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It doesnt matter why you are needy. You can grab the needyness by the balls in two simple ways: 1. Releasing. That means to feel and accept emotions that arise from need for validation, security and perfection to the fullest. After you felt the abyss of being totally rejected, vulnerable and not in control many many times you will be free. 2. Try to change external circumstances so that you get what you crave to realise that it doesnt really make you happy. After that realisation you are free. Just dont be a fool and get tricked by the next shiny thing. For the first way look up sedona method.

Can you tell me more about your experience with having lucid dreams while awake? Sounds interesting!

See how you create all this. You give that girl at the gym or your dating life in general to much importance/meaning. Because its so meaningful to you, you become needy. Then you decide because you dont have that, you want to be unhappy.

I can confirm it is the turquoise video. But at some point Leo says turquoise instead of yellow and vice versa. Because he is a very vain he deleted the video. Or so I think

Id advise you first work on yourself more before taking drugs again. Look up the sedona method. Do the work. You will face your emotions/fear. You will finally feel completely rejected and completely wrong. Your body will shake from intense emotions. And you will accept that. And you will see that you can be absolutely ok with that. And your problems will be gone. Dont need psychedelics for that.

"True" is also a concept. All there is is pure isness now. Which of course is also a concept. But you can very easily experience it for yourself.

Thats the same as asking "What do I need to do to properly value money, and why should I?" If you dont feel its important to you then you dont value it. Simple as that. You will know when you value something, you will feel it. And you are the only one who can really say how you want to act out that value. Its like cooking. You can listen to people talk about cooking, read about it and watch a video about cooking. But you still need to get the ingredients and mix them all together in your kitchen with your own hands. No one else can do it for you. And you will have a unique style on how you do it. You can ask around for how others do it and get some ideas that may inspire you but you still have to do the cooking yourself.

why are you sharing this with us?

I have a similar backstory. What I can recommend is see what the situation made you feel. Go back to that very moment she rejected you and welcome all the feelings that come up. What did it made you feel. Maybe it made you feel unloved, unworthy or something like that. Can you accept that feeling? Do that for a couple of minutes and then visualize a change, let love and worthiness wash all through your body. You made a choice back than to feel that. You dont need that (love, validation... ) from anyone as you can give yourself all the love you want! Make a choice today to give it to you. Its just a choice really. Look up the Sedona Method. Maybe find an experienced mental coach in your area who goes with you through this process.

Tell me whats bad about manipulation? Why do you need people to be truthful and honest? Can you let go of that need? In the end you cant change the outside. Your are the only variable you can change.

You just approach, dont take it to serious. Life is not serious. Life is easy. And especially in university people want to have fun. I mean talk to people, see if you like them, if you think so, ask them to join you for a coffee, going to a party, learning for class, etc. Maybe they go maybe they dont. Also DONT BE AFRAID OF GETTING A REPUTATION. I mean people think all kind of shit. You dont want to rely on what others think about you. Dont be a dick to girls either. Dont try to talk them down in order to fall in love with you. Just be nice. If you want to experiment with the asshole/badboy vibe maybe do it somewhere else. If you really want to nail this, you not only approach on campus. You do it everywhere and so you always have people to hang around. But most important just have fun. If in doubt, do what you like. Thats what matters. If you want to be a total dick to this blonde next to you in class DO IT! Hey she might not take it well but at least you did what you wanted to do and YOU DIDNT BREAK YOU HEAD thinking over what OTHERS might think/do or whatever. You are not afraid. You are authentic.

Value is the thing that you want to become really good at. And then make it visible to the public. Could be a skill. Could be a product. A lot of jobs are created by just providing value and then *poof* you got a job. For example the early youtubers. Be creative. @flowboy Even though I dont believe the inflation rates will be that high in the upcoming years you still got a good point. Its also true that money has the potential to generate a lot of money. Thats how it works.

A neurosis will make your life miserable Did you see this video? Towards the end there are good tips on how to get rid of it.

I dont know if I would confront him. He seems to value adventure. Maybe you can find others ways for him or you two that can make him live up to his value without a bike.

Great now make it specific. What will be your vehicle, what will be your medium for your life purpose. Maybe its already right in front of you, maybe you have to research new ways, maybe both.

usually go to bed 3-4am and wake up 12 noon depending on work and... life

That sounds a bit neurotic to me

This guy has a technique you might be interested in https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ui7h8CTSD_8 Someone shared the video here recently, I dont know if it really works!

Interesting question. To me it would be something like recognizing and feeling your feelings in your body. Because in some cases we might not even be aware of or acknowledge our emotions. Learn to feel them fully. Understand why they are there. And then learn to let them go. For example you might be home alone and hear the sound of your front door open, you get scared. You dont repress that fear, instead you feel it and understand that you feel unsafe because there might be someone in your home. Let the fear go. If you encounter someone in your home you wont be surprised now. Or you see a girl you like and you want to approach her. You get scared. You dont repress that fear, you feel into it and see that you are afraid you wont get any validation from her. You accept that and let the fear go. Now you go and talk to her. Maybe she rejects you or you spend a good time together. Some people dont understand what their emotions are telling them. Mostly because they dont listen to them. Even more people try to suppress their emotions, which makes them become stronger. When an emotion is very strong it can overwhelm you. Strong emotions that build up over time or that might be linked to previously felt emotions you havent dealt with yet need to be felt longer which requires time and focus. Emotional mastery has 2 effects. First, emotions wont build up because you are open and willing to feel them as soon as they arise. Second, emotions will flow through you quickly because you learn how to accept and understand them. You will see in the beginning it might be hard to work on your emotions. And it might take you several months to fully feel an emotion that has build up over time. When you have mastered your emotions you will notice that the speed changes and you can do it very quickly. This is true inner growth.

You are right. That doesnt make any sense. These relationships are not going to be healthy. When two people meet who already feel full and complete, thats when we can talk about a real relationship. You identify a lot with your thoughts?

Let go of the need to be liked and accept when they dont like you.

Good question, see how you feel when you ask yourself this question. How is the experience? Sounds like there is a part in you that you dont want to accept.

Accept it, welcome it. How does it feel. Can you welcome the feeling of not getting any validation anymore? Really feel it. Imagine the worst case szenario. Al your tinder contacts will ghost you forever. Never answer to you anymore. Can you accept that? Just think about it. The problem is not the things you are feeling. The problem is your resistance to it. Then ask yourself, if you can give yourself love and acceptance. Then give yourself a little more and a little more and even more. See how much you can give yourself. When you reach the endpoint, when you say you cant give yourself any more love and acceptance. Be curious. Why is that? What hinders you? And accept that as well. Repeat.

There are rich people out there who get no woman. On the other hand there are jobless guys who swim in girls. Its a factor but its not essential. The essential factor is confidence. Redpill bluepill is limiting your beliefs. The way you think about people has a huge influence on how your relationship goes with them. So think twice if you want to adopt those kind of beliefs and what that will do to your relationships.