useful traits you have gotten really is the social skills and confidence authenticity.

I suppose this could be useful but Scandinavia is super green and people here generally look down on people who are very active on social media. So this advice kinda feels outdated and this whole thing was cool 5 years ago. I suppose it depends on where you live.

Cold showers are great way to wake up in the morning, boost immunity and burn fat. You don’t stay in there very long but it should be done regularly for best effect.

Should be fine he isn’t cite a bunch of news articles and uploading other people’s content. Users are the problem here as they have tendency to. Dark web actualized.onion is gonna be great otherwise.

I would definitely say that i'm mostly at fault here, because to be completely honest, they feel like strangers who raised me. I don't feel any connection with any of them and I do not feel any interest with spending time with them. Although they haven't really done anything wrong I've travel plenty with them and they definitely put aside time for me as a kid. Now a days I feel like I'm mostly a means to quench their loneliness and for instance when I turned 20 the only person who congratulated me on my birthday was a cashier at the liquor store (it's the legal age in my country). I don't have any siblings and my parents are seperated, yet all my grandparents and so on are alive. My cousins are either 0-3 years old or extremely spoiled, one even had a crush on me once. I've been told that, I acts as if I don't have any parents and never bring them up. I recognize that their are advances to having a good relationship with your family and it's not like we are fighting, or rather we never fight ever. We simply don't care enough. Generally when we do meet, which I intend to do so this christmas we small talk a little and that's about it. If I ask for advice they generally just brush it away with something like "i'm sure you'll figure it out". Something I brought with me from my childhood was "It's better not to say anything", as most of the time I'll regret it. What's your take on this, is your relationship to your family important? How would you go about improving it?

@Alex14 Tried explaining how you feel about this whole thing with your parents? Maybe they can be convinced? I would also go for dates one on one. Get to know each other, you don't need to rush anything but you can't take 3 months to make a move either. Study-related stuff is ok at first unless she is very motivated with her studies. I would try some other things perhaps a visit to a café? On the other hand don't spend too much time together, this is a classic mistake young guys make.