Dan Arnautu

"If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world" - Quote from J.R.R. Tolkien's work

@DaveB I've dealt with this problem for a long time and found the perfect tried and tested method to get out of this type of rut. Dedicate three months to learning a freelancing skill that you enjoy (and can leverage into your new career) (three months is all the time you need to get proficient enough at a skill to be able to make 40$/hour) Sign up to freelancing websites Create a good portfolio and learn to write amazing job proposals Find a few long term clients you can work with and earn a full time income on a flexible schedule and part time work hours Dedicate the remaining time in your schedule (which is a lot of time) to practicing your real craft and building a full time income on that Transition slowly from freelancing to your craft Enjoy making a living doing what you love most Ta-da!

@Ampresus Buy the LP course, stay at home for 1 year and then proceed accordingly. Don't figure yourself out while in a study program that you don't even really know you want to pursue on a shitload of money. It's unfair both for you and your parents. Even if you do decide to go to college afterwards (which imo is the biggest waste of time and money as all the info you learn is gonna be obsolete given how fast the market is morphing right now), you can do it after 1 year of solid contemplation and introspection so you can go at it 200%.

It largely depends on your values. If you value connection, love and intimacy more than excellence at a craft or impact on the world, be grateful that you found that out. It's not a small thing. For me personally, I value personal growth + art/beauty + impact/helping others more than intimacy and love, but that's just my unique configuration (and it might change in the future). You have yours. Most importantly, don't feel like you HAVE to put impact on the world first. You're on your own unique journey and guilting doesn't make the path better. Instead, use the value of love and connection to empower your LP. Brainstorm ways to do that. You can create and lead a community. Although, I'll add a little caveat. Women are most attracted to men who are on their purpose, men who penetrate the world with their energy, take what they want and lead to the holy grail (and that are willing to drop the woman in their life for that). David Deida has a chapter on this in 'The Way of The Superior Man' (something like 'Women never want to be the center of your life'). If you make a woman the center of your life, you are gonna drive her away.

@AceTrainerGreen Thank you for the high quality analysis and compilation. Much appreciated.

@Hellspeed Thank you for the info, bro.

The types of thoughts you have are usually linked to the emotion you experience in the moment. If you feel fear, you are gonna have fearful thoughts, if you are angry, you are gonna have either thoughts to destroy or create something and so on. Be mindful of the feelings, release them, and then see how the thoughts change. Each feeling has a certain frequency, and thus your thoughts also tune to the frequency of the emotion.

@NJF What I would do in your place is the following: I would find a really successful DJ and shadow him for a day or ask him a lot of questions about the life of a DJ and about my concerns. That way, I would know if it would fit with my strengths, values, goals, life circumstance etc. Another way is to make small bets (which is covered in the LP course) to see if you would really love to do music more than what you are doing as a pro athlete. Secondly, I wouldn't quit the job because it has way too much momentum and maybe your music skills aren't developed enough yet to be able to afford the leap. I would instead slowly find a way to transition from the current job to music with zero friction. But, if you want to make a drastic decision, do so at your own peril. In my experience, it almost never works out. Although, this especially applies to artists, because there is no way you are gonna put out quality music or content if you are gonna be worried about money and your family. @Michael569's advice is also solid.

@Michael569 I agree.

@FredFred Given that LP takes decades to actualize, keep in mind that if you are young you will have a tasting/testing phase. You don't really know what you will like until you try it and give it a fair shot. That might mean that you give, 1-2 years pursuing each of the three options. If you find out after 6 years that none are quite the perfect fit, time was not lost, because skills are very transferable between domains. And, remember that you need to figure your life purpose only once. So if it takes 20 years just to find it, it's ok because after that you can go full laser focus on it and you will be like a race care between bicycles, because you are 200% clear on your purpose while others are constantly doubting themselves and will probably just keep doing that. I'll give you a personal analogy. My LP vehicle is music. I gave a somewhat fair shot to philosophy for 3 years (I have an undergraduate degree), and then I saw that most academics live miserable lives. That made me 100% clear that I don't want to be a researcher, or an academic professor, or anything else similar. But I can integrate skills acquired through that degree (reading, writing, dissecting and connecting ideas, looking at things from different points of view, teaching, debating) into educating musicians, creating content for musicians, writing books, teaching, coaching and mentoring 1 on 1 and in groups, podcasting etc. I was also very passionate about life coaching and fitness. Through honest self-reflection, I eventually eliminated those too, because music goes much better with my values, natural strengths, goals, and background. I also don't want anything to do with math, agriculture, investing, finances etc, so those were also easily eliminated. Through this process of elimination and constant reassessment, you eventually remain with your LP. So, don't get discouraged, you are just early in the process. Confusion should be expected and embraced while you are going through this.

I don't know if it's wise to open mega threads for every single video. They might drown out the new topics that posters need help with. If it goes on like this, the 1st page of every subforum will have only mega threads.

@LessonsSavesLifes Most of the pickup community is toxic, even that of RSD. Just because the instructors can be green, it doesn't mean that the audience will reflect that. More than 95% of the pickup community is not that interested in personal development, but rather in getting pussy through short-term fixes.

@benny 1 day per week is fine with me.

@Azote Alex Gray is a technical master and also a spiral wizard. Becoming a master in a technical skill and a leader at the same time is not at odds with each other. You can do both. I'm on my path to mastering music, but I'm also working on a project/business that is gonna guide musicians to create more conscious music that elevates human culture. I'm also gonna educate and help musicians grow as people because I often see that they have severe imbalances in their life from doing the all-in approach on their craft, and thus neglecting business, health, emotional mastery, people skills, mindfulness etc.

Representing emotions through sound. Found it through a combination of self-awareness, values alignment, natural strengths and personality type.

@daniel695 I think he's self-aware enough that he doesn't need the assessment to tell him. Plus, he studied the spiral dynamics model very extensively at this point.

@LessonsSavesLifes Denton is one of the most conscious PUA's you will find out there, honestly. Actually, I think he is much more green than you may have seen at first glance. If you watch more of his videos, you're gonna sense the way he thinks about women now, and it's pretty refreshing imo. Definitely an industry disruptor together with Todd Valentine.

@Sahil Pandit No. I just wanted to share the resource. @Rilles I wouldn't buy it unless I would have enough income to assume the risk of it not being valuable at all. I don't know if it's worth it. But it's made by a researcher who dedicated his life to Spiral Dynamics, so that should amount to something, I guess.

I too was very reluctant of RSD products. I know them all at this point. Some of them are a waste and others are real gems (at least imo) . I'm trying to not close myself from any avenue of potential learning, so I try not to judge a product, service or teaching until I put it to the test. I think that if you make up your mind with some of these products beforehand, you might be missing some real value in the long run.

Wasting money is subjective. If it's the wrong program or if the buyer doesn't take action, it surely won't work. Also, my relationships have never been more authentic since I went through multiple RSD products. Have you gone through any one of them?

Everything seems to combine nicely, from the theme to the lyrics, to the fractal type video looping into itself. Lyrics: "When I leave this skin and bone Beyond my final heartbeat I’ll dismantle piece by piece And I will know that death is not defeat Holding on tight to what’s left of our time We’ve hidden away But it’s in the design Why do we fight what we can’t define? Don’t be afraid, we all cross the same line Into the night we burn and rage In death we repay for time on this stage The lights are bright but don’t lose your way ‘Cause once it ignites The flame must decay Now you’re finally complete I will see you where oceans meet Past and present merge Light and dark will converge Time will overthrow our reign on this throne The everlasting sleep Returning through the veil Far beneath the deep Another soul sets sail" Even if you don't listen to rock or metal music, I think it's good to see that this is out there if you're studying spirituality and spiral dynamics.

Do an RSD bootcamp. One with Todd Valentine or Denton Fisher is also an option. If you don't have the money for that, buy The Sytem by Todd.

@traveler Just go through with it and continue your path.

@Simke Books that address the current challenges you face definitely have priority.