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I don't believe you can really brute force it. It should come naturally. Is it really worth it if it's a constant struggle and you have to use all your willpower everyday to do it ? Also it's recommended to have sex from time to time not to get your prostate inflammed as the other poor guy

@Ricksta Usually you wanna do that because you want her to validate the fact that you have changed or you want to get a second chance to get her or even you want to comeback at the past to prove yourself you can do it and that way forget the bad emotions related to it.

That actually could be really nice !

Hey ! I'm wondering how to select a good coffee and also how to make (and in which proportions) a nice bulletproof coffee you could consume daily ? What about the MTC oil, the coconut oil and the grass-fed butter ? What are your experiences with this ?

It's been an entire month without sugar and I don't miss it anymore. I only eat healthy, almost perfectly healthy. The most not healthy thing I ate was a bit of mayonnaise. Leo's video about awareness being curative helped a lot !

I generaly find people boring and uninteresting (or even sometimes simply retarded) and at my age ( 22) people's interests are mainly drinking, smoking and partying. If they are not interested in those pleasures they are ecological vegan hippies socialists ( My ego finds this hilarious) and I can't relate to them at all. Playing video games with peoples/friends has also been out of the window because I view it as a waste of time for now. While it's the main activity of ...millions of human beings ! Aside from that they may be inner reasons why I massively discard all the people so I'm looking for advice on this matter. Please note that being able to relate to someone doesn't guarantee you will be great friends. Any tips ?

@vizual Thank you very much. I will inquire into that. There is almost nothing I want in a person - it's actually kinda weird - My ego would feel inferior if they were to have too much qualities, but wouldn't talk to them if they were too " bad" . Sigh. @Anna I will think about why I'm judging every little once of every person I meet and then we'll see. I believe things will get better. It does seem like a internal problem overall.

Well from some point of view it is : you're gonna pursue it thinking it's gonna make you happy. And since you can never achieve happiness this way you're lost. But once you realize there is no you to be happy and you will be in a state of eternal bliss - and whatever the mind or the body doesn't doesn't matter. You can still enjoy the things of this world. But No thing is essential or can provide your happiness - including a mind concept of ahealthy relationship or whathever else.

@Wintfa11 You do it ANYWAY, no matter how you feel ! If you really feel indiference doing it or not shouldn't be a big deal and you should be able to do it easily

@Wintfa11 It only means your mind is blocking off the fear and you rationalize it as indifference. Why would you be indifferent ? You're trying to meet her then, you're like oh no why let's not do this...it's just your mind tricking you !

@Matthew Lamot You mentionned advaita in some other topic, and also with what you've just said, what books/sources would you recommend ?

@Epiphany_Inspired Thank you for the high quality of your answer ! I believe I view attractiveness as a form of status, and people who aren't high status enough for my ego - well I don't want them as my friends x) I will probably move out of this limiting belief once I've had quite a lot of sexual experiences and really do understand what I appreciate in a women. I just didn't get to know enough of them to understand what I really like - hence I believe I can't make the difference between a partner and a friend. ALSO, having sex as friends is a great options and I hope SOMEDAY this becomes a standard ! Any additionnal advice appreciated

@Azrael Could you give some insight into how you "achieved" that state ?

10/10 One of the best books ever !

Wait. Are basically saying that personnality is innate and comes before the ego ? Is it like like the natural expression of consciousness that shines trough the form ( diamond = and diamond being of different shapes meaning that personnalities are different) , but not a series of thoughts and mental stuctures/feeling ? A video on authenticity would be really helpful.

He said many times : it's up to you, and it doesn't matter.

@Cuzzo That only means you've been faking positivity to try to geet some result - it's like the beggar on the street trying to be nice and then once you don't give him any money he starts to insult you and you're very gland you never gave him any money It's gonna be harsh and it's normal, you have to persist trough it. Also, go to therapy. Best of luck !

So true. No one is going to miss you and most likely even be glad that you're not creeping out girls anymore to be totally honest

@Emerald Wilkins I guess that would be an additional challenge

First being friends and trying to make it romantic after is a nice thing in theory but practice of millions of man has showed it doesn't work that way. Meaningful connection happens for ... strange reasons, but one of my best love stories was a girl I met on the street I'm not focusing on male inequality, because inequality happens only on a personnal level, because inequality is percieved powerlessness in another form. Would it suck ? Most likely yes. Because if you will find her attractive well you would want some sexual developpement, and if she's not attractive she isn't interesting to talk to, hence it's never a win win situation. I will actually start a whole topic on this because I find this interesting. Overall as its often said women often lack self-awareness on what actually attracts them and I tend to find this very true. (Pick-up is not robotic or insincere or creepy in any way, but most of people are indeed).

Well, as the custom goes : There is no self to love - because you are love - even if you are not love , it can be said that its one of "your" "true" "attributes" of who you are. If you want your form identity to love itself more read Teal Swan's book shadows before dawn. It's the best one I can recommend for that

I can see how this could work but also I'm unusually sceptic for this one precisly because it sounds a bit too good to be true. I read for instance that you should not skip breakfast because not having food puts your body into the saving energy mode which will stockpile fat, => counterproductive in the end.

@Ross Woah. Relax. Your ego is massively freaking out for some reason. You cannot possibly blame a source of information for your actions, do you ? While something might be recommended to you it doesn't mean you HAVE to do it. Your actions remain your actions no matter what. Unless you actually tried to rape her or really overdid it she will most likely forget about it or simply label you as a uncool guy and you'll be amongst the last 300 guys who approached her. Stating that talking to someone who is slightly intoxicated is moraly wrong is simply hilarious. Rsd are banned in saudi arabia and countries under sharia law, because girl cannot legaly have sex or flirt without marriage. On what to do : Relaxing - going on rsd forums to blame them and get maybe some constructive feedback - learn why girls I talk to find me rapey - how to stop freaking out - watch leo's video on morality Honestly this kind of advice might simply not be your piece of cake, hence if you don't find it productive for you simply ignore it and move on! Best of luck !

I have been studying the dating scene for almost 6 years now, and practicing what is called "cold approach" pickup for a year now with really great results. People in the self-help community are generally not really aware of how this whole thing works, and with the media's bad view of pickup (Black magic and so on) it can be a really confusing question. Feel free to ask any questions to get my personnal perspective. I will always explain the reasoning behind my anwser so that there is ground for debate. This is meant to be a value offering post and I hope will contribue to the actualized.org community.

@Roland You're welcome ! Hope it went well