UnbornTao

Framing this discussion in terms of dating is myopic, in my view. You might not be an introvert even if your self-image is consistent with that behavior. Dig it. I'm trying to point out the possibility that you might not be yourself. Therefore, you could behave in any way that is effective in interaction without thinking that it is you. It boils down to knowing yourself at all levels, metaphysically and personality-wise. Is an actor who plays a role being himself? I'm saying that how we show up to the world is through a character, and that it is existentially unreal.

@undeather @undeather Fair points

@undeather You can tell where someone is coming from just by listening and paying attention to their communication. You could use the same logic with dictators, or ruthless liars. Sounds like nonsense, but intuition may play a role in assessing what someone's like. It's intelligent and holistic. Not perfect though. Would you need to know the life of a X (ruthless manipulator, etc) before deciding whether to relate or listen to them? In your experience, for example, you already make decisions of this kind when it comes to who to socialize with, among many others.

Interesting question to contemplate on your own. Don't limit it to the context of dating, or even relationships. I think this issue is about the principle of authenticity. What does it mean to be oneself? In your experience, there are times when you assess you haven't been authentic. Why? What have you done that didn't arise naturally in you? Etc. It's not acting out every impulse that arises in you.

Society, which includes culture, is lived as an objective reality, something existing out there independent of, and separate from, us, as if it were a hidden "third person," object, or realm operating on its own. But it is an activity.

Where is pain to be found? Try to locate it.

I'd say there's study, contemplation and practice. All three together can be called inquiry or research. @Leo Gura Study gives you the fertile ground for contemplation.

Show me a mind.

Really easy and comfortable to fall into that model, especially for "spiritual" people. I'd try to listen to the individual and his communications while taking the model lightly. Great guy imo. Intelligent and authentic from what I've gleaned from his books and talks. Also you might be confusing using the same words with talking about the same things. Don't readily assume that teachers who use similar words are talking about the same thing.

That question stems from your curiosity. Wonder and want to know. Identify your assumptions and beliefs as such. That will open up the door.

It's a film guys. Don't fantasize about watching TV increasing your consciousness.

I’d appreciate book recommendations on the following principles: authenticity integrity responsibility courage unconditional happiness openness

Have you got any experience with Vipassana? What resources have you found most helpful in your journey? I'm currently reading a straightforward, grounded and inspiring book called The Art of Living. Loving it.

Secure. Got a bit surprised by that.

"Among the great things which are to be found among us, the Being of Nothingness is the greatest." -- Leonardo Da Vinci.

What about a koan? Mu! There you go.

Those books are precisely his verbal teachings. The person and the teacher are different. You might be idealizing the teacher role. They are persons too. They can still do stupid things even though that image may interfere with your ideal of what teachers should be and behave like. Their actions don't detract them from knowing what they are.

That is not what I'm saying. You're confusing the person with his communications, which may have merit regardless. Read the books and ignore the author. I didn't even know his personal details, nor do I really care.

How do discovery and invention differ?

@Danioover9000 you sound really emotionally invested in this character, and upset for whatever reason. Dropping these kind of things can be useful.

How you speak, and the language you employ, reveals the way you think and experience things.

@Salvijus OK, fair enough. I can see where you're coming from. Math is a discovery created by humans. Appreciate it.

Isn't this basically falling into the trap of confusing the model for reality?

Where?